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by Wonderment
Sat May 14, 2022 2:19 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: You go Christina !!
Replies: 2
Views: 122

Re: You go Christina !!

HI Meilingkie ! Always nice to hear from you !! Thanks for sending this along ! Hope that all is well with you, and I look forward to listening to what Christina has to say. Best wishes, from Wndr. :)
by Wonderment
Fri May 13, 2022 12:44 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Anxiety and Depression
Replies: 21
Views: 304

Re: Anxiety and Depression

Maybe I could talk her into both seeing her counselor to see if we could set boundaries with the church in our marriage. So yeah the church is a pain in my a$$. Stuck -- This is an excellent idea.If she likes and trusts the counselor, she'll then be open to listening and considering feedback. For e...
by Wonderment
Thu May 12, 2022 8:48 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Anxiety and Depression
Replies: 21
Views: 304

Re: Anxiety and Depression

To add: I would like to suggest a good book, which is a true story about learning to set boundaries while living with TBM's. It's titled "Educated" by Tara Westover, who grew up in a rigidly strict Mormon family in rural Idaho. Her family was so strict, that they would not send her to school, but in...
by Wonderment
Thu May 12, 2022 8:37 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Anxiety and Depression
Replies: 21
Views: 304

Re: Anxiety and Depression

Xanax or other medication can help calm the symptoms for awhile, and you should do whatever your doctor directs you to do. If the Dr. has you on prescription meds, then follow the Dr.'s orders about that. But medications sometimes don't get to the heart of the anxiety and depression, which is the cr...
by Wonderment
Thu Apr 28, 2022 5:32 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: How deep is your hole?
Replies: 15
Views: 491

Re: How deep is your hole?

Here's another one. I decided to listen to Easter Sacrament Meeting this year. We have a great choir. My neighbor, a retired BYU professor, was the main speaker. He gave a really nice talk about redemption, and told the resurrection story from a very Mormon, but uplifting point of view. But then he...
by Wonderment
Mon Apr 25, 2022 4:22 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Congrats to any BYU grads!
Replies: 8
Views: 326

Re: Congrats to any BYU grads!

Serious question -- Don't the BYU grads have something called an "ecclesiastical recommendation" or "ecclesiastical endorsement" which has to be signed off by a male university official before the grad is allowed to have a copy of the diploma and their transcripts? We used to have a poster here who ...
by Wonderment
Thu Apr 14, 2022 11:28 am
Forum: Support
Topic: A Message From Heavenly Mother
Replies: 12
Views: 455

Re: A Message From Heavenly Mother

PS: Wonder I love your ideas and love reading your posts on NOM. If you were an active member of the church, I’d totally make you the General Relief Society President of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saintz (I love hip hop too 😀) :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: My dear RR - HM! !! You are SUCH a...
by Wonderment
Wed Apr 13, 2022 1:11 am
Forum: Support
Topic: A Message From Heavenly Mother
Replies: 12
Views: 455

Re: A Message From Heavenly Mother

As some of you know “Live, Laugh, Love” used to be my go to phrase until Hobby Lobby sold the shit out of it. Oopsie, excuse my potty mouth. The mantra is the same so I’ll keep it simple. Be kind to each other. Love wins. You all are beautiful people. I love reading your little corner of the intern...
by Wonderment
Mon Apr 04, 2022 12:06 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: POST CONFERENCE UPDATE on the Stealths
Replies: 10
Views: 542

Re: POST CONFERENCE UPDATE on the Stealths

I think you're doing a wonderful job of supporting your wife through her transition ! You're showing lots of empathy and understanding, which is so important. It is sometimes said here that the good values found in the church are not exclusive to the church. They can be found in many other spiritual...
by Wonderment
Thu Mar 31, 2022 4:20 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: I can't do this anymore
Replies: 10
Views: 496

Re: I can't do this anymore

Read the original GC talk given by Elder Ronald Poelman's in the November 1984 conference. OR a BY talk about how Adam-God is absolute doctrine and you cannot be saved if you do not believe it. End the talk by saying you next talk will be to read the 1948 statement from the FP on the state of black...
by Wonderment
Fri Feb 11, 2022 1:49 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Why are we not discussing the Brad Wilcox fireside?
Replies: 66
Views: 4088

Re: Why are we not discussing the Brad Wilcox fireside?

Brad’s childish because Mormon’s never metaphorically graduate from the third grade. PG movies No sleepovers Modesty rhetoric… cOvER YoRe ShouLdeRz… Blessing donuts to nourish and strengthen. The thinking has been done. Follow the prophet. Nothing Brad said was offensive to Mormons. He was repeatin...
by Wonderment
Wed Feb 02, 2022 3:50 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Fight The New Drug
Replies: 95
Views: 6816

Re: Fight The New Drug

It's two very extremist ends of a relationship spectrum, and it is completely unrealistic. Both men and women become miserable trying to meet the demands and live up to the expectations imposed on them by purity culture at one end and porn culture at the other end. -- Wndr. Back to my original "Wha...
by Wonderment
Sun Jan 30, 2022 3:59 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: I'm officially a lazy learner!
Replies: 26
Views: 1627

Re: I'm officially a lazy learner!

So I finally said those magic words: "I'm taking a break from church." I thought DH would be upset, but there was a football game, so he was only like 30% listening to me anyway. And you know something else - I haven't given a talk since 2015. I haven't held a calling since 2018. I don't feed the m...
by Wonderment
Thu Jan 27, 2022 3:04 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Fight The New Drug
Replies: 95
Views: 6816

Re: Fight The New Drug

Hagoth Re: Fight The New Drug Unread post by Hagoth » Thu Jan 27, 2022 6:36 am Wonderment wrote: ↑ Wed Jan 26, 2022 1:23 pm Then he marries her when she turns 18, he takes her out of her mundane world, and into his world. She immediately becomes pregnant and births a vampire child.... But she is su...
by Wonderment
Thu Jan 27, 2022 1:44 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Fight The New Drug
Replies: 95
Views: 6816

Re: Fight The New Drug

This is why TBM women adore this story. So... Loaded question, coming right up! What's the difference between a TBM woman fantasizing about sparkly vegetarian vampires, and a TBM man fantasizing about an "actress" ? (A sparkly actress, a naked actress, a sparkly naked actress, a sparkly vegetarian ...
by Wonderment
Thu Jan 27, 2022 12:31 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Fight The New Drug
Replies: 95
Views: 6816

Re: Fight The New Drug

A former coworker always bragged about being in the same ward as Stephanie Meyer. It was so cringe. He was eventually fired and moved to Utah. ;) I always felt that "Twi-hards", (which is what the fans call themselves :lol: ) consider Meyer to be some brilliant luminary like Charlotte Bronte, or Lo...
by Wonderment
Wed Jan 26, 2022 2:23 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Fight The New Drug
Replies: 95
Views: 6816

Re: Fight The New Drug

It's like the prince or the Mormon husband who rescues the young bride and is responsible for pulling her though the veil at the end. It's like a temple story. Mormon women will relate to it, although it's a boring, badly written story. - Wndr. The author is Mormon, right? Do the vampires have to g...
by Wonderment
Tue Jan 25, 2022 1:15 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Fight The New Drug
Replies: 95
Views: 6816

Re: Fight The New Drug

So for people who manage to escape church purity culture, the world of porn looks like a panacea of relief. It's unfettered, it's fun, it's delicious, there are no rules, shaming, or guilt, it's very intense and satisfying to a human body who has been starved of any sexual activity and who has been ...
by Wonderment
Mon Jan 24, 2022 11:59 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Fight The New Drug
Replies: 95
Views: 6816

Re: Fight The New Drug

Oh man. I was at Comicon in San Diego one year (not as an attendee but as a speaker) and they were premiering one of the Twilight movies at a nearby theater. The line was around the block and I was shocked to see that about 80% of the crowd were women over 40. Sorry for the delay in replying. First...
by Wonderment
Fri Jan 21, 2022 2:24 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Fight The New Drug
Replies: 95
Views: 6816

Re: Fight The New Drug

Hagoth, I completely agree with you that the church's viewpoint on masturbation/ pornography is ridiculous, and shaming people about that is harmful. That's a given for me. Masturbation is a normal part of growing into adulthood, and so is viewing erotica or porn, because humans with human bodies ar...