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by Newme
Fri Sep 13, 2019 12:10 pm
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: Things I learned in seminary
Replies: 19
Views: 540

Re: Things I learned in seminary

Substitute taught us about compound interest. *Anyone know why some seminary teachers get paid while some work for free for a boss (seminary director) who gets paid? They do the same work - but only some get paid. Even if it were religious degrees that allow for credible income, why is it the GA’s g...
by Newme
Sun Sep 01, 2019 10:49 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Tithing Question + An Introduction
Replies: 21
Views: 617

Re: Tithing Question + An Introduction

Anyway, my one hang up with this is the tithing question. We have been donating 10% of our income to charities or people in need in our community. This is the one thing I could see them calling me out on if I say I’m a full tithe payer. What are your thoughts on this? I’ve heard you can pay tithing...
by Newme
Sun Sep 01, 2019 10:46 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Tithing Question + An Introduction
Replies: 21
Views: 617

Re: Tithing Question + An Introduction

As Anon70 said, you can pay anonymously to SLC directly. The amount paid is not reported to your bishop, only that a payment was made. You could pay $1 and it will show up the same as $15,000. So pay $1 per pay period and then keep paying 10% to local charities that you feel need it. You will be he...
by Newme
Sat Aug 31, 2019 5:30 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: What does the church get right?
Replies: 30
Views: 874

Re: What does the church get right?

I had a friend visiting from Sweden over recently with his wife and kids and they asked about living in the Salt Lake City area. I had a hard time coming up with good things, so much that they started naming them for me. They have a very different perspective though, being relatively neutral about ...
by Newme
Sat Aug 31, 2019 5:22 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Temple garments prevented neighbors from joining the church.
Replies: 18
Views: 649

Re: Temple garments prevented neighbors from joining the church.

moksha wrote:
Sat Aug 31, 2019 4:51 pm
Hagoth wrote:
Sat Aug 31, 2019 2:44 pm
Maybe a t-shirt/bra, briefs/panties, and a knee band.
For the truly daring, disposable knee patches rather than a knee band might attract those unwilling to wear traditional garments. The required masonic symbols applied via a tattoo might appeal to younger fashion-conscious members.
:lol:
by Newme
Sat Aug 31, 2019 5:16 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Entrepreneurial Mormonism
Replies: 5
Views: 254

Re: Entrepreneurial Mormonism

Thank you, Moksha and Corsair, for magnifying your calling of sharing Mormon entrepreneur ideas to, steal, I mean incorporate. Now presenting The Bionic Strength Priesthood Power Titanium XO2 Balance Bracelet eternal Frequency... be protected without smothering in the heat for only $12,000 a month. ...
by Newme
Thu Aug 22, 2019 4:06 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Shared The Myth of the Unrighteous Parent with DW
Replies: 11
Views: 386

Re: Shared The Myth of the Unrighteous Parent with DW

Sadly, I can relate too well. My dad missed the weddings of all but 1 of his children. Part of the hell my dad went through was my mom who has BPD, but part was the cultish church shaming. I’ve also been shamed and at times have surrendered to depression (took the anger inward on myself). I am lear...
by Newme
Thu Aug 22, 2019 4:04 pm
Forum: The Coffee Shop
Topic: Evangelical blog article on LDS temple in Haiti
Replies: 11
Views: 331

Re: Evangelical blog article on LDS temple in Haiti

I agree. I wish it would get a ton of publicity. Anything to wake up the leaders to the fact that they are doing exactly what their scripture say not to do: grind on the face of the poor, because of their fine sanctuaries. If that happened, perhaps the ultra poor in third world countries would get ...
by Newme
Thu Aug 22, 2019 9:38 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Shared The Myth of the Unrighteous Parent with DW
Replies: 11
Views: 386

Re: Shared The Myth of the Unrighteous Parent with DW

Sadly, I can relate too well. My dad missed the weddings of all but 1 of his children. Part of the hell my dad went through was my mom who has BPD, but part was the cultish church shaming. I’ve also been shamed and at times have surrendered to depression (took the anger inward on myself). I am learn...
by Newme
Thu Aug 22, 2019 8:48 am
Forum: Support
Topic: "We don't say that person is gay..." - I'm furious about labeling
Replies: 36
Views: 1069

Re: "We don't say that person is gay..." - I'm furious about labeling

I don’t know about you, but I don’t consider my sexual preference as core to my sense of identity. Upon meeting someone, I don’t say, “Hi, I’m a heterosexual.” Well, but it kind of is core to your sense of identity. I mean, sure, there are plenty of other aspects of a person’s identity, some of the...
by Newme
Thu Aug 22, 2019 8:41 am
Forum: Support
Topic: A win for satan!
Replies: 9
Views: 327

Re: A win for satan!

CrossMyHeart, It’s a bit nerve wracking parenting in a cult - especially in an inter-faith marriage. But it’s hopeful when you see glimpses of your children actually thinking for themselves as your daughter has. Wait, Jesus Christ isn’t the answer? :lol: Most anthropologists believe Jesus wasn’t Mor...
by Newme
Thu Aug 22, 2019 8:29 am
Forum: Support
Topic: "We don't say that person is gay..." - I'm furious about labeling
Replies: 36
Views: 1069

Re: "We don't say that person is gay..." - I'm furious about labeling

Btw, If you disagree, fine, but please avoid ad hominem logical fallacy labels like, “homophobe, hater, & bigot” and stick to exactly with what you disagree and why. I'm sorry Newme, but this thread had NOTHING to do with actual sexuality, It looks like it is only you who is trying to turn the conv...
by Newme
Wed Aug 21, 2019 2:54 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: "We don't say that person is gay..." - I'm furious about labeling
Replies: 36
Views: 1069

Re: "We don't say that person is gay..." - I'm furious about labeling

I don’t know about you, but I don’t consider my sexual preference as core to my sense of identity. Upon meeting someone, I don’t say, “Hi, I’m a heterosexual.” Each person is far to complex to slap a label, and most would consider it demeaning to label them by something that is considered a dis-orde...
by Newme
Thu Aug 15, 2019 4:52 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Addiction: Everything we think about it is likely wrong
Replies: 4
Views: 208

Re: Addiction: Everything we think about it is likely wrong

Fascinating topic! Interesting talk too. I like how he said, “the opposite of addiction is connection” and explained that we’ve become more like the “isolated cave” - lonely and a breeding ground for addiction as a way to meet needs for connection. I think that often the approach to addictive behavi...
by Newme
Thu Aug 15, 2019 11:17 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Love yourself?
Replies: 13
Views: 548

Re: Love yourself?

Sometimes I wonder if there is a correlation between people who are independent (used here to mean a person who needs a very low level of approval from others) with those that go through a faith transition. I know in my own situation, I have always been quite independent (don't care about approval ...
by Newme
Thu Aug 15, 2019 11:10 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Love yourself?
Replies: 13
Views: 548

Re: Love yourself?

This is something I'm not great at, although I do think it has gotten a heck of a lot easier to feel good about who I am versus pre-faith-transition. Same^ It's so much easier to love myself when I don't feel like a failure all the time. Thanks for sharing this Newme. I’m glad it’s resonated. I als...
by Newme
Thu Aug 15, 2019 11:07 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Love yourself?
Replies: 13
Views: 548

Re: Love yourself?

moksha wrote:
Fri Aug 02, 2019 3:10 am
Loving God and others must include ourself since we are not god. I like the way the Desiderata put it, "be gentle with yourself".
I like it! Thank you. :)

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by Newme
Thu Aug 15, 2019 11:03 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Love yourself?
Replies: 13
Views: 548

Re: Love yourself?

Sometimes I wonder if there is a correlation between people who are independent (used here to mean a person who needs a very low level of approval from others) with those that go through a faith transition. I know in my own situation, I have always been quite independent (don't care about approval ...
by Newme
Thu Aug 15, 2019 10:58 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Love yourself?
Replies: 13
Views: 548

Re: Love yourself?

That’s awesome. I want to get away from caring so much what they think. Maybe partly why it’s so difficult is because I feel like I need them - as support and just to be there for me and I for them. It’s felt like grieving loss of them - realizing they choose the cult and the cultish family leader/...
by Newme
Thu Aug 15, 2019 10:41 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Humor to Soften Truth
Replies: 34
Views: 1666

Re: Humor to Soften Truth

Someone posted this & cracked me up..: “When I was investigating the Church, a member told me "A good way to get insight from God is to ask a question, let your Scriptures fall open and point to a random verse and read it. " I really hadn't heard that before or since, but I tried it. " Is the Mormo...