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by Wonderment
Thu Feb 14, 2019 6:12 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Transitional underwear
Replies: 21
Views: 568

Re: Transitional underwear

I wish there were some white long boxer briefs that looked exactly like garments without the marks and without the signature seam hole/rip in the corner crotch area. Something that wouldn't cause my wife to cry at night when we got into bed like happened when I tried wearing grey regular briefs in ...
by Wonderment
Tue Feb 12, 2019 7:59 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: More Conversation with DW
Replies: 11
Views: 362

Re: More Conversation with DW

As someone who has been married for 45 years ;) , I have found marriage counseling to be extremely useful. A good therapist can give feedback to you and your wife which will help in your understanding of each other's motives and emotions. Try to find a therapist who is not part of LDS Social Service...
by Wonderment
Sat Feb 02, 2019 1:08 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Baptism Discussion With My Son
Replies: 11
Views: 333

Re: Baptism Discussion With My Son

Then for his answer he spent a bit of time talking about how he was excited that baptism would cleanse him, washing his sins away and allowing him a fresh start. I pried a bit about if he is worried about his sins and he didn't seem to be, so maybe he just likes the symbolism. This is what the chur...
by Wonderment
Wed Jan 23, 2019 12:20 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Moving Across the Country
Replies: 17
Views: 415

Re: Moving Across the Country

HI Hopebeat :) You won't know if you like living across the country until you try it. JMO, but I think you should give it a try. I think you'll find that there are lots of advantages to being your own person and being more independent. But, if it doesn't work out, then it is not the end of the world...
by Wonderment
Tue Jan 22, 2019 6:36 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Text from Bishop
Replies: 22
Views: 850

Re: Text from Bishop

I'm sorry, Bishop, but I have to take care of my health. I have to put my own health and my family first." Without your health, you have nothing. You can't take care of your family without your health. Even the Church teaches this principle. You just told the bishop last week that you needed to be ...
by Wonderment
Tue Jan 22, 2019 6:29 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Called in to Meet with SP Counselor
Replies: 15
Views: 766

Re: Called in to Meet with SP Counselor

It always amazes me when a church official sets up a meeting as if a member is one of the official's employees. The secretary calls you -- "Hey, the boss want to meet with you in his office." (Say, what??? ) Just reply, "May I please ask what is the purpose of the meeting?" If the secretary says, "H...
by Wonderment
Sun Jan 20, 2019 10:38 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: "Love and respect" for all people
Replies: 8
Views: 352

Re: "Love and respect" for all people

Yes, but talk is cheap. It needs to be reflected in policy. As a high school teacher, I've known several LGBT young people who were shunned very badly by their own parents, pushed out of their homes, and their extended relatives ( siblings, aunts, uncles, cousins, etc.), were forbidden from associa...
by Wonderment
Fri Jan 11, 2019 9:00 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: LDS fireside this Sunday on "Navigating Doubts"
Replies: 57
Views: 1937

Re: LDS fireside this Sunday on "Navigating Doubts"

We're having a 'special' stake conference with a GA in addition to our regular SC. I suspect it's going to be something like this. I find these things incredibly annoying and so ignorantly dismissive of sincere inquiry. The basic message is "if you weren't broken you would love everything about the...
by Wonderment
Thu Jan 10, 2019 6:48 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Who said it?
Replies: 11
Views: 431

Re: Who said it?

LOL ! I know this answer because I just googled it; but if I hadn't I would say that it sounds like Russell and Wendy sexting each other ( "in the presence of Jesus Christ", of course). :lol: - Wndr
by Wonderment
Thu Jan 10, 2019 1:11 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Need Advice - Potential Visit from a Seventy
Replies: 44
Views: 1583

Re: Need Advice - Potential Visit from a Seventy

Wow ! You did an awesome job and were very eloquent in a stressful situation. Excellent work ! 8-)
by Wonderment
Mon Dec 31, 2018 11:11 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Spouseman's aunt has died
Replies: 8
Views: 293

Re: Spouseman's aunt has died

Red Ryder wrote:
Mon Dec 31, 2018 11:19 am
Why not politely decline your participation and let Spouseman decide for himself what he wants to do?

If he goes, he goes.
If he doesn't, he doesn't.

You win either way.
Agreed. Good advice.
by Wonderment
Mon Dec 31, 2018 10:42 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Struggling...A Lot
Replies: 29
Views: 1002

Re: Struggling...A Lot

One of the thoughts that adds a great deal of stress is the worry about, "What will the church think?" "What will the bishop think?" "What will the relatives think?" "I cannot meet their expectations of me." "If I don't attend church, I will let everyone down", and so forth. I believe that thoughts ...
by Wonderment
Wed Dec 19, 2018 10:26 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: In which I was voluntold
Replies: 16
Views: 660

Re: In which I was voluntold

P.S. Maybe better yet, just practice saying, "No, thanks. That doesn't interest me. No, no, no, thanks. Thanks, but no. Etc. ( Just like turning away the eager 18 year old missionaries when they show up at your front door). :D - Wndr.
by Wonderment
Wed Dec 19, 2018 10:13 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: In which I was voluntold
Replies: 16
Views: 660

Re: In which I was voluntold

This has happened to me, and what I did was to turn the tables on them by using the "spiritual angle." I told them that family time was more important than anything else, especially so close to Christmas, and I chose to spend the time with the family in order to reflect on "the meaning of the spirit...
by Wonderment
Thu Dec 13, 2018 3:31 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: I'm about to be officially "outed": NOM Crowd-Sourcing
Replies: 68
Views: 1860

Re: I'm about to be officially "outed": NOM Crowd-Sourcing

This year I have lost 75 lbs, so there were a lot of clothes I couldn’t use anymore. I donated most of them, but kept a few pieces for sentimental reasons, even though I’ll never be able to wear them without major alterations. They just don’t fit me now. Over the past several years my eyes have bee...
by Wonderment
Wed Dec 12, 2018 1:57 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: I'm about to be officially "outed": NOM Crowd-Sourcing
Replies: 68
Views: 1860

Re: I'm about to be officially "outed": NOM Crowd-Sourcing

P.S. - I agree with Blazer that it stinks that the church, which constantly chirps that "it's all about the family", is able to so callously separate parents from children at one of the most important moments of their lives. That's an absolute load of b.s., and it has always infuriated me. -- Wndr.
by Wonderment
Wed Dec 12, 2018 1:52 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: I'm about to be officially "outed": NOM Crowd-Sourcing
Replies: 68
Views: 1860

Re: I'm about to be officially "outed": NOM Crowd-Sourcing

This thread is basically about how to keep the focus on the bride and groom, so I guess on of my best replies might be: "Today is about (happy couple.) If you really want to talk about me at some point in the future, let me know." (The vast majority of believers don't really want to talk about it, ...
by Wonderment
Sun Dec 09, 2018 9:40 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: A tithing victory?
Replies: 9
Views: 439

Re: A tithing victory?

I feel like this is a big win. A few years ago the idea that we wouldn’t pay tithing on gross was unthinkable. The lack of financial transparency is probably one of his biggest issues with the church. It ends up the amount we’ll donate is a fairly substantial donation (since we’re looking at percen...
by Wonderment
Thu Nov 15, 2018 7:20 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Resignation Submitted!
Replies: 22
Views: 660

Re: Resignation Submitted!

Congratulations ! Today is the first day of the rest of your life. :) Congratulations to your wife and daughter also. Hopefully some other members of your ward who were thinking about leaving will be inspired by your example. It's a wonderful feeling to be free of that grim oppressive dogma, the lon...
by Wonderment
Wed Nov 14, 2018 1:08 am
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: Connection to Christianity Waning...
Replies: 27
Views: 744

Re: Connection to Christianity Waning...

Bishop Spong is a very articulate theologian with a very solid grasp on the New Testament. I have his book "Rescuing the Bible From Fundamentalism", and it is a powerful treatise on how fundamentalists ( and Calvinists) misinterpret scripture. From a fairly early age, I was skeptical about the belie...