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by Somegirl
Tue Aug 06, 2019 9:16 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Help with outing myself?
Replies: 33
Views: 1201

Re: Help with outing myself?

In addition the the Dan Savage video that Red Ryder referenced, here’s another helpful link. Give it a quick read as well... https://www.patheos.com/blogs/excommunications/2015/04/the-one-reason-why-you-dont-need-to-purchase-your-disbelief/ Thank you so much, Hermey. I really liked this article. I ...
by Somegirl
Mon Aug 05, 2019 8:16 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Help with outing myself?
Replies: 33
Views: 1201

Re: Help with outing myself?

After watching my video, my parents, who were very gracious and loving about it all, said that at some point they would want to talk to me about "all this," to which I replied, "That's fine. I'm ok talking, but I'm also ok just leaving it alone." We have done the latter. The elephant remains, but i...
by Somegirl
Mon Aug 05, 2019 8:13 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Help with outing myself?
Replies: 33
Views: 1201

Re: Help with outing myself? Update

Update: well, I tried. Edited to remove details: I tried to talk to my parents, and my mom avoided the convo. She looked ready to run away or start crying. So... I am not quite sure where to go. For now, I guess I consider it done. I wish we could have had a conversation, but maybe another time. May...
by Somegirl
Sun Jul 07, 2019 8:39 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Help with outing myself?
Replies: 33
Views: 1201

Re: Help with outing myself?

My being out will be complete this weekend as I sit out my kids baptism and allow grandpa to step in. Natural progression. I'm sure it is widely known through gossip anyway. So be it. I’m so sorry. That must be really hard on you. It brings back memories of the cog dis I felt when my husband “could...
by Somegirl
Sun Jul 07, 2019 8:35 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Help with outing myself?
Replies: 33
Views: 1201

Re: Help with outing myself?

The Beast wrote:
Thu Jul 04, 2019 8:46 am
It's still up. If anyone wants a link, let me know.
I’d love to see your video, if you’re willing to share it!
by Somegirl
Mon Jul 01, 2019 9:29 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Help with outing myself?
Replies: 33
Views: 1201

Re: Help with outing myself?

So I haven’t been able to talk with my parents at all, but I have spoken with my mother in law a bit. She outright asked me if I ever get to go to church anymore (she knows DH doesn’t go). I said “not really, but that’s ok”. She said it wasn’t ok. I told her I “have a hard time with some of the stuf...
by Somegirl
Mon Jul 01, 2019 9:23 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: The awkward masturbation talk
Replies: 13
Views: 644

Re: The awkward masturbation talk

Anyone ever have a masturbation talk that didn’t go very well? Totally. Hubby’s friend and (friend’s) wife told me all about his experiment with masturbating after leaving the church. Guess what?! He didn’t feel guilty at all!! While I’m happy that the guilt and shame have gone, I really would have...
by Somegirl
Wed Jun 05, 2019 12:47 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Help with outing myself?
Replies: 33
Views: 1201

Re: Help with outing myself?

Thank you Red Ryder. I will watch that video. I am not afraid of confrontation, so much as a detoured conversation/extra questions that I may not want to answer. I appreciate your thoughts.
by Somegirl
Wed Jun 05, 2019 8:21 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Help with outing myself?
Replies: 33
Views: 1201

Re: Help with outing myself?

Thanks everyone. This is helpful. My husband suggested just not saying anything also, but it’s hard to just not say anything. I have a sibling that got married, and was married for 6 months before any of us knew. My mom was the last to know. It caused a lot of stress and heartache for my mom, and I ...
by Somegirl
Mon Jun 03, 2019 9:34 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Need help with a response
Replies: 5
Views: 258

Re: Need help with a response

I like some of the other suggestions that have been offered. What form of communication did this person use? My neighbor texted me a week or so ago to tell me that her (grown) daughter is my son’s primary teacher. And if he ever wants to go to primary, she’s happy to sit with him. I just ignored the...
by Somegirl
Mon Jun 03, 2019 9:26 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Help with outing myself?
Replies: 33
Views: 1201

Help with outing myself?

I’m finally ready to out myself to my parents. It’s getting more and more difficult to dodge the questions, spiritual emails, and church speak. I may even be brave and out myself to my in-laws... but we will see. I’d also like to start wearing tank tops for the hot summer, and feel like I need to sa...
by Somegirl
Thu Feb 07, 2019 3:27 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: What’s the difference...
Replies: 10
Views: 670

Re: What’s the difference...

So you are saying there is no difference other than just they start paying dues at baptism? Thanks for the insight. They basically just don’t have boundaries, do they? My sister did submit to quit Mormon, so she’s just waiting for confirmation that it’s all done with. I’m considering doing the same ...
by Somegirl
Tue Feb 05, 2019 8:11 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: What’s the difference...
Replies: 10
Views: 670

What’s the difference...

Between blessing of a child (or putting the name on the record of the church) vs baptism in the eyes of the church? I know that once a person has been baptized they are a member, but how does that differ from just being on the records? My sister’s kids haven’t been baptized, but were put on the reco...
by Somegirl
Wed Jan 23, 2019 5:25 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Text from Bishop
Replies: 22
Views: 1123

Re: Text from Bishop

Did you get a chance to respond yet? I think I would do something simple like: Thanks for thinking of and praying for me. I’m not up to participating with the scouts at this time. I just had to send something similar to the RS pres about ministering. She was very polite back and wished me a happy ne...
by Somegirl
Wed Jan 23, 2019 5:22 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Facebook "Education Help"
Replies: 11
Views: 563

Re: Facebook "Education Help"

https://imgs.xkcd.com/comics/duty_calls.png Humans are weirdly drawn in by this phenomena and I don't know how to "fix" it. My solution has been to never post on anything on social media and simply avoid those arguments, particularly with people I know. If you manage to add me as a friend on Facebo...
by Somegirl
Sat Dec 22, 2018 9:02 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: In which I was voluntold
Replies: 16
Views: 806

Re: In which I was voluntold

This sounds like torture to me. I guess some people enjoy social events with people they don’t know well, but I’m not one of those people. My neighbor keeps inviting me to RS activities, and so far I’ve been able to politely decline, but I don’t know how I would respond if she got pushy like these l...
by Somegirl
Fri Dec 14, 2018 8:40 am
Forum: Support
Topic: I'm about to be officially "outed": NOM Crowd-Sourcing
Replies: 68
Views: 2431

Re: I'm about to be officially "outed": NOM Crowd-Sourcing

I’m sorry this is happening to you. I have missed a few of my siblings weddings, but I had good excuses (brand new nursing baby) and siblings weddings aren’t the same as kids. I hope you can enjoy the day! I’m sure it will be draining with all of the looks and/or questions from relatives. Hopefully ...
by Somegirl
Fri Dec 14, 2018 8:18 am
Forum: Support
Topic: I’m back - with more questions
Replies: 9
Views: 629

Re: I’m back - with more questions

Thanks for your responses everyone. It seems strange to me that for a long time nobody visited us. I believe the EQ president is our home teacher/ministering person. He’s never visited us. My next door neighbor (the other one) visits occasionally, but she always has and it never seems to be in the n...
by Somegirl
Wed Dec 12, 2018 7:39 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: I’m back - with more questions
Replies: 9
Views: 629

I’m back - with more questions

So I’ve been quite busy, but have also been trying to read through the archives here. I feel like I know some of you much better now! Just a quick update from my post about meeting with the bishopric counselor (I don’t know how to link that post, so sorry) - I kept getting called/emailed to meet wit...
by Somegirl
Tue Jun 05, 2018 12:23 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Advice please? Update
Replies: 13
Views: 925

Re: Advice please?

I did it. I sent the email. Here is what it said: Hi (exec sec), I’m sorry, but I won’t be able to meet with brother (counselor). If he would like to contact me, he’s welcome to email me. Thanks, Somegirl Now I guess I wait to see if I hear back. I was nervous sending the email, but all of your word...