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by MerrieMiss
Thu Jan 23, 2020 3:25 pm
Forum: The Coffee Shop
Topic: Offloading
Replies: 12
Views: 275

Re: Offloading

I know this isn’t the answer to your question, but I’ll put this here in case it can help someone else with this or something similar.

Sometimes sunk costs are sunk costs, and the thing that benefits us most is to get rid of it and move on.
by MerrieMiss
Tue Jan 21, 2020 6:19 pm
Forum: The Coffee Shop
Topic: What are you reading right now?
Replies: 23
Views: 948

Re: What are you reading right now?

Books finished recently: The Year of Magical Thinking (Joan Didion) Gift from the Sea (Anne Morrow Lindbergh) – the book has held up surprisingly well for being 60+ years old Permanent Record (Edward Snowden) We Need to Talk about Kevin (Lionel Shriver) I Miss you When I Blink (Mary Laura Philpott)
by MerrieMiss
Mon Oct 28, 2019 5:36 pm
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: Tithing settlement
Replies: 47
Views: 2063

Re: Tithing settlement

My husband's salary is partially paid with stock, so we paid for years in stock which is 100% confidential. We told the bishop that last year when he asked about the $0 on our tithing statement (and we didn't pay anything last year). He said that a lot of people pay that way. Maybe. Or maybe they do...
by MerrieMiss
Sat Oct 26, 2019 9:23 am
Forum: Support
Topic: What if....
Replies: 19
Views: 846

Re: What if....

Something I find interesting. In the last conference Christofferson said: I haven’t met anyone who found the gospel later in life who didn’t wish it could have been earlier. “Oh, the poor choices and mistakes I could have avoided,” they will say. To the contrary, this thread and a lot of stories I ...
by MerrieMiss
Tue Oct 22, 2019 5:03 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Does your spouse know you post on NOM?
Replies: 29
Views: 1501

Re: Does your spouse know you post on NOM?

I don't think he knows I post on NOM. If he does, he's keeping very quiet about it. Although it's a public space and never truly anonymous, I've felt able to post things here that are more personal than I would ever say to most people in real life. After I told my husband I no longer believed earlie...
by MerrieMiss
Mon Oct 07, 2019 11:12 am
Forum: Support
Topic: New TR question
Replies: 47
Views: 2014

Re: New TR question

I can hear the testimonies now: We have been prepared for this day! The focus on observant sabbath worship in the past few years proves that the Lord's servants have been preparing us! We are living a higher law! Gross. And now the weirdos who post pictures of church attendance on their vacation to ...
by MerrieMiss
Mon Oct 07, 2019 11:06 am
Forum: Support
Topic: New TR question
Replies: 47
Views: 2014

Re: New TR question

In all seriousness, does anybody really honestly discuss with the bishop and answer all these questions in any way other than a yes or no at the right time? They don’t care if you nuance as long as you say the right things! I think it's a personality type. I never did as a believer and I certainly ...
by MerrieMiss
Sun Oct 06, 2019 5:05 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: New TR question
Replies: 47
Views: 2014

New TR question

So until I read Anon70's comment on another thread, I had no idea. (Hooray for not watching conference!) Apparently, Sabbath observance is added to TR questions. Beach. But I had to conference earlier with the DH. And the new recommend question about keeping the sabbath holy is probably gonna come u...
by MerrieMiss
Sun Oct 06, 2019 4:51 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: If you aren't doing conference, what are you doing?
Replies: 15
Views: 604

Re: If you aren't doing conference, what are you doing?

We didn't listen to any of it. We were going to go to the beach, but one of the kids got sick. Instead, husband tore apart the garage and I am helping kids with halloween costumes. Way better than conference, not quite as good as the beach.
by MerrieMiss
Sat Sep 21, 2019 6:43 pm
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: Book: The righteous mind
Replies: 12
Views: 769

Re: Book: The righteous mind

I've enjoyed reading Haidt's work. Of particular interest to me was "Divinity with or without god." . In short, he writes about how we perceive life on two planes, x & y, but there is also the z axis, the spiritual or divine, awe inspiring, uplifting, whatever word you want to use for it that is com...
by MerrieMiss
Sat Sep 21, 2019 6:18 pm
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: Which “group” do you most closely align with?
Replies: 11
Views: 521

Re: Which “group” do you most closely align with?

Had this happened to me way back when, I think I would have joined the religion group because I knew I was supposed to and my identity was entirely wrapped up in it, all while looking longingly at the other groups I could only imagine being a part of. One of the most uncomfortable results of going t...
by MerrieMiss
Thu Aug 29, 2019 8:25 pm
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: What did you really learn from the temple ceremony?
Replies: 59
Views: 2273

Re: What did you really learn from the temple ceremony?

My experience mirrors Anon70’s fairly well. I thought I was the one with the problem and kept coming back to figure it out. I was going to ace this temple thing. The odd thing was that I’d always been very good at memorizing things, but I could never, ever get the words of the temple ceremony right....
by MerrieMiss
Thu Aug 29, 2019 8:13 pm
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: Paul's terrestrial and celestial bodies
Replies: 9
Views: 584

Re: Paul's terrestrial and celestial bodies

Oh, come on! We KNOW the telestial kingdom is the lowest kingdom because that is where the TEA drinkers go! Makes total sense!
by MerrieMiss
Thu Aug 22, 2019 5:14 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Article: "Losing my religion at christian camp"
Replies: 1
Views: 238

Re: Article: "Losing my religion at christian camp"

No, I have none of these feelings towards Girls Camp. I went to camp in three different states, some were better than others, but when I was 16 and had a summer job I was relieved not to go anymore. I never felt like I belonged in YW. I always felt like an outsider in Mormonism, a lot like she was a...
by MerrieMiss
Tue Aug 13, 2019 10:54 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Mass disclosure
Replies: 55
Views: 2521

Re: Mass disclosure

I really feel for you. It’s hard to stay half-in half-out, but it’s also hard to feel like your hand is forced when these situations happen. I’m sorry, and I hope things are going okay for you guys. I can’t imagine the kind of conversation that happens with a child who is a returning missionary. In ...
by MerrieMiss
Mon Jul 29, 2019 4:34 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Mormon Stories - Donna Showalter
Replies: 34
Views: 1307

Re: Mormon Stories - Donna Showalter

I just finished this one today. I don't listen to mormon podcasts much anymore, but I was feeling down this weekend and just needed to know there were others out there. The last episode really captured some of the feelings I have about moving on. Generally speaking, it reminded me of what it was lik...
by MerrieMiss
Tue Jul 16, 2019 12:30 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Yes Men?
Replies: 10
Views: 704

Re: Yes Men?

In the church council I am currently serving on, we are told we can disagree all we want internally. Discuss. Dissect. Disagree. But when we leave the room we need to be a unified team that is consistent in our messaging. It sounds good in theory but I don’t agree with a lot of the decisions made a...
by MerrieMiss
Tue Jul 16, 2019 12:26 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: To tell in-laws or not?
Replies: 16
Views: 654

Re: To tell in-laws or not?

A lot of interesting points of view and ideas here. I should probably clarify, by “telling” them, what I really meant was just being myself and letting them come to whatever conclusions they want to – I’m not really an email the whole family or have a serious conversation with them kind of person. I...
by MerrieMiss
Mon Jul 15, 2019 12:34 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: To tell in-laws or not?
Replies: 16
Views: 654

To tell in-laws or not?

I came clean about my non-belief with my husband about six months ago. He very much wants me to keep it hidden, particularly from his family, because he is worried about how they will treat me. I’m getting to the point I just want to live my own life and I don’t want to hide and pretend any longer. ...
by MerrieMiss
Mon Jul 15, 2019 12:17 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Yes Men?
Replies: 10
Views: 704

Re: Yes Men?

I think we place WAY too much importance on the need for unity, and that effectively stifles lively discussion on the issues. Perhaps this isn't what you're looking for, but I see the family as a microcosm of the institutional church with this issue. My husband’s family is an example of how the “ye...