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by MalcolmVillager
Sat Jan 23, 2021 3:45 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Status updates?
Replies: 16
Views: 935

Re: Status updates?

Our ward and stake are currently open for 1 hour sacrament attendance only but also doing the video version online for people who don’t feel comfortable attending in person. I’m currently not attending in person or watching online. :lol: I’m dreading the ward announcing a return of the 2nd hour bec...
by MalcolmVillager
Sat Jan 09, 2021 9:50 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: To share your doubts with your children or not, that is the question
Replies: 20
Views: 1316

Re: To share your doubts with your children or not, that is the question

Such great advice here. We have been candid about easy stuff like age of the earth, evolution, LGBT and racial equality, feminism and patriarchy, and especially polygamy. We have also had discussions about biblical mythology and the goodness in other churches. Lastly we have been open about our disa...
by MalcolmVillager
Sun Sep 13, 2020 5:44 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Suicide
Replies: 14
Views: 2298

Re: Suicide

There is an old sectarian notion that suicide is a sin. I am glad he labeled this false. It would help if he acknowledged that this can be found in old church materials and is still false. So many doctrines of the religions have preached that sin is doing that thing that parents or community leader...
by MalcolmVillager
Wed Sep 09, 2020 9:34 am
Forum: Support
Topic: 6 months...
Replies: 17
Views: 2688

Re: 6 months...

Week 1- short lesson, song, multiple prayers, Sacrament. Week 2- half hearted song, sacrament Week 3- impromptu sacrament with crackers on a hike. Week 4- nothing Week 5- repeat week 2. Ever since, 75% nothing with a few quick sacrament and maybe an off the cuff uplifting thought when we were with f...
by MalcolmVillager
Sat May 23, 2020 4:29 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Asking for a friend: What are the resources for women married to a TBM? Podcasts, friendships, groups, etc.
Replies: 7
Views: 1213

Re: Asking for a friend: What are the resources for women married to a TBM? Podcasts, friendships, groups, etc.

There are FB groups called "Marriage on a Tightrope" and "Mormon Mixed Faith Marriage". I am a mod for both. I don't do much but the groups are great.
by MalcolmVillager
Thu May 21, 2020 8:17 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: I have an ally!
Replies: 20
Views: 2731

Re: I have an ally!

My DS that returned from his mish almost a year ago now, has been having a faith transition. He read the CES letter and is currently reading "Saints" and following the footnotes, which he says is quite an eye opener. I can have conversations with him now, and I don't feel quite so isolated. (Althou...
by MalcolmVillager
Tue May 12, 2020 8:28 pm
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: RFM: Nothign Up My Sleeve...
Replies: 13
Views: 2588

Re: RFM: Nothign Up My Sleeve...

Consiglieri this was an instant classic. The ruse is so clear once you see it from the right (wrong) angle.

Nice work!
by MalcolmVillager
Tue May 05, 2020 6:50 am
Forum: Support
Topic: New Information on Lori Vallow case.
Replies: 38
Views: 8494

Re: New Information on Lori Vallow case.

We watched the latest dateline last night. So bizarre! This is a slow train wreck that will not end well. There is no way the kids are alive.
by MalcolmVillager
Tue May 05, 2020 6:48 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Mormon things that just pop into your head
Replies: 10
Views: 2533

Re: Mormon things that just pop into your head

This just popped into my head tonight...out of the blue.... “Como la mayoria de las personas, nosotros creemos en Dios. Sabemos que el vive, y queria compartir con usted lo que sentimos por el.” This was like 35 years ago I did the mission. This was the first paragraph of the first discussion in Sp...
by MalcolmVillager
Sat May 02, 2020 11:36 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Finally finished Brodie's NMKMH. Shaken
Replies: 26
Views: 6897

Re: Finally finished Brodie's NMKMH. Shaken

Sorry Malcolm. This is so hard to listen to. And probably the hardest part is knowing that it could take a long while for things to change and there's very little I could say that would hurry or soften that process. As some say, it's a marathon, not a sprint. But as long as you have truth on your s...
by MalcolmVillager
Sat May 02, 2020 11:35 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Finally finished Brodie's NMKMH. Shaken
Replies: 26
Views: 6897

Re: Finally finished Brodie's NMKMH. Shaken

I am about half way through Waco. I wish my wife would watch it with me, but she refuses to watch anything beyond TV14. Real things are too real for her Mormon-ified world view. Sigh. Sorry. Although I am not sure why Waco is more than TV14. I don't recall any nudity or real graphic violence. There...
by MalcolmVillager
Sat May 02, 2020 11:30 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Finally finished Brodie's NMKMH. Shaken
Replies: 26
Views: 6897

Re: Finally finished Brodie's NMKMH. Shaken

Just as some consolation, the church are masters at hiding at troubling information. Masters. They've had a lot of practice, and even with the essays, the new Saints book, new videos and a new "openness," they are still controlling the narrative for 99% of the members. And it will ever be thus, bec...
by MalcolmVillager
Sat May 02, 2020 11:26 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Finally finished Brodie's NMKMH. Shaken
Replies: 26
Views: 6897

Re: Finally finished Brodie's NMKMH. Shaken

Red Ryder wrote:
Fri May 01, 2020 9:38 am
Malcom!


Good luck and come visit again.
Si Dios Quiere. Ojala. Spaghetti Monster willing!
by MalcolmVillager
Sat May 02, 2020 11:24 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Finally finished Brodie's NMKMH. Shaken
Replies: 26
Views: 6897

Re: Finally finished Brodie's NMKMH. Shaken

Malcolm. I'm right there with ya bro !!!! I know how you feel but I have learned the gift of lying and indifference both of which I am getting much better at . Sometimes to survive in the jungle you must improvise, adapt and overcome !!!!! Hang on there bro ! Thanks MM. Yeah, I have done just that....
by MalcolmVillager
Sat May 02, 2020 11:22 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Finally finished Brodie's NMKMH. Shaken
Replies: 26
Views: 6897

Re: Finally finished Brodie's NMKMH. Shaken

Malcom bro! So hard, so painful so Fd up! We also watched Waco last week. It was so relatable! Lots of the same emotions you had. We are also watching The Handmaid's Tale for the third time. So many parts of that are way too similar to mormonism. It's a tribalistic cultist formula that works way to...
by MalcolmVillager
Sat May 02, 2020 11:19 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Finally finished Brodie's NMKMH. Shaken
Replies: 26
Views: 6897

Re: Finally finished Brodie's NMKMH. Shaken

Ah.. Brodie. Of course, much of it is probably my own confirmation bias, but Brodie's conclusions made a lot more sense to me. Solidarity eh? Take every opportunity that comes to "step away" from the cult in little ways to keep your sanity. I absolutely detest running, but it is a marathon we're de...
by MalcolmVillager
Sat May 02, 2020 11:11 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Finally finished Brodie's NMKMH. Shaken
Replies: 26
Views: 6897

Re: Finally finished Brodie's NMKMH. Shaken

I hate that this is so messy and so lonely. And that's why people stay. It's why my parents won't see what they know is there. It's why we don't want to "catch the monkey" at times. I'm glad my kids are out. I'm sad for the wasted years. Believing the best about people who were just taking advantag...
by MalcolmVillager
Sat May 02, 2020 10:44 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Finally finished Brodie's NMKMH. Shaken
Replies: 26
Views: 6897

Re: Finally finished Brodie's NMKMH. Shaken

Going to BYU can be a shelf-breaker. Your daughter is probably not the religious nut I was, but still. Suddenly I was around Mormons who taught evolution, real geology, psychology, and archaeology. I saw how the Honor Code was used to hurt people. The best teachers introduced nuance to church doctr...
by MalcolmVillager
Fri May 01, 2020 2:50 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Finally finished Brodie's NMKMH. Shaken
Replies: 26
Views: 6897

Re: Finally finished Brodie's NMKMH. Shaken

You all are seriously amazing. The only place that can really relate. Better than FB groups, than friends IRL. And better than Reddit. You got me through some dark times. I am pretty inactive here most of the time. The apathy I am trying to channel takes my desire to post away. Today was a bit bette...
by MalcolmVillager
Fri May 01, 2020 5:59 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Finally finished Brodie's NMKMH. Shaken
Replies: 26
Views: 6897

Re: Finally finished Brodie's NMKMH. Shaken

moksha wrote:
Fri May 01, 2020 3:59 am
Have you ever listened to Chris Smith's presentation in Four Views of Joseph Smith from the Sunstone Symposium website?
I have heard of it, but never listened. Maybe this weekend. Thanks Moksha! How appropriate for you to come to my rescue!