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And sorry to be only getting to this every other day or so. I thought that because I am sitting around so much after surgery, that I would have time. But it takes both time and not being in so much pain that I don’t want to deal with it. As I start trying to walk again, I find I am in more pain tha...

In my lifetime, the boundaries of the individual states have not changed. Though, the relations and terms by which states interact has changed. I get your point, though I am not convinced that "boundaries" is even close to an appropriate metaphor. Asking a child to be the parent has nothing whatsoev...

The church would most likely come out against anything that legally required women to be treated equally. They have a habit of opposing rights being given to any group they personally discriminate against. In spite of religious freedom declaring that religions have perfect freedom to discriminate a...

A TBM might say, "The Spirit told me it's all true. That's as good as remembering being with God." Interesting how this can be a way to give added weight to a spiritual witness. For example, saying that a spiritual witness is better than a vision because it can't be explained away, or that seeing G...

Biden gonna ask someone to hoard his beerver and watch him sign this: Feb 5, 2024 WASHINGTON, D.C. — In a landmark compromise between Democrats and Republicans, the Senate is set to vote on a new anti-murder bill that will limit the allowed murders to only 5,000 per day. The bill will also send $60 ...

Is there something about the word "boundaries" or the way people use it that bugs some people? Yes. I have already responded to your post but I wanted to explore this piece a bit further. I asked a therapist about your question. I asked if a person came into their practice who was hungry, desperate...

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So, in the best case scenario, some get the witness, and the others just have to trust them.

Exactly like every other religion. Might as well start paying tithing to some of them too, just in case.

Also country clubs and gym memberships.

I personally feel we have boundaries. The old "Your right to swing your fist stops where my face begins" bears that out. Is there something about the word "boundaries" or the way people use it that bugs some people? I'm remembering the grade school mantra about sticks and stones. Words can hurt and...

Boundaries means I make rules for how you get to treat me if you want to be in a relationship with me. I don’t get to tell you how you treat your wife. Not my boundary to draw. No. Yes. No I mean yes I mean no. Boundaries means boundaries. What you are describing is a set of conditions or terms. Th...

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I have a question. First a rant. But also a question. I like that we are clearly splitting communication into parts. While we use the word and concept of a trigger, we are not doing so without explaining that it is an actual event or circumstance that is separate and unique from our emotion or react...

Reactions are real. They are also independent of the factss which are also real. The trigger is not the reaction. Though, reactions can be triggering.

The system is broken. We seem to have a consensus.

there is a great story on not ruminating on past pain - knowing to drop the feelings - when the fight is over, let it be over, reliving it, emotional pain does nothing to help. "This pain isn't real", nothing is currently wrong, I don't need to be triggered right now etc. I've learned to pull mysel...

Great Stuff!!!! Indeed you are correct that I am breaking the process into parts. I want to look at your distinct breakdown in more detail. I think we agree on the trigger piece, though, I do enjoy talking more about that if we find that there are some differences in how we view triggers. I think th...

Feelings are a road sign. I disagree - but please hear me out. Like physical pain they tell you about a problem, then you have to figure out the problem, then figure out a way to fix the problem. Feelings are not magical, and sometimes people spend too much time worrying about the feelings and neve...

Hey, your feelings were not lies, just based on incorrect information. So, rather than distrusting your feelings, just keep searching for the best most accurate information. They were lies: Everything I felt good about, feelings of trust, feelings of comfort, love, safety - that "warm fuzzy" holy s...

Reminds me of the Mehrabian Study in the 70s, Alas. When communicating emotionality, it's what... 52% body language, 47% tone, and 7% the actual words? I'm sure I have the percentages off slightly, but that's the gist. This study has been misunderstood quite a bit, but is particularly applicable to...

Sorry. "Lay off" meant talking crap about E. Jean Carroll. The amount of money needed to be big enough to get Trump's attention. Shut-up or pay-up. Trump has not not talked negatively about her since the trial ended, yesterday. Maybe he finally learned something. Time will tell. That's what I was t...

Hey, your feelings were not lies, just based on incorrect information. So, rather than distrusting your feelings, just keep searching for the best most accurate information. I agree with this - a lot. Triggers >>>>>> Reactions and feelings. But, when we just look at the trigger as nothing but infor...