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by crossmyheart
Wed Aug 21, 2019 7:47 am
Forum: The Coffee Shop
Topic: Evangelical blog article on LDS temple in Haiti
Replies: 3
Views: 100

Re: Evangelical blog article on LDS temple in Haiti

Wow- if only this article could get more publicity. The church needs to be called out for their flagrant worship of money and luxury, instead of humble service to people in dire need of basic necessities.
by crossmyheart
Wed Aug 21, 2019 7:27 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Conditioned to fear the change
Replies: 4
Views: 216

Re: Conditioned to fear the change

I love this part: Now that I'm six years past my broken shelf, now that I've walked with my spouse through those moments of terror, we would never go back to where we were. I have less belief in God, and yet more faith that my actions and beliefs are moral and worthy; I am actually more morally clea...
by crossmyheart
Wed Aug 21, 2019 7:09 am
Forum: Support
Topic: A win for satan!
Replies: 7
Views: 135

A win for satan!

I am so freaking happy today! We are still semi- active, attending once a month or less... My daughter is on the middle school academic team (competes in the state academic bowl). Her team was practicing yesterday and one of the questions was "Who founded the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Sai...
by crossmyheart
Wed Aug 21, 2019 6:56 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Bishopric -> EQP: And I feel.... numb.
Replies: 19
Views: 488

Re: Bishopric -> EQP: And I feel.... numb.

And I also agree with NBI: Do it on your terms. Also: Delegate, delegate, delegate... And then: Delegate some more. This was going to be my advice- I was in YW presidency back in the day when I was starting to fall away. I learned to just delegate everything. If I didn't want to go to an activity, ...
by crossmyheart
Wed Aug 21, 2019 6:22 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Shared The Myth of the Unrighteous Parent with DW
Replies: 5
Views: 140

Re: Shared The Myth of the Unrighteous Parent with DW

Your wife's response is similar to my husbands. My husband grew up in a part-member home. Mom was full in, Dad was anti. So for me to break the news to him that I was out was really heartbreaking for him. He grew up being told that he was a lost soul, not sealed to anyone. And then I take away his l...
by crossmyheart
Fri Aug 16, 2019 9:40 am
Forum: The Coffee Shop
Topic: Bumper Stickers
Replies: 11
Views: 242

Re: Bumper Stickers

Corsair wrote:
Wed Aug 14, 2019 11:29 am
I have this on my truck:

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Unbelievers tend to recognize it and it has led to some very pleasant conversations. When a believer asks about it I can honestly say it's just an old science joke.
I need this!
by crossmyheart
Fri Aug 16, 2019 9:28 am
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: New Protecting Children and Youth Training from the LDS Church
Replies: 13
Views: 329

Re: New Protecting Children and Youth Training from the LDS Church

Nit-picking here: the title itself doesn't sit right with me- it comes off as saying this is training to protect the leaders, not training to protect the youth...
by crossmyheart
Fri Aug 16, 2019 8:51 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Ed Smart comes out as gay
Replies: 22
Views: 585

Re: Ed Smart comes out as gay

I think this practice of gay men marrying straight women played big role in my questioning. I remember seeing two separate couples on my mission (90's) in this very situation and feeling so torn for them. I could see that each spouse was equally miserable and yet they were struggling to live the gos...
by crossmyheart
Mon Aug 12, 2019 12:14 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Mass disclosure
Replies: 51
Views: 1008

Re: Mass disclosure

Been there- with being physically ill, constant upset stomach, and sleepless nights. I lived in constant fear once I started to come out to my family. My mental health was already failing because I could no longer support the narrative and play along at church, but then it was worsened by the family...
by crossmyheart
Wed Aug 07, 2019 11:21 am
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: Running out of post power--and interest...
Replies: 20
Views: 1068

Re: Running out of post power--and interest...

Just curious for those that feel that they are moving on (including OP), do you still attend on a regular basis? For myself, I would love to move on but my wife enjoys attending and I don't see her wanting to stop anytime soon. I'd love to move on and be done because I came to my conclusion several...
by crossmyheart
Wed Aug 07, 2019 11:06 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Alternative Gospel Topic Essays
Replies: 11
Views: 348

Re: Alternative Gospel Topic Essays

Not sure if it should be a sub-category of #9 or if it is big enough to get it's very own essay:

MLM's: It's a trap!
by crossmyheart
Mon Jul 29, 2019 1:41 pm
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Shunning the shunners
Replies: 12
Views: 577

Re: Shunning the shunners

I no longer have contact with a toxic and abusive sibling. I told him to never call me again and blocked his number. I told my family to never speak of him again around me. It was difficult at first, other family members would bring up gossip or complain about something related to the sibling and I ...
by crossmyheart
Thu Jul 11, 2019 8:37 am
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Maybe it’d be nice if everyone posted a very short intro who they are
Replies: 19
Views: 1100

Re: Maybe it’d be nice if everyone posted a very short intro who they are

My shelf crashed in 2011 after a relative had her temple sealing to a deceased husband broken so she can be sealed to her 3rd husband. I was a little too close to the situation and her decision really hurt. All at once it came crashing down when I realized it is all made up- the rules are arbitrary....
by crossmyheart
Mon Jul 08, 2019 2:31 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Back from SLC
Replies: 4
Views: 370

Back from SLC

Just returned from a family trip to Utah. Not enough time in the day to accomplish everything on our to-do list but had a great time. Observations: Surprised that we had very little contact from missionaries on Temple Square- there just didn't seem to be as many around the campus. Even more surprise...
by crossmyheart
Tue Jun 04, 2019 11:52 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Help with outing myself?
Replies: 33
Views: 1202

Re: Help with outing myself?

I had a moment when I got through to my TBM mother early on in my faith transition. I shared some concerns with her and she confided she had the same concerns. It was so nice to know I wasn't crazy... but then she retrenched and I was already at the anger stage with a scorched earth attitude. If I h...
by crossmyheart
Mon Jun 03, 2019 11:32 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Need help with a response
Replies: 5
Views: 258

Need help with a response

https://newordermormon.net/viewtopic.php?f=4&t=3650 I have referred to this before- not sure if the link above will work or not...We had an aggressive primary prez last summer who kept asking to take my children to church activities. I had to be aggressive back with her after being nice way too long...
by crossmyheart
Fri May 31, 2019 2:53 pm
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: Tribalism - the next mass extinction?
Replies: 2
Views: 257

Re: Tribalism - the next mass extinction?

great- thanks a lot!
now I have to go out and stock up on powdered milk and wheat and track down a hand grinder- and ...

Seriously- though- great food for thought.
by crossmyheart
Tue May 28, 2019 10:20 am
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: My parental units--is a visit worth it?
Replies: 14
Views: 632

Re: My parental units--is a visit worth it?

My dad has passed away- but my mom doesn't take no for an answer when it comes to visits like this. It is a major inconvenience in many ways- the extra food, laundry, dishes, etc. But she's my mom. She and my dad worked hard and did the best they could for their family. We don't see eye to eye on mo...
by crossmyheart
Fri May 24, 2019 12:49 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Is NOM really "middle way" to any extent anymore?
Replies: 60
Views: 2459

Re: Is NOM really "middle way" to any extent anymore?

New Order Mormons are those who no longer believe some (or much) of the dogma or doctrines of the LDS Church, but who want to maintain membership for cultural, social, or even spiritual reasons. New Order Mormons recognize both good and bad in the Church, and have determined that the Church does no...
by crossmyheart
Fri May 10, 2019 6:32 am
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: One More Please
Replies: 26
Views: 822

Re: One More Please

Just learned a new benefit of not wearing garments this week! We live in a rural, wooded area, a few acres of land, lots of yard work. My hubby used to get ticks in the crown jewels pretty regularly when we clear brush. But now that he wears regular fruit of the loom, no more ticks in the nether reg...