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by alas
Fri Sep 20, 2019 1:53 pm
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: I need help. Im so lost, I hurt, she hurts. I have no hope.
Replies: 4
Views: 76

Re: I need help. Im so lost, I hurt, she hurts. I have no hope.

I am a retired social worker and did a small amount of what would be called marriage counseling with couples where there had been domestic violence, and I do have one thought from my experience and that is that it is never a good idea to tell your spouse your sexual fantasies, or even that you have ...
by alas
Fri Sep 20, 2019 12:35 pm
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: Major changes to organizations and auxiliaries set for October conference
Replies: 10
Views: 393

Re: Major changes to organizations and auxiliaries set for October conference

So it would make sense that they make some organizational changes to streamline their corporate structure and then throw a small bone to women by letting them be a witness... I mean it's all a lie anyway so what does it matter? But yeah - giving women the ability to be a "witness" will absolutely g...
by alas
Fri Sep 20, 2019 7:35 am
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: New topless ruling for Utah
Replies: 8
Views: 186

Re: New topless ruling for Utah

Huh? :?: George Langel of Ft. Collins pointed out what he says is a contradiction of laws: Just seems like a contradictory of laws a woman can expose her breasts, but a man can’t go in an alley behind a dumpster and take a pee without coming up on criminal charges. How is baring one's chest in publ...
by alas
Fri Sep 20, 2019 7:08 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Resume fun
Replies: 8
Views: 189

Re: Resume fun

Before I had any real job experience, except mother of three, I was advised to put down volunteer experience. I had a bit of that, even in the mental health field. Whoever the advisor was, I asked specifically about church volunteer positions and without knowing I was Mormon or being Mormon himself ...
by alas
Thu Sep 19, 2019 3:07 am
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: Pres Nelson's BYU Speech Today
Replies: 54
Views: 1421

Re: Pres Nelson's BYU Speech Today

I am just now getting up to speed with Ol' Nellie's talk. Can anyone explain why he would even talk about the policy reversal like this right now? I know it was a topic of discussion for a while after it happened, but like most news, seemed like the tide had past. Is the policy reversal still a hot...
by alas
Wed Sep 11, 2019 12:13 pm
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Kids in MFM
Replies: 14
Views: 322

Re: Kids in MFM

I suspect that he lashed out at you because of his own guilty conscience over the tea. But, the sexist bullpucky should not be left to stand. I would wait a few days, then bring up what he said and ask him if he was just angry or if he really feels that way. If he says he does, then tell him women l...
by alas
Wed Sep 11, 2019 11:28 am
Forum: Support
Topic: MLK Jr.
Replies: 12
Views: 301

Re: MLK Jr.

Why must you insist on turning the tide on a group you clearly don't agree with? ... Because they brainwashed me and lied to me. They hurt me. They stole my self from me. Because they teach mothers to despise their lesbian daughter. My niece had to cut off all relations with her family of origin be...
by alas
Wed Sep 11, 2019 11:16 am
Forum: Support
Topic: MLK Jr.
Replies: 12
Views: 301

Re: MLK Jr.

Why must you insist on turning the tide on a group you clearly don't agree with? ... Because they brainwashed me and lied to me. They hurt me. They stole my self from me. Because they teach mothers to despise their lesbian daughter. My niece had to cut off all relations with her family of origin be...
by alas
Tue Sep 10, 2019 2:45 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: MLK Jr.
Replies: 12
Views: 301

Re: MLK Jr.

I had the privilege of flying to the South and watching BYU come back and beat the Tennessee Volunteers in a football game last weekend. Go cougars. I had a few hours in Atlanta so I stopped by the Martin Luther King, Jr. National Historical Park. It was moving to read the stories of the struggles ...
by alas
Tue Sep 10, 2019 10:03 am
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: Things I learned in seminary
Replies: 19
Views: 546

Re: Things I learned in seminary

I know there is a lot of crap that gets taught. I even had one teacher teach that Cain is Bigfoot. But I also had one teacher, New Testament, who taught us about Jesus. It was kind of more Christian than Mormon, because it was about unconditional love, Grace, and how God gives us the atonement just ...
by alas
Sun Sep 08, 2019 3:33 pm
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: Book of Abraham
Replies: 48
Views: 1238

Re: Book of Abraham

The more time passes, the more disillusioned I feel. The Book of Abraham breaks into all belief that JS did more than channel something going on in his imagination. None of the many other things I've learned have put such a hole in me. But the evidence cannot be refuted without doing some mental gy...
by alas
Sun Sep 08, 2019 3:13 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Ed Smart comes out as gay
Replies: 30
Views: 1049

Re: Ed Smart comes out as gay

Having been out of the NOM loop for a couple years, I don't know whether the experiences of Josh and Lolly Weed have been talked about here, but if not, this would be a good time to bring them up. The Weeds are a recently divorced mixed-orientation couple, both LDS and marriage counselors, who open...
by alas
Sat Sep 07, 2019 12:40 pm
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: Four-year seminary graduation required for foreign missions
Replies: 14
Views: 393

Re: Four-year seminary graduation required for foreign missions

I was told that there are some foreign countries that will only allow missionaries to preach publicly that have completed a seminary training program before they can be religious ministers in their country. Don’t know if that’s true or not, but does make some sense. Little do they realize that LDS ...
by alas
Sat Sep 07, 2019 12:35 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Ed Smart comes out as gay
Replies: 30
Views: 1049

Re: Ed Smart comes out as gay

I KNEW with that first kiss, that the sexual chemistry was not there. So, what is wrong when a woman can’t tell? What is wrong with her instincts? I can kind of see what is wrong in my SIL, maybe, just guessing. it is a need to be loved that overrides her own common sense and her instincts about wh...
by alas
Sat Sep 07, 2019 9:36 am
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: Four-year seminary graduation required for foreign missions
Replies: 14
Views: 393

Re: Four-year seminary graduation required for foreign missions

Another board brought to my attention that graduation from seminary is required for anyone to be considered for a foreign mission. Does anyone know more about this protocol? It doesn't surprise me, but I wonder how members feel about that. When I was active, it was usually stressed that foreign mis...
by alas
Sat Sep 07, 2019 9:27 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Ed Smart comes out as gay
Replies: 30
Views: 1049

Re: Ed Smart comes out as gay

NOTHING is private about Facebook. You can add to that list twitter, Instagram and any other of those big social media sites. If you are well known or infamous, anything you post can come back and bite you. And in this case it came back to bite Ed Smart. From the way I see it this situation is mess...
by alas
Tue Sep 03, 2019 4:01 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Good Discussion with TBM Family with some Fallout
Replies: 22
Views: 792

Re: Good Discussion with TBM Family with some Fallout

One big reason “happily ever after” doesn’t happen is because the church insists that being a full time mother to a house full of small children is wonderfully fulfilling. At least to women it is supposed to be so wonderful. The men know it would be awful for them, but somehow think that is all wome...
by alas
Tue Sep 03, 2019 9:39 am
Forum: Support
Topic: What does the church get right?
Replies: 30
Views: 875

Re: What does the church get right?

I think the church does take care of members who have fallen on difficult times to a degree. But somehow they always seem to do it just a little begrudgingly. I have to respectfully disagree. I had a heart attack a month ago and required a bit of surgery. This was completely out of the blue. I am 4...
by alas
Mon Sep 02, 2019 2:27 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Good Discussion with TBM Family with some Fallout
Replies: 22
Views: 792

Re: Good Discussion with TBM Family with some Fallout

:lol: This seems manipulative and very unnecessary. She's trapped and cannot do anything about it, but his is her life now, so she will show the entire gathering how trapped and persecuted she is? What if you, Linked, broke down in public whenever she talked about how devoted she was to the church,...
by alas
Mon Sep 02, 2019 8:24 am
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: What did you really learn from the temple ceremony?
Replies: 59
Views: 1503

Re: What did you really learn from the temple ceremony?

Kids readily take to audio-visual learning. Perhaps this might help: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3BA3SO1sokA Skip to 1:24 if you are pressed for time. :) My kids are adults and I know at least one has looked up the temple ceremony. I was actually speaking in context of being in the LDS Church, ...