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by MerrieMiss
Tue Mar 19, 2019 1:33 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: What was your first NOM thought?
Replies: 21
Views: 468

Re: What was your first NOM thought?

Well, if I go back to my childhood it was about getting baptized. I got a journal and was told to record how I felt. I wrote, "I felt warm." And I remember thinking to myself at the time, and every time I went back to read it, that I was pretty sure it was the water that was warm and not the spirit,...
by MerrieMiss
Fri Mar 15, 2019 9:28 am
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: I think..... or I obey?
Replies: 11
Views: 380

Re: I think..... or I obey?

Just This Guy wrote:
Wed Jan 23, 2019 10:28 am
Shounds like something Out of Thomas the Tank Engine.

I think, therefore I am a really useful engine.
Yes. This is still making me laugh a couple hours after reading it. It might help I'm hearing it in Ringo Starr's voice.
by MerrieMiss
Thu Mar 14, 2019 1:16 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: on being outside
Replies: 12
Views: 360

Re: on being outside

I am so sorry you have to go through this. I can’t imagine how it feels – my son will get baptized this year and I get nauseated every time I think about it. Just as with the sealing, I know it isn’t real, I know it doesn’t matter; reframing it helps, but it’s emotional abandonment. My grandparents ...
by MerrieMiss
Thu Mar 14, 2019 1:03 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: mocha latte for Neal
Replies: 22
Views: 466

Re: mocha latte for Neal

Mocha latte mission completed, sending many hugs and much love.
by MerrieMiss
Tue Mar 05, 2019 3:24 pm
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: Church Going Mainstream
Replies: 28
Views: 935

Re: Church Going Mainstream

If they want to go mainstream they need to drop the temple and the underwear. Not happening. The church is verifiably false. My time on earth is limited and I’m not waiting around for some changes that may or may not happen. Why am I supposed to hold out for some old guy to tell me it’s okay to wear...
by MerrieMiss
Tue Mar 05, 2019 12:47 pm
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Help for TBM-lite spouse?
Replies: 14
Views: 1100

Re: Help for TBM-lite spouse?

One of the things my husband was most upset about when I told him I didn't believe was that he was alone and couldn't talk to anyone about it. On his own he searched out a few Mormon Stories podcasts, I'm not sure which ones and I don't know that they were helpful since he doesn't say much. My bigge...
by MerrieMiss
Sun Mar 03, 2019 11:44 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Thoughts on Jana Riess podcast on Mormon Land
Replies: 9
Views: 516

Re: Thoughts on Jana Riess podcast on Mormon Land

I don't know why I worry about this crap. My discussion with my husband went something like this: Me: I listened to that podcast. What did you think of it? Husband: Oh yeah. What did you think? Me: You recommended it, I'd like to hear your thoughts. Husband: I guess it's interesting Millennials are ...
by MerrieMiss
Thu Feb 28, 2019 2:17 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: 2 faced gentiles
Replies: 21
Views: 637

Re: 2 faced gentiles

Maybe it was because I never lived in a place where being Mormon was the norm/majority, but if you wanted to fit in to the greater culture, it just made sense not to project your unwanted beliefs on others. Sure there were always those few who did, but for the most part being Mormon never came up an...
by MerrieMiss
Thu Feb 28, 2019 2:06 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Thoughts on Jana Riess podcast on Mormon Land
Replies: 9
Views: 516

Re: Thoughts on Jana Riess podcast on Mormon Land

I agree that Riess is quite fair, and perhaps I should wait and see how things go with my husband, but I don't know that TBMs who hear what she has to say will see it in a "we need to have more nuanced, less black and white thinking" kind of way. More liberal or progressive mormons may get that mess...
by MerrieMiss
Thu Feb 28, 2019 11:50 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Thoughts on Jana Riess podcast on Mormon Land
Replies: 9
Views: 516

Thoughts on Jana Riess podcast on Mormon Land

My husband listened to an interview with Riess on Mormon Land and wants to discuss it with me. I just finished it and I have mixed feelings/thoughts. While I won't give away my exact age, I'm a very young GenX or very old Millennial (born between 1975-1985) so I fit the demographic she's talking abo...
by MerrieMiss
Tue Feb 26, 2019 3:16 pm
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: Methodist possibly splitting up over LGTB
Replies: 9
Views: 246

Re: Methodist possibly splitting up over LGTB

We attended a Methodist church last year. My husband was happy it was over by 10 am, the people wore similar clothes to Mormons so we felt comfortable, and some of the hymns we sang were the same. We went on what would be similar to Relief Society Sunday where it was all female speakers from their w...
by MerrieMiss
Thu Feb 21, 2019 12:36 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Transitional underwear
Replies: 21
Views: 721

Re: Transitional underwear

Maybe I could buy some new ones and use a seam ripper to painstakingly remove the masonic symbols! [emoji1787] I tried doing that with some garments and just ended up with a hole. Those things are sewed in pretty tight. I did it with some of my husband's garment tops that my son insisted on using a...
by MerrieMiss
Thu Feb 21, 2019 9:28 am
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: Define: Manhood
Replies: 24
Views: 627

Re: Define: Manhood

I don’t know exactly what Kish is asking for here, but this is a question I think about often. And I’ll put out a disclaimer right here that everything I am going to say has nothing to do with the fact that women are treated poorly in the church and even the greater culture has a way to go before th...
by MerrieMiss
Wed Feb 20, 2019 10:04 am
Forum: Support
Topic: The exmo selfie train!
Replies: 21
Views: 817

Re: The exmo selfie train!

The photos do send a powerful message. On the other hand, I think they can be harmful as well, in the ways that social media is generally harmful. And I'm not convinced that ex-mo selfies are any more authentic than TBM photos who post saccharine pics of their kids and say, "The Church is True!" Ver...
by MerrieMiss
Sun Feb 17, 2019 9:40 am
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: Sunday Logistics
Replies: 27
Views: 938

Re: Sunday Logistics

It does feel shorter. My in-laws are complaining that wards are overlapping in their building so people can get out before 5 pm. Thankfully, our building has each ward start 90 minutes after the last so the last ward gets out of there by 1:30. And like others have said, it's too short now for me to ...
by MerrieMiss
Fri Feb 15, 2019 5:15 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: What Would It Take to Keep You?
Replies: 18
Views: 461

Re: What Would It Take to Keep You?

They would stop the nonsense that it's the one "true" church. Of course, you throw that out and I don't know what it would even look like anymore. Who would wear their stupid underwear if they didn't have to? Prohibit family members from weddings? Pay 10% of their income to an institution that won't...
by MerrieMiss
Wed Feb 13, 2019 6:51 pm
Forum: The Coffee Shop
Topic: What are you reading right now?
Replies: 15
Views: 334

Re: What are you reading right now?

I just finished rereading Chaim Potok’s The Chosen and My Name is Asher Lev . Before that I read Jonathan Haidt’s Coddling of the American Mind and Johann Hari’s Lost Connections . I have a stack of books and I’m not sure where to go next. A biography of Bing Crosby during the war years, I’m plannin...
by MerrieMiss
Wed Feb 13, 2019 6:43 pm
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Trying to balance beliefs and kids and all of the church stuff that comes with it... the jfro update
Replies: 12
Views: 312

Re: Trying to balance beliefs and kids and all of the church stuff that comes with it... the jfro update

I wish I had something helpful to say. When I told my husband I don’t believe last month he kept repeating something along the lines of how can we raise the kids if we have different beliefs? “But we have the same values,” I would reply, but it is so hard for those who are in to understand that and ...
by MerrieMiss
Sun Feb 10, 2019 9:58 am
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: Abducted in Plain Sight
Replies: 16
Views: 552

Re: Abducted in Plain Sight

I haven't seen it, but a TBM friend of mine mentioned it to me a couple weeks ago. It reminded me of when my in-laws gave their retirement to their hometeacher to invest for them and my husband and brother in-law confronted them about it. "He's our hometeacher, he wouldn't do anything bad to us!" (M...
by MerrieMiss
Thu Feb 07, 2019 11:36 am
Forum: Support
Topic: The gospel for dummies
Replies: 20
Views: 641

Re: The gospel for dummies

There's only one class now, the gospel doctrine class. It's made for a crowded SS in my ward. Yep. There was discussion in our ward on how to make GD more welcoming/useful to the people who attended GP. Leadership decided that SS would be taught to the lowest common denominator (investigator/new me...