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by MalcolmVillager
Sat May 23, 2020 4:29 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Asking for a friend: What are the resources for women married to a TBM? Podcasts, friendships, groups, etc.
Replies: 6
Views: 202

Re: Asking for a friend: What are the resources for women married to a TBM? Podcasts, friendships, groups, etc.

There are FB groups called "Marriage on a Tightrope" and "Mormon Mixed Faith Marriage". I am a mod for both. I don't do much but the groups are great.
by MalcolmVillager
Thu May 21, 2020 8:17 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: I have an ally!
Replies: 20
Views: 416

Re: I have an ally!

My DS that returned from his mish almost a year ago now, has been having a faith transition. He read the CES letter and is currently reading "Saints" and following the footnotes, which he says is quite an eye opener. I can have conversations with him now, and I don't feel quite so isolated. (Althou...
by MalcolmVillager
Tue May 12, 2020 8:28 pm
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: RFM: Nothign Up My Sleeve...
Replies: 13
Views: 1130

Re: RFM: Nothign Up My Sleeve...

Consiglieri this was an instant classic. The ruse is so clear once you see it from the right (wrong) angle.

Nice work!
by MalcolmVillager
Tue May 05, 2020 6:50 am
Forum: Support
Topic: New Information on Lori Vallow case.
Replies: 5
Views: 1280

Re: New Information on Lori Vallow case.

We watched the latest dateline last night. So bizarre! This is a slow train wreck that will not end well. There is no way the kids are alive.
by MalcolmVillager
Tue May 05, 2020 6:48 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Mormon things that just pop into your head
Replies: 10
Views: 1217

Re: Mormon things that just pop into your head

This just popped into my head tonight...out of the blue.... “Como la mayoria de las personas, nosotros creemos en Dios. Sabemos que el vive, y queria compartir con usted lo que sentimos por el.” This was like 35 years ago I did the mission. This was the first paragraph of the first discussion in Sp...
by MalcolmVillager
Sat May 02, 2020 11:36 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Finally finished Brodie's NMKMH. Shaken
Replies: 26
Views: 2630

Re: Finally finished Brodie's NMKMH. Shaken

Sorry Malcolm. This is so hard to listen to. And probably the hardest part is knowing that it could take a long while for things to change and there's very little I could say that would hurry or soften that process. As some say, it's a marathon, not a sprint. But as long as you have truth on your s...
by MalcolmVillager
Sat May 02, 2020 11:35 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Finally finished Brodie's NMKMH. Shaken
Replies: 26
Views: 2630

Re: Finally finished Brodie's NMKMH. Shaken

I am about half way through Waco. I wish my wife would watch it with me, but she refuses to watch anything beyond TV14. Real things are too real for her Mormon-ified world view. Sigh. Sorry. Although I am not sure why Waco is more than TV14. I don't recall any nudity or real graphic violence. There...
by MalcolmVillager
Sat May 02, 2020 11:30 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Finally finished Brodie's NMKMH. Shaken
Replies: 26
Views: 2630

Re: Finally finished Brodie's NMKMH. Shaken

Just as some consolation, the church are masters at hiding at troubling information. Masters. They've had a lot of practice, and even with the essays, the new Saints book, new videos and a new "openness," they are still controlling the narrative for 99% of the members. And it will ever be thus, bec...
by MalcolmVillager
Sat May 02, 2020 11:26 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Finally finished Brodie's NMKMH. Shaken
Replies: 26
Views: 2630

Re: Finally finished Brodie's NMKMH. Shaken

Red Ryder wrote:
Fri May 01, 2020 9:38 am
Malcom!


Good luck and come visit again.
Si Dios Quiere. Ojala. Spaghetti Monster willing!
by MalcolmVillager
Sat May 02, 2020 11:24 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Finally finished Brodie's NMKMH. Shaken
Replies: 26
Views: 2630

Re: Finally finished Brodie's NMKMH. Shaken

Malcolm. I'm right there with ya bro !!!! I know how you feel but I have learned the gift of lying and indifference both of which I am getting much better at . Sometimes to survive in the jungle you must improvise, adapt and overcome !!!!! Hang on there bro ! Thanks MM. Yeah, I have done just that....
by MalcolmVillager
Sat May 02, 2020 11:22 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Finally finished Brodie's NMKMH. Shaken
Replies: 26
Views: 2630

Re: Finally finished Brodie's NMKMH. Shaken

Malcom bro! So hard, so painful so Fd up! We also watched Waco last week. It was so relatable! Lots of the same emotions you had. We are also watching The Handmaid's Tale for the third time. So many parts of that are way too similar to mormonism. It's a tribalistic cultist formula that works way to...
by MalcolmVillager
Sat May 02, 2020 11:19 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Finally finished Brodie's NMKMH. Shaken
Replies: 26
Views: 2630

Re: Finally finished Brodie's NMKMH. Shaken

Ah.. Brodie. Of course, much of it is probably my own confirmation bias, but Brodie's conclusions made a lot more sense to me. Solidarity eh? Take every opportunity that comes to "step away" from the cult in little ways to keep your sanity. I absolutely detest running, but it is a marathon we're de...
by MalcolmVillager
Sat May 02, 2020 11:11 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Finally finished Brodie's NMKMH. Shaken
Replies: 26
Views: 2630

Re: Finally finished Brodie's NMKMH. Shaken

I hate that this is so messy and so lonely. And that's why people stay. It's why my parents won't see what they know is there. It's why we don't want to "catch the monkey" at times. I'm glad my kids are out. I'm sad for the wasted years. Believing the best about people who were just taking advantag...
by MalcolmVillager
Sat May 02, 2020 10:44 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Finally finished Brodie's NMKMH. Shaken
Replies: 26
Views: 2630

Re: Finally finished Brodie's NMKMH. Shaken

Going to BYU can be a shelf-breaker. Your daughter is probably not the religious nut I was, but still. Suddenly I was around Mormons who taught evolution, real geology, psychology, and archaeology. I saw how the Honor Code was used to hurt people. The best teachers introduced nuance to church doctr...
by MalcolmVillager
Fri May 01, 2020 2:50 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Finally finished Brodie's NMKMH. Shaken
Replies: 26
Views: 2630

Re: Finally finished Brodie's NMKMH. Shaken

You all are seriously amazing. The only place that can really relate. Better than FB groups, than friends IRL. And better than Reddit. You got me through some dark times. I am pretty inactive here most of the time. The apathy I am trying to channel takes my desire to post away. Today was a bit bette...
by MalcolmVillager
Fri May 01, 2020 5:59 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Finally finished Brodie's NMKMH. Shaken
Replies: 26
Views: 2630

Re: Finally finished Brodie's NMKMH. Shaken

moksha wrote:
Fri May 01, 2020 3:59 am
Have you ever listened to Chris Smith's presentation in Four Views of Joseph Smith from the Sunstone Symposium website?
I have heard of it, but never listened. Maybe this weekend. Thanks Moksha! How appropriate for you to come to my rescue!
by MalcolmVillager
Thu Apr 30, 2020 8:19 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Finally finished Brodie's NMKMH. Shaken
Replies: 26
Views: 2630

Finally finished Brodie's NMKMH. Shaken

So I have been in the throws of a formal faith crisis for 6 years. The first 3 I worked through stuff mostly alone and here on NOM. DW didnt want to hear anything and challenged my sources. I dont blame her. This stuff is scary. 2 years ago I ordered Brodie and it sat on my shelf. I had already come...
by MalcolmVillager
Fri Apr 03, 2020 4:43 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: In preparation for GC, the FV, etc...
Replies: 3
Views: 275

Re: In preparation for GC, the FV, etc...

2bizE wrote:
Fri Apr 03, 2020 2:39 pm
Could you please share the recipe for your Dad’s beans? They sound tasty.
Pinto beans, ham, onions, salt. That is about it ;-) I always out cheese on them.
by MalcolmVillager
Fri Apr 03, 2020 1:32 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: In preparation for GC, the FV, etc...
Replies: 3
Views: 275

In preparation for GC, the FV, etc...

So I have been studying the various FV accounts and reading several resources about them. I have encouraged my teenage daughters to read the Essay and the actual accounts themselves to gain their own opinion. I also wrote these 3 versions of a true story from my own life. I think you will see where ...
by MalcolmVillager
Sun Mar 08, 2020 11:40 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Mormonism bores me
Replies: 9
Views: 1716

Re: Mormonism bores me

Right there with you MM. My DW has recently considered leaving the church, and sees the day when that could happen. However our life in the MorCor is so intertwined and we are not ready for the loss of community and backlash from family. The boredom is real. The biting of tongues in family conversat...