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by Mahonri Moriancumer
Fri Nov 08, 2019 4:55 pm
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: Tithing settlement
Replies: 47
Views: 1457

Re: Tithing settlement

Does anyone else have assigned times for tithing settlement? My ward does! I received a letter in the mail about tithing settlement with my assigned time to meet with the bishop, with instructions that if I could not make the assigned time, to contact the exec. secretary to reschedule. I can't belie...
by Mahonri Moriancumer
Tue Oct 01, 2019 1:34 pm
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: General Konference Predictions
Replies: 25
Views: 933

Re: General Konference Predictions

I’m surprised no one has mentioned the changes to the youth program. I predict that there will be no less than 5 talks where RMN is praised and lauded for having the prophetic wisdom and vision to implement this program to keep the youth on the covenant path. There will be ass-kissing galore of the...
by Mahonri Moriancumer
Tue Oct 01, 2019 1:06 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: New Youth Program
Replies: 9
Views: 501

Re: New Youth Program

Much like home teaching there are no visible rewards for accomplishment, no penalties for simply not doing it. Like you say, I think very little actual effort will go into this program beyond the youth doing the things they're already doing because they genuinely enjoy them. I don't see that consis...
by Mahonri Moriancumer
Fri Sep 27, 2019 3:39 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Feeling Forced to Choose a Path
Replies: 38
Views: 1370

Re: Feeling Forced to Choose a Path

Empower and others who are in your situation, I am so sorry. I feel for you. It really sucks to be in your situation. DW and I have had several similar fruitless discussions. She is TBM. She loves the church, the prophet, the temple and everything about it. She has unquestioning faith and it works f...
by Mahonri Moriancumer
Fri Sep 28, 2018 2:47 pm
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: 20% of missionaries coming home early
Replies: 29
Views: 1906

Re: 20% of missionaries coming home early

A lot of the missionaries who went in the 80s (like me) did it because they were told they would go to hell if they didn't. It destroyed so many people. If you came home early back then, or didn't go, you were an outcast. The church doesn't tolerate less than "Nephi perfecton!" I went in the '80s a...
by Mahonri Moriancumer
Fri Sep 21, 2018 3:03 am
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: General Conference Predictions
Replies: 123
Views: 7658

Re: General Conference Predictions

3. Obeying Church Authorities. Every topic presented in General Conference is a variation on this theme. Even when they talk about obeying God, Jesus, the Gospel, etc. those words are merely euphemisms for The Brethren. D&C 1:38 ...whether by mine own voice or by the voice of my servants, it is the...
by Mahonri Moriancumer
Sat Aug 25, 2018 4:03 pm
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Advice Needed for Family Turmoil
Replies: 14
Views: 1382

Re: Advice Needed for Family Turmoil

My point of sharing is for you to see how devastated she is at church to no longer have a valiant captain moroni of a husband that shines in his glorious priesthood. She is half of what she once was. It will take her a while to adjust. And just like advice given already- your job now is to be the b...
by Mahonri Moriancumer
Sun Aug 12, 2018 11:53 am
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Advice Needed for Family Turmoil
Replies: 14
Views: 1382

Re: Advice Needed for Family Turmoil

Alas & Jfro, Thanks for your thoughts and advice. I've been thinking a lot along the same lines lately. One thing I would take exception to is that I'm not trying to change her. I love her so much and I don't want our relationship to end over this. I respect her wishes to believe the way she wants t...
by Mahonri Moriancumer
Sun Aug 12, 2018 11:40 am
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Advice Needed for Family Turmoil
Replies: 14
Views: 1382

Re: Advice Needed for Family Turmoil

Your wife doesn't feel safe. Until she does, she won't be in a position to try to understand you. Worse, trying to get her to understand you makes her feel even more afraid. I know, she interprets her fear as evidence of Satan's influence, and that sucks, and it would be great if she could just cha...
by Mahonri Moriancumer
Sat Aug 11, 2018 4:30 pm
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Advice Needed for Family Turmoil
Replies: 14
Views: 1382

Re: Advice Needed for Family Turmoil

Has she explored any "faithful" outlets that talk about the challenge to Mormon faith? What I'm thinking of is Mason's "Planted." Maybe if she'd be willing to look into this stuff it could help her sympathize with your current state of belief, rather than be depressed about it? Sounds like you're d...
by Mahonri Moriancumer
Sat Aug 11, 2018 6:06 am
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Advice Needed for Family Turmoil
Replies: 14
Views: 1382

Advice Needed for Family Turmoil

I've been on a 5+ year faith journey that started out with some real doubts about truth claims and historical issues to now being a complete unbeliever in the LDS faith. I'm not sure what I believe about God, and I don't pray or read scriptures on my own now, but I do find peace and spiritual nouris...
by Mahonri Moriancumer
Mon Jun 04, 2018 3:30 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: “Have you been reading the Book of Mormon?”
Replies: 33
Views: 2482

Re: “Have you been reading the Book of Mormon?”

Our family is enjoying the NIV translation of the New Testament. It's a different take on the gospel than the kids have heard to the point that it's really a different gospel (salvation by grace), punctuated with too many analogies to circumcision and first-century misogyny. Loads of fun. It helps ...
by Mahonri Moriancumer
Mon Jun 04, 2018 12:55 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: “Have you been reading the Book of Mormon?”
Replies: 33
Views: 2482

Re: “Have you been reading the Book of Mormon?”

What do I tell my TBM wife who insists that we read the BOM daily as a family, even though we just finished it (again). She believes it will make our family stronger, but my only kid who is still at home couldn’t be less interested in reading scriptures together as a family, and especially the BOM, ...
by Mahonri Moriancumer
Fri Sep 15, 2017 3:55 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Shooters and Clubbers
Replies: 24
Views: 1827

Re: Shooters and Clubbers

I'm also deeply bothered by this terrible event in our history (and my ggg grandfather was one of the shooters/clubbers). As much as we try, we simply can't understand everything that led up to this horrific event or why it happened. We can only strive to not repeat the same or similar mistakes in o...
by Mahonri Moriancumer
Tue Sep 12, 2017 3:27 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: A Turn for the Worse
Replies: 38
Views: 2540

Re: A Turn for the Worse

So sorry, Linked! Your DW and my DW sound a lot alike. Just over two years ago, she told me she wanted a divorce. I was stunned. We met with our Bishop and he was able to calm her down. We had some counseling, but she got frustrated and stopped going. I've continued to go, but there's only so much y...
by Mahonri Moriancumer
Tue Sep 12, 2017 7:25 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Just found out my son resigned...
Replies: 4
Views: 624

Re: Just found out my son resigned...

One potential problem in your future is tithing settlement. You will get a copy of your family's membership record from your bishop and there is a good chance that your son will now no longer appear on it. He is no longer living with us, so I don't think he would show up on our membership records a...
by Mahonri Moriancumer
Mon Sep 11, 2017 4:07 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Just found out my son resigned...
Replies: 4
Views: 624

Just found out my son resigned...

I was having a nice time with my inactive 22-year old son yesterday and openly discussing some of my frustrations with the Church. And then he casually mentioned that he didn't have to worry about that stuff anymore and showed me the letter confirming that he was no longer a member. I wasn't that su...
by Mahonri Moriancumer
Fri Jun 30, 2017 3:14 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Quick Update
Replies: 25
Views: 2045

Re: Quick Update

As difficult as it might be, I would ask to be released so you can focus on your relationship with your wife and family. Use whatever excuse you need to in order to get released. Or just tell them the truth that your not a 100% believer anymore. I was Exec Sec in a bishopric and was getting really ...
by Mahonri Moriancumer
Mon Dec 05, 2016 11:31 am
Forum: Support
Topic: "Nevermind, just Stay in the Boat"
Replies: 7
Views: 1095

Re: "Nevermind, just Stay in the Boat"

I think it's this philosophy (from 1 NE 4:13):
Behold the Lord slayeth the wicked to bring forth his righteous purposes. It is better that one man should perish than that a nation should dwindle and perish in unbelief.
by Mahonri Moriancumer
Fri Dec 02, 2016 4:42 pm
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Sticking Around in Stalag 13
Replies: 13
Views: 1929

Re: Sticking Around in Stalag 13

Loved the Hogan's Heroes metaphor! Thanks for the intro.