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by Deepthinker
Thu Jan 28, 2021 9:00 am
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion
Replies: 36
Views: 3182

Re: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion

So sorry you're going through this and that you're having to juggle all of it with a wedding coming up. I wish I had good words of advice, but the others are better than me for sure. If you ever need to vent, feel free to message anytime. Thank you! I've confided in two of my brothers now about pla...
by Deepthinker
Fri Jan 22, 2021 1:17 pm
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion
Replies: 36
Views: 3182

Re: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion

I am making some plans toward divorce after my daughter's wedding. I'm sure that was a hard decision to come to, but from what you have posted you have clearly done all that could be reasonably asked of you. I wish you luck as you navigate the rapids ahead and hopefully you come out the other side ...
by Deepthinker
Fri Jan 22, 2021 1:16 pm
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion
Replies: 36
Views: 3182

Re: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion

Well, that's a bit more information. My best to you and your kids as you navigate whatever you do next. Just wanted to say thank you. For your kind words and caring. You did help solidify things about my marriage, from your questions and pushing me to evaluate my marriage harder. I am making some p...
by Deepthinker
Tue Jan 19, 2021 2:37 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Status updates?
Replies: 16
Views: 684

Re: Status updates?

Our ward is making in-person Sacrament meeting optional. The church service portion (minus Sacrament) is broadcast for ward members to watch from home. They've asked that half the ward go one week, the other half attend the other week to reduce the number of people at church (split it by last name a...
by Deepthinker
Tue Jan 19, 2021 2:32 pm
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Cognitive dissonance
Replies: 2
Views: 227

Re: Cognitive dissonance

It is hard to know for sure what is going on with someone. My wife is similar, sometimes says she hates going to church but still goes. For her, I think there are many things going on. She's committed to attending because of family, the comfortable nature of doing what you've always done your entire...
by Deepthinker
Tue Jan 19, 2021 2:20 pm
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion
Replies: 36
Views: 3182

Re: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion

Well, that's a bit more information. My best to you and your kids as you navigate whatever you do next. Just wanted to say thank you. For your kind words and caring. You did help solidify things about my marriage, from your questions and pushing me to evaluate my marriage harder. I am making some p...
by Deepthinker
Fri Jan 08, 2021 9:54 am
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion
Replies: 36
Views: 3182

Re: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion

Call me and optimist but I think, based on what I've read about your situation, that your marriage is salvageable and that bliss is possible. Of course, I'm like one blind man touching an elephant. I only have a small picture and only the small picture you've opened up. Still, there are a few thing...
by Deepthinker
Thu Jan 07, 2021 3:50 pm
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion
Replies: 36
Views: 3182

Re: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion

I read through Cnsl1’s post just because it was new, then glanced back to the original post and between the two, it triggered a thought. I think Cnsl1 is correct that your wife doesn’t know how to help you feel supported emotionally. Then I saw when you talked about being suicidal. Yup, that is an ...
by Deepthinker
Thu Jan 07, 2021 3:48 pm
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion
Replies: 36
Views: 3182

Re: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion

The advice in this thread has been wonderful to read and has helped me reflect on my relationship. DT, it’s never easy to be pleasy. At some point you’ll know the right decision for you. That decision will bring both relief and heartache. I’ve watched a brother and a few friends go through a divorc...
by Deepthinker
Wed Jan 06, 2021 1:56 pm
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion
Replies: 36
Views: 3182

Re: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion

I read through Cnsl1’s post just because it was new, then glanced back to the original post and between the two, it triggered a thought. I think Cnsl1 is correct that your wife doesn’t know how to help you feel supported emotionally. Then I saw when you talked about being suicidal. Yup, that is an ...
by Deepthinker
Wed Jan 06, 2021 1:54 pm
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion
Replies: 36
Views: 3182

Re: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion

I feel for you, deepthinker, and hope things work out. I think you've been given some good advice, and I'll just add a little based on experience, research, and training. Understand that all we have to go on is one side, and just bits and pieces of that side. Something that gives me hope for your m...
by Deepthinker
Wed Jan 06, 2021 1:42 pm
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion
Replies: 36
Views: 3182

Re: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion

I was the 1st out of the church in our marriage. Some dark stuff with abuse of kids by brother-in-law, and DH had a few issues that I kicked him out of the house for. I was prepared for divorce, am able to support myself and kids - have a really good job and work community that has been my salvatio...
by Deepthinker
Wed Jan 06, 2021 1:42 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Attending my Daughter's Temple Wedding?
Replies: 29
Views: 1351

Re: Attending my Daughter's Temple Wedding?

Thanks all! I'm planning on attending!
by Deepthinker
Fri Dec 18, 2020 4:37 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Attending my Daughter's Temple Wedding?
Replies: 29
Views: 1351

Re: Attending my Daughter's Temple Wedding?

When I still had a recommend I looked at it this way: it's my temple as much as anybody else's. I paid a hefty amount to build these things and to buy the privilege of attending, I can go and sit there and feel and think about whatever I want. Even when my wife knew I didn't believe any of it she a...
by Deepthinker
Fri Dec 18, 2020 4:35 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Attending my Daughter's Temple Wedding?
Replies: 29
Views: 1351

Re: Attending my Daughter's Temple Wedding?

Just one more opinion that isn't worth much. But my first thought was this is not your wife's day. It's your daughter's day. And if your daughter wants you there and you want to be there, that's where you should be. FWIW, River I do value your opinion, there's experience and caring behind it I can ...
by Deepthinker
Fri Dec 18, 2020 4:34 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Attending my Daughter's Temple Wedding?
Replies: 29
Views: 1351

Re: Attending my Daughter's Temple Wedding?

You literally paid cold, hard cash for access to the temple. Take what you paid for. I think it would be tragic to miss her wedding out of some kind of misguided sense of principle. Look at it this way - the Church doesn’t deserve to be taken seriously. If you miss the wedding because you feel like...
by Deepthinker
Fri Dec 18, 2020 8:02 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Attending my Daughter's Temple Wedding?
Replies: 29
Views: 1351

Re: Attending my Daughter's Temple Wedding?

I sat out for my son's wedding a couple of years ago and it was hard, although neither of my other grown children were there either so I didn't feel so alone on the outside. When I was moaning to some non LDS coworkers about this, it somehow came up that the temple sealing ceremony wasn't at all li...
by Deepthinker
Fri Dec 18, 2020 8:00 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Attending my Daughter's Temple Wedding?
Replies: 29
Views: 1351

Re: Attending my Daughter's Temple Wedding?

Just go. Hasn’t the church stolen enough from us? Why let them take away the chance to see your daughter get married. You got the ticket. So go. Thanks RR! I am thinking I'll go. It reminds me of this one lady in our ward who started to come back to church, worked toward getting her recommend and w...
by Deepthinker
Fri Dec 18, 2020 7:57 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Attending my Daughter's Temple Wedding?
Replies: 29
Views: 1351

Re: Attending my Daughter's Temple Wedding?

I'm sorry Deepthinker, that really sucks. This is one of those situations where former believers just have 2 bad choices. Which do you think you would regret more? Missing your daughter's sealing or compromising your morals to be there? I think WTFluff has a great point too about whether or not you...
by Deepthinker
Fri Dec 18, 2020 7:55 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Attending my Daughter's Temple Wedding?
Replies: 29
Views: 1351

Re: Attending my Daughter's Temple Wedding?

Honestly, to me there's only one question here that matters: Does your daughter want you there? It seems she understands your state of disbelief, so if she wants you there, then nothing else really matters. "The Church" has pretended to be True™ for your entire lifetime. You still have a golden tic...