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by desertrat
Tue Oct 03, 2017 9:39 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: My NOMiversary, and an update
Replies: 6
Views: 3664

Re: My NOMiversary, and an update

Thank you all for the kind words! To respond to 2bizE's questions: How have your kids transitioned with you drinking now? I'm sure they were brainwashed in primary, like everyone else, how only really horrible people drink alcohol. My oldest was a little concerned about it at first, but I talked to ...
by desertrat
Tue Oct 03, 2017 2:15 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: My NOMiversary, and an update
Replies: 6
Views: 3664

My NOMiversary, and an update

Hi NOMies, It has been a long time since I posted, or if I'm going to be honest, checked in with NOM. Next month I will celebrate (okay, I'll probably forget), my two year NOMiversary. On 11/4/2015, with my hands shaking, in incognito mode, I clicked the button to register on the old site. That was ...
by desertrat
Thu May 25, 2017 6:00 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: William James on spirituality, revelation, heresy and orthodoxy
Replies: 1
Views: 1407

William James on spirituality, revelation, heresy and orthodoxy

I've been listening to "Under the Banner of Heaven", which maybe will be a topic of another post, but he frequently quotes from "The Varieties of Religious Experience" by William James. There was a quote that I heard today that for me was a perfect summary on the evolution of religions: "A genuine f...
by desertrat
Tue May 16, 2017 12:08 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: MIL: Sherri Dew says you're lazy and just want to sin
Replies: 27
Views: 18671

Re: MIL: Sherri Dew says you're lazy and just want to sin

Thank you all for reading my venting. You all help me remember that I'm not the crazy one...at least not on this issue. Sorry, but here is my final response to Sister Dew. I'm wrestling with the temptation to send this to MIL or FB or something, but instead I'll just ask you to indulge me in one mor...
by desertrat
Mon May 15, 2017 9:27 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: MIL: Sherri Dew says you're lazy and just want to sin
Replies: 27
Views: 18671

MIL: Sherri Dew says you're lazy and just want to sin

DW came out to her parents about her/our disbelief and inactivity in the church a few months ago. While visiting them recently my MIL asked if DW would be open to her sharing a particularly good Sheri Dew article with her. She said it was all about why so many people were leaving the church. I knew ...
by desertrat
Thu May 04, 2017 4:23 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: We are relieving you of being a Visiting Teacher
Replies: 23
Views: 13772

Re: We are relieving you of being a Visiting Teacher

Sorry they are treating you that way :x . People and institutions who are confident don't act that way; people and institutions who are fragile and scared do. However, just to show that the Bible can be used to justify anything you want, and that the New Testament isn't all about hippy Jesus love, t...
by desertrat
Thu May 04, 2017 1:05 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Why shouldn't I resign?
Replies: 20
Views: 14257

Re: Why shouldn't I resign?

Thank you all for taking the time to offer your thoughts. I enjoy the diversity of perspectives you all brought. I've been thinking it over seriously for several weeks now and I just submitted it to QuitMormon.org. As GoodBoy said, I'm ready to move on and I can't see myself ever regretting it. If s...
by desertrat
Thu May 04, 2017 12:48 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Lightning Survey: Before the 2014 Plural Marriage Essay, did you know that Joseph Smith practiced it HIMSELF?
Replies: 48
Views: 20491

Re: Lightning Survey: Before the 2014 Plural Marriage Essay, did you know that Joseph Smith practiced it HIMSELF?

I've always had some vague idea that he practiced it, but that is was something like taking care of the widows. Somewhere around 2005 I had an institute teacher that had the integrity to teach nearly all of the unpleasant and not-talked-about aspects of church history. I hold that man in such high e...
by desertrat
Tue May 02, 2017 9:53 pm
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Boy Howdy!
Replies: 13
Views: 12899

Re: Boy Howdy!

Welcome! Nice to have a mental health professional on board. I look forward to hearing more of your story.
by desertrat
Tue May 02, 2017 9:06 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Can you please answer this question?
Replies: 43
Views: 18733

Re: Can you please answer this question?

Welcome. I have not been active for about a year and a half and am now considering officially resigning. My temple reccomend expired last June. Before that I have always had a recommend and toed the line since I recieved my endowment at 19. Served a mission. Went to college for way too long and took...
by desertrat
Tue May 02, 2017 8:55 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Anyone else catch Bill Reel's podcast last night before it disappeared?
Replies: 5
Views: 3446

Re: Anyone else catch Bill Reel's podcast last night before it disappeared?

I just looked this afternoon after seeing your post and I was able to download it from my PocketCasts app. I really feel for Bill. I can hear the pain, frustration, and sincerity in his voice. He has stuck it out much longer than I was able to. People like them would really make the church a better ...
by desertrat
Tue May 02, 2017 3:59 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Why shouldn't I resign?
Replies: 20
Views: 14257

Why shouldn't I resign?

I've posted on here and the previous forum from time-to-time, but have not been very active here lately. Life's busy and my interest in all things Mormon has been on a serious decline lately. For a quick update, after a long and lonely transition (for which NOM was a life-saver) we moved out of Utah...
by desertrat
Thu Apr 06, 2017 10:20 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Fishing for a companion
Replies: 21
Views: 14860

Re: Fishing for a companion

General Nuisance wrote:
Wed Apr 05, 2017 10:51 pm
Yes, 32 months..4 MPs. As I said long story...
Was this part of the polygamist French missionary debacle I've heard about?
by desertrat
Thu Apr 06, 2017 10:16 am
Forum: Support
Topic: What mission did you serve in
Replies: 83
Views: 48606

Re: What mission did you serve in

Portugal, Lisbon North. The North and South missions were combined while I was there.
by desertrat
Fri Mar 31, 2017 4:54 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: How to do you feel about your mission now?
Replies: 15
Views: 7861

How to do you feel about your mission now?

A few weeks ago my wife and I had a really good conversation with my TBM father in law about our leaving the church. He was very kind and understanding, which was great. He said something about how he appreciates that we seem to have a lot less anger towards the church than some other family members...
by desertrat
Fri Mar 31, 2017 4:21 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Making giant strides
Replies: 5
Views: 3165

Re: Making giant strides

About a year ago I was feeling very alone and depressed and visited with a counselor (who turned out to be LDS, but still very helpful and validating). She told me that it is understandable that I would be feeling depressed if I could not be authentic with my family and friends. The LDS culture I ex...
by desertrat
Tue Mar 07, 2017 8:45 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Favorite IOT Smackdown
Replies: 4
Views: 2944

Re: Favorite IOT Smackdown

Not really a smack down but the Lowery Nelson episode us pure gold. One of the last ones that Benji Schwimmer did was powerful.
by desertrat
Sat Mar 04, 2017 11:44 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Anabaptist podcast
Replies: 2
Views: 1807

Re: Anabaptist podcast

I can't remember how far on in my journey it was that I listened to that (pretty far, I think), but I remember being amazed at the disturbing parallels. Very insightful listening!
by desertrat
Thu Nov 24, 2016 11:40 pm
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: Early LDS persecution
Replies: 8
Views: 5062

Re: Early LDS persecution

The Lord's prophets have always been persecuted because the wicked take the truth to be hard. It is a sign of the divinity of the work! :) TBM whisperer out.
by desertrat
Thu Nov 24, 2016 10:04 am
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: Grooming minds
Replies: 10
Views: 5554

Re: Grooming minds

I agree with you, MalcomVillager, my kids were my bggest concern. Upon learning the real church history I felt betrayed by the church, but not by my family, my local church leaders, seminary teachers, etc. because at the time they would have had no way of knowing themselves. My kids, however, would ...