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by chesteridaho
Mon Nov 28, 2016 8:31 am
Forum: Staying Faithful
Topic: James Fowler's Stages of Faith: A Description of the Theory
Replies: 5
Views: 5612

Re: James Fowler's Stages of Faith: A Description of the Theory

Thanks for the summary of the Stages of Faith. I had heard James Folwer's work mentioned on podcasts before, but hadn't taken the time to research it. I am definitely between stages 4 & 5. For me stage 4 has felt very lonely and without direction. I knew what I didn't believe, but am not clear about...
by chesteridaho
Thu Nov 17, 2016 8:24 am
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: A House Built on Sand
Replies: 21
Views: 10250

Re: A House Built on Sand

Ignorance or blind faith is definitely the sand in this allegory. This is why so many people are struggling when they find the truth. They discover that their beliefs were built on partial truths and distorted history. The root of some of my anger was toward myself for choosing to remain in ignoranc...
by chesteridaho
Thu Nov 17, 2016 7:58 am
Forum: Introductions
Topic: I want it to be over.
Replies: 15
Views: 7336

Re: I want it to be over.

Welcome to the village.
by chesteridaho
Sun Nov 06, 2016 2:35 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: My new tie
Replies: 8
Views: 4639

Re: My new tie

Just got out of sacrament meeting. I got a hard stare from one man as I walked into to find a bench. Other than that no one has said a thing. People just looked the other way. Hopefully it made a few people uncomfortable and think. I think many people have just shelved the policy and don't want to t...
by chesteridaho
Sun Nov 06, 2016 12:28 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: My new tie
Replies: 8
Views: 4639

My new tie

Wearing my new pride tie to church today to remind everyone that the policy still exists.

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by chesteridaho
Sun Nov 06, 2016 11:56 am
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Going Slow
Replies: 14
Views: 7379

Re: Going Slow

Many (most) of our family members still have no idea what the situation is with us. They know that we don't ask them about church. They can probably see I don't wear garments. They probably noticed we change the topic or redirect conversations away from ourselves whenever church comes up. We have d...
by chesteridaho
Thu Nov 03, 2016 6:40 am
Forum: Support
Topic: November 5 Policy - How to publicly remember it?
Replies: 14
Views: 6821

Re: November 5 Policy - How to publicly remember it?

I am going to wear this tie to church on Sunday in support of my son and sister-in-law.

https://amzn.com/B0055MA2MY.
by chesteridaho
Wed Nov 02, 2016 8:14 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Losing My Religion Playlist
Replies: 20
Views: 10688

Re: Losing My Religion Playlist

Fifi de la Vergne wrote:Only the Good Die Young. Billy Joel.
Great song! You know how there are some songs that you never critically listen to the lyrics? This song was that way for me until now.
by chesteridaho
Wed Nov 02, 2016 8:11 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Losing My Religion Playlist
Replies: 20
Views: 10688

Re: Losing My Religion Playlist

'dear god' by xtc would definitely be on my list. I think I might add 'god is a real estate deleloper' by michelle shocked... For anyone not familiar with this little gem, look it up... I loved this song when I first listened to it on 'short sharp shocked' back in the late 80's... here are the word...
by chesteridaho
Wed Nov 02, 2016 7:16 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Where do you find joy in the journey?
Replies: 16
Views: 8087

Re: Where do you find joy in the journey?

Finding meaning in each day. The end goal was so prescribed as a TBM. All the milestones were clearly laid in front of you: seminary, mission, marry in the temple, and have kids. Then make sure your kids are on the same road. Now, I don't waste my time looking into the future and focus on the meani...
by chesteridaho
Wed Nov 02, 2016 7:04 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Losing My Religion Playlist
Replies: 20
Views: 10688

Re: Losing My Religion Playlist

document wrote:Really? You didn't put "Losing My Religion" by R.E.M.?
:lol: It did inspire the the title of the playlist. I can't pinpoint a specific reason, but it's not a song I really enjoy listening to. Nothing in the lyrics, it may be the composition of the song as a whole that doesn't work for me.
by chesteridaho
Tue Nov 01, 2016 11:08 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Losing My Religion Playlist
Replies: 20
Views: 10688

Losing My Religion Playlist

I have a playlist on Spotify called "Losing my Religion". I crank it up on Sunday afternoon after sacrament meeting to help wash the frustration away. I am looking for some new songs. What you add? Here are are some of the songs from my playlist: The Logical Song Supertramp Trash Tyler Glenn Heathen...
by chesteridaho
Tue Nov 01, 2016 1:19 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Do you drink coffee?
Replies: 42
Views: 18562

Re: Do you drink coffee?

But it's an added benefit that when I am seen drinking it, no one is going to mistake me for a Mormon. ;) Love this. Yes, my transition to coffee was originally more out of counter-culturalism. Now, I love it. This made me laugh at myself. I began drinking coffee for the same counter-cultural reaso...
by chesteridaho
Tue Nov 01, 2016 12:52 pm
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Another Testament of Marriage
Replies: 11
Views: 6577

Re: Another Testament of Marriage

I fear that I should simply walk into my house drinking coffee to have the conversation I would like to have with her. This accidentally happened to me. This past weekend my wife was visiting family in SLC, so I brought home my coffee lab (AeroPress) from the office. I accidentally left my spouted ...
by chesteridaho
Tue Nov 01, 2016 7:36 am
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Another Testament of Marriage
Replies: 11
Views: 6577

Re: Another Testament of Marriage

"Another Testament of Marriage" is a private Facebook group for the believing spouse in mixed faith marriages. My DW is a member. Many of the posts are the believing spouses posting horror stories from their marriages. My DW has come to me several times after reading about someones spouse going off ...
by chesteridaho
Wed Oct 26, 2016 12:26 pm
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Explain your avatar choice
Replies: 109
Views: 57065

Re: Explain your avatar choice

I am a software developer and use "Chester Tester" any time I needed a name for testing. I started using it in the early 2000s when Chester Cheetah went undercover as part of an advertising campaign. I feel undercover as a non-believer when I attend church with my family, so I thought it fit.