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by alas
Mon Mar 18, 2024 8:22 am
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: Teaching the wrong stuff
Replies: 15
Views: 397

Re: Teaching the wrong stuff

The progressive stance you're taking is basically this. 1. Protect our politicians with pistols and long guns but not our children while they're in school. 2. Protect our judges with pistols and long guns but not our children while they're are in school. 3. Apparently you are OK with police and eve...
by alas
Mon Mar 18, 2024 8:19 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Declining callings and talks is getting easier for me
Replies: 2
Views: 58

Re: Declining callings and talks is getting easier for me

Good for you in drawing better boundaries than the church likes. The secret meeting stuff is really a power play to cause anxiety and remind you they are the au-tho-ri-ty. And this guy’s attitude on the phone was a bit arrogant in assuming you know his calling and au-tho-ri-ty. Especially to an inac...
by alas
Sun Mar 17, 2024 3:28 pm
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: Teaching the wrong stuff
Replies: 15
Views: 397

Re: Teaching the wrong stuff

Thanks for your thought-provoking post, alas, and also for the helpful communication tips in your other thread. Marriage is one area where the church teaches all the wrong stuff. In the 80’s and 90’s, the church’s programs for teens and young adults put an enormous focus on avoiding pre-marital sex...
by alas
Sun Mar 17, 2024 3:01 pm
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: Teaching the wrong stuff
Replies: 15
Views: 397

Re: Teaching the wrong stuff

Dirty bird, read the book. It gave the statistics to say why it is BOTH guns and lack of mental health support. And it named all kinds of things that your swear word Republicans fight such as better mental health programs for the poor and in schools. If it is REALLY mental health, why are the repub...
by alas
Sun Mar 17, 2024 10:44 am
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: Teaching the wrong stuff
Replies: 15
Views: 397

Re: Teaching the wrong stuff

Dirty bird, read the book. It gave the statistics to say why it is BOTH guns and lack of mental health support. And it named all kinds of things that your swear word Republicans fight such as better mental health programs for the poor and in schools. If it is REALLY mental health, why are the republ...
by alas
Sun Mar 17, 2024 10:38 am
Forum: Support
Topic: How do you define Mormonism?
Replies: 54
Views: 4951

Re: How do you define Mormonism?

I don't know if a church support group would really be that positive. Their answer for every problem is more prayer and scripture study. It becomes more guilt, heaped on the person seeking help, because they aren't praying hard enough. The support should be at the pulpit, preaching the need for lov...
by alas
Sun Mar 17, 2024 10:05 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Communication skills
Replies: 60
Views: 3302

Re: Communication skills

These are great tips fam, thanks for taking the time! I've read through this a few times, but haven't had the time to formulate a response, sorry to let it sit for so long. slow the whole conversation down. Start by narrowing the subject... No dirty fighting... kitchen sinking is when you bring oth...
by alas
Sun Mar 17, 2024 9:08 am
Forum: Support
Topic: We’re back! Thanks Captain Salty!
Replies: 10
Views: 167

Re: We’re back! Thanks Captain Salty!

,We are back, again.
by alas
Mon Mar 11, 2024 11:06 am
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: Teaching the wrong stuff
Replies: 15
Views: 397

Teaching the wrong stuff

I am reading a book about mass shooters and it is heavy enough I have to take it in bits and pieces. It helps that I have a degree in psychology. It talks about school shooters, but also those who go into work places, stores, churches. It has been analyzing what it is about American society that we ...
by alas
Mon Mar 11, 2024 10:18 am
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: Looking back....
Replies: 12
Views: 751

Re: Looking back....

Baptism didn’t bother me until they made it absolutely mandatory and that was Catholic twisting what Jesus actually taught. It should be symbolic of washing away the old person and rebirthing a new person who takes the name of Christ and lives a life following his example. It should never be used as...
by alas
Mon Mar 11, 2024 10:01 am
Forum: Support
Topic: We’re back! Thanks Captain Salty!
Replies: 10
Views: 167

Re: We’re back! Thanks Captain Salty!

Yes, thank you for fixing NOM and I know it probably took some time. I missed it because this has become kind of my favorite people social group.
by alas
Mon Feb 19, 2024 7:25 pm
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: Looking back....
Replies: 12
Views: 751

Re: Looking back....

Excellent point. Our society recognizes it is unfair for 8 year olds to make an adult decision, but the Church baptizes them and then Bednar tells them they are obligated for eternity. It is so manipulative. :cry: And the covenants we make as adults, or late teens, we are not told what they are ahe...
by alas
Mon Feb 19, 2024 7:18 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Question on Mormon Cooking
Replies: 22
Views: 627

Re: Question on Mormon Cooking

Mormon food tends to be bland because so many early converts were from New England. I mean, all 6 of my “crossed the plains in a covered wagon or hand cart” ancestors were from New England. And that is all the ancestors I have in that generation. From the “overseas” converts, the biggest group was E...
by alas
Mon Feb 19, 2024 7:12 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Question on Mormon Cooking
Replies: 22
Views: 627

Re: Question on Mormon Cooking

I have Mormon cooking questions, too. 1) do you have recommended cooking wines? I need to get some that aren’t the kind from the Utah grocery store loaded with salt. 2) Is it okay to bring a good tiramisu to a ward function? 3) is it still a thing to add ground up pinto beans to zucchini bread? See...
by alas
Mon Feb 12, 2024 4:02 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: The church and Equal Rights for women
Replies: 15
Views: 462

Re: The church and Equal Rights for women

I find it odd that few women called to the general boards of primary, Relief Society and Young Women are the stay-at-home moms that the church has proclaimed women should be. They do not follow the prescribed path. The Second Wives Club does not seem to fit the model either. That is an interesting ...
by alas
Sun Feb 11, 2024 4:56 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Communication skills
Replies: 60
Views: 3302

Re: Communication skills

Rule #2 I statements. I am going to break this up a little differently, into 3 parts. Above I only mentioned 2 parts, then had an interruption and didn’t get back, and yesterday I was essentially gone all day. But “I statements” have two necessary parts and one optional but very helpful part. A The ...
by alas
Fri Feb 09, 2024 4:56 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Communication skills
Replies: 60
Views: 3302

Re: Communication skills

So, back to communications. There are other dirty fighting techniques, and Mayan is correct to name passive aggressive. Women are probably best at passive aggressive. You have all see the jokes going around about what your wife means when she says, “go right ahead and do what you want.” As the guy i...
by alas
Fri Feb 09, 2024 3:42 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Communication skills
Replies: 60
Views: 3302

Re: Communication skills

I have been thinking about what to tell Angel about not trusting feelings. This is really quite common in the mental health world. The cure for it depends on the reason for it. Some people take it so far they stop having feelings and become kind of like Mr. Spock. They operate as much as possible f...
by alas
Tue Feb 06, 2024 11:52 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Communication skills
Replies: 60
Views: 3302

Re: Communication skills

Alright, I will kind of aim the discussions at how to talk to your still believing family, since I hope none of you are involved in things like domestic violence or some of the other crap I worked with. :shock: So, the first part of communication is understanding the other person, so, we will start...
by alas
Tue Feb 06, 2024 11:03 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Communication skills
Replies: 60
Views: 3302

Re: Communication skills

And sorry to be only getting to this every other day or so. I thought that because I am sitting around so much after surgery, that I would have time. But it takes both time and not being in so much pain that I don’t want to deal with it. As I start trying to walk again, I find I am in more pain tha...