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by crossmyheart
Fri Jan 18, 2019 10:47 pm
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: I told my husband
Replies: 11
Views: 334

Re: I told my husband

I don't know if I should be hurt by this, but he's never mentioned the thought of losing me in the eternities or worry over my soul. I asked him about it, and he said he wasn't concerned about it. So he either has a more broad, universalist idea of redemption or he is just looking for his next wife...
by crossmyheart
Fri Jan 18, 2019 10:38 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: To clean or not to clean?
Replies: 27
Views: 727

Re: To clean or not to clean?

I appreciate hearing the opposing points of view. I would not have asked if I wasn't conflicted myself. I appreciate the advice and even Red Rider's hilarious story! It is so cathartic to have a place like NOM to be able to bounce off frustrations. In the end I chose not to go. My anxiety and my per...
by crossmyheart
Fri Jan 18, 2019 10:26 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: To clean or not to clean?
Replies: 27
Views: 727

Re: To clean or not to clean?

My problem is I used to know people who were paid to clean. Older members who could make a modest income with a pretty easy job. They pulled that rug out from under their feet when they have plenty of money to spare.... that bothers me a hell of a lot. That is my biggest hang up. I have known two s...
by crossmyheart
Thu Jan 17, 2019 9:16 am
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: I told my husband
Replies: 11
Views: 334

Re: I told my husband

I keep telling him that it's okay and we can make things work out, but he just doesn't see it. It makes me angry all over again at how divisive the church is with families. Been there. My DH struggled with the concept that he was losing me for eternity- that my salvation was at risk. I had to spend...
by crossmyheart
Thu Jan 17, 2019 9:08 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Meeting with Bishop Tonight
Replies: 26
Views: 686

Re: Meeting with Bishop Tonight

Congratulations!

I will bet your shoulders feel so much lighter today. You definitely won the leadership roulette with your son's ordination and your temple recommend still intact. Impressive.
by crossmyheart
Thu Jan 17, 2019 9:02 am
Forum: Support
Topic: To clean or not to clean?
Replies: 27
Views: 727

To clean or not to clean?

ugh. We had a glorious year of complete inactivity. My DH was truly showing signs of NOM-ness. Then the age changes happened and my DD is now in YW 6 months earlier than I had planned. He wants us to be active again "for the kids". So we have attended church more in the last 3 weeks than the whole o...
by crossmyheart
Wed Jan 16, 2019 12:31 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Infantilization of the mind
Replies: 24
Views: 654

Re: Infantilization of the mind

Is this what God wants for his children? We are Gods in embryo right? We're meant to become universal architects ourselves right? How do we do that if we're not allowed to use our own brains? Or are our future God-selves expected to continue to follow the program and pattern that has been laid out ...
by crossmyheart
Wed Jan 16, 2019 10:24 am
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: The long rumored temple changes are happening now?
Replies: 97
Views: 3405

Re: The long rumored temple changes are happening now?

I had the misfortune to have to attend church last Sunday. It was ward conference and the Stake Prez got up and read the letter from the first presidency to the congregation. He went on to rail against the Tribune for publishing the exact wording changes because it is sacred. He was fuming- and then...
by crossmyheart
Wed Jan 09, 2019 11:32 am
Forum: Miscellaneous
Topic: Oh the times they are a changin'
Replies: 4
Views: 249

Re: Oh the times they are a changin'

Come to think of it, it really does make a lot more sense to swear on the constitution of the country your serving than to swear on an ancient middle eastern law book. For one thing, one of those two documents outlaws slavery while the other gives instruction for properly beating your slaves. I can...
by crossmyheart
Wed Jan 02, 2019 1:06 pm
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: The long rumored temple changes are happening now?
Replies: 97
Views: 3405

Re: The long rumored temple changes are happening now?

Saw a post on reddit that the long rumored changes to the temple are happening possibly tomorrow (and were "tested" in Nauvoo today)... Will be curious to see what they are. Bill Reel had posted before GC that it was effectively shortening them so more people will be willing to go. The image below ...
by crossmyheart
Sat Dec 15, 2018 9:10 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Feeling anxious about new YM/YW announcement
Replies: 30
Views: 972

Re: Feeling anxious about new YM/YW announcement

But I had to cut off the activation efforts and similar group pressures. This thought alone kept me up last night. My oldest will turn 12 in 2019. I thought I had a good 6 months or more to get her ready for the activation efforts. We have not attended at all this year but my nomish DH has indicate...
by crossmyheart
Tue Dec 11, 2018 11:08 am
Forum: Support
Topic: I'm about to be officially "outed": NOM Crowd-Sourcing
Replies: 68
Views: 1712

Re: I'm about to be officially "outed": NOM Crowd-Sourcing

Whatever you do, try not to get roped into sticking it out in the waiting room of shame. There is nothing like the pity faces that you get in there. And then getting stuck with the screaming babies with separation anxiety from their 20-something holier than thou Momma. Stay outside, enjoy the fresh ...
by crossmyheart
Thu Nov 15, 2018 1:06 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Resignation Submitted!
Replies: 22
Views: 619

Re: Resignation Submitted!

Sincerely- it is nice to see that a regular on NOM gets a happy ending.

only in my dreams...
by crossmyheart
Thu Nov 15, 2018 1:04 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: NPR broadcast this Saturday
Replies: 14
Views: 735

Re: NPR broadcast this Saturday

Radio West is doing a follow up interview with these folks today. I just caught the first part of it this morning on the commute. http://radiowest.kuer.org/post/who-worthy-mormon-youth-interviews-sex-and-shame I'll catch the rest on the way home. Seems like a good listen to get even more insight in...
by crossmyheart
Tue Nov 13, 2018 7:34 pm
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: Annual Membership Drive (my church)
Replies: 11
Views: 416

Re: Annual Membership Drive (my church)

Before I join... can I still remain an inactive member of the church of the flying spaghetti monster also?

On a more serious note- I enjoyed reading your epistle. It is beautiful. You need to turn it into one of those books like "All the things I learned in kindergarten" series.

Giddyup!
by crossmyheart
Tue Nov 13, 2018 7:24 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: NPR broadcast this Saturday
Replies: 14
Views: 735

Re: NPR broadcast this Saturday

I listened. And then I cried. This was more traumatic than I expected. It brought up memories I hadn't even remembered. My Bishop was my first introduction to sex ed. I was a child. The same age as my daughter. So innapropriate. Then the full out confessional of every private make out session. I wa...
by crossmyheart
Sat Nov 10, 2018 10:57 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Primary Program
Replies: 8
Views: 460

Re: Primary Program

Due to a rough summer including a major surgery, we have been completely inactive for months. That has not stopped the primary president from crossing all kinds of social boundaries to try to wrangle my kids into attending and participating in the program. I was nice at first and just said we will t...
by crossmyheart
Sat Nov 10, 2018 10:29 am
Forum: Support
Topic: What's the shelf life of a NOM?
Replies: 18
Views: 661

Re: What's the shelf life of a NOM?

6 years in and still here. I started with By Common Consent and FMh but rarely browse anything but NOM and some Reddit. I have pretty much transitioned completely to ex-mormon lifestyle. No church, no g's, occasional glass of wine... But can't submit my resignation until my mom is gone and my DH wal...
by crossmyheart
Fri Nov 09, 2018 9:11 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: NPR broadcast this Saturday
Replies: 14
Views: 735

NPR broadcast this Saturday

This American Life program tomorrow morning on National Public Radio will be about bishops interviews and crazy sex questions. I heard the ad this evening on my way home from work and loved the angle. A woman described telling her boyfriend about her family singing around the piano and he told her t...
by crossmyheart
Sun Oct 14, 2018 12:11 pm
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: My theory on Sam Young
Replies: 15
Views: 625

Re: My theory on Sam Young

https://exploringmormonism.com/bishops-interview-timeline/ Wow, people weren't even kept out of the temple for alcohol and tobacco until the 1930s and the formal interview questions didn't materialize until the '60s. Another fascinating tidbit is that the earliest Word of Wisdom interviews were abo...