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by Somegirl
Thu Feb 07, 2019 3:27 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: What’s the difference...
Replies: 10
Views: 448

Re: What’s the difference...

So you are saying there is no difference other than just they start paying dues at baptism? Thanks for the insight. They basically just don’t have boundaries, do they? My sister did submit to quit Mormon, so she’s just waiting for confirmation that it’s all done with. I’m considering doing the same ...
by Somegirl
Tue Feb 05, 2019 8:11 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: What’s the difference...
Replies: 10
Views: 448

What’s the difference...

Between blessing of a child (or putting the name on the record of the church) vs baptism in the eyes of the church? I know that once a person has been baptized they are a member, but how does that differ from just being on the records? My sister’s kids haven’t been baptized, but were put on the reco...
by Somegirl
Wed Jan 23, 2019 5:25 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Text from Bishop
Replies: 22
Views: 834

Re: Text from Bishop

Did you get a chance to respond yet? I think I would do something simple like: Thanks for thinking of and praying for me. I’m not up to participating with the scouts at this time. I just had to send something similar to the RS pres about ministering. She was very polite back and wished me a happy ne...
by Somegirl
Wed Jan 23, 2019 5:22 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Facebook "Education Help"
Replies: 11
Views: 391

Re: Facebook "Education Help"

https://imgs.xkcd.com/comics/duty_calls.png Humans are weirdly drawn in by this phenomena and I don't know how to "fix" it. My solution has been to never post on anything on social media and simply avoid those arguments, particularly with people I know. If you manage to add me as a friend on Facebo...
by Somegirl
Sat Dec 22, 2018 9:02 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: In which I was voluntold
Replies: 16
Views: 652

Re: In which I was voluntold

This sounds like torture to me. I guess some people enjoy social events with people they don’t know well, but I’m not one of those people. My neighbor keeps inviting me to RS activities, and so far I’ve been able to politely decline, but I don’t know how I would respond if she got pushy like these l...
by Somegirl
Fri Dec 14, 2018 8:40 am
Forum: Support
Topic: I'm about to be officially "outed": NOM Crowd-Sourcing
Replies: 68
Views: 1826

Re: I'm about to be officially "outed": NOM Crowd-Sourcing

I’m sorry this is happening to you. I have missed a few of my siblings weddings, but I had good excuses (brand new nursing baby) and siblings weddings aren’t the same as kids. I hope you can enjoy the day! I’m sure it will be draining with all of the looks and/or questions from relatives. Hopefully ...
by Somegirl
Fri Dec 14, 2018 8:18 am
Forum: Support
Topic: I’m back - with more questions
Replies: 9
Views: 501

Re: I’m back - with more questions

Thanks for your responses everyone. It seems strange to me that for a long time nobody visited us. I believe the EQ president is our home teacher/ministering person. He’s never visited us. My next door neighbor (the other one) visits occasionally, but she always has and it never seems to be in the n...
by Somegirl
Wed Dec 12, 2018 7:39 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: I’m back - with more questions
Replies: 9
Views: 501

I’m back - with more questions

So I’ve been quite busy, but have also been trying to read through the archives here. I feel like I know some of you much better now! Just a quick update from my post about meeting with the bishopric counselor (I don’t know how to link that post, so sorry) - I kept getting called/emailed to meet wit...
by Somegirl
Tue Jun 05, 2018 12:23 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Advice please? Update
Replies: 13
Views: 738

Re: Advice please?

I did it. I sent the email. Here is what it said: Hi (exec sec), I’m sorry, but I won’t be able to meet with brother (counselor). If he would like to contact me, he’s welcome to email me. Thanks, Somegirl Now I guess I wait to see if I hear back. I was nervous sending the email, but all of your word...
by Somegirl
Mon Jun 04, 2018 1:38 pm
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Hello!
Replies: 7
Views: 675

Re: Hello!

Angel, your story breaks my heart. I have never had problems with abuse from church or family members myself, but I have family members who have. Because of this, I have always been more of a helicopter parent - choosing to not let my children be far from me at church or family gatherings. I have fe...
by Somegirl
Mon Jun 04, 2018 1:32 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Advice please? Update
Replies: 13
Views: 738

Re: Advice please?

Thanks all! These responses were very helpful to me. I find that I need the reminders that I don’t need to feel guilty, and it’s okay to say no. We were always taught that you don’t say no to meetings or callings. A few years ago, for the first time ever, I said no to a calling. I had so much anxiet...
by Somegirl
Fri Jun 01, 2018 10:16 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Advice please? Update
Replies: 13
Views: 738

Advice please? Update

So usually I don’t answer unknown phone numbers. Tonight I was waiting for a call from the pediatricians office to find out if my child broke his arm, and I was caught off guard thinking maybe they were calling from a different number since it was after hours. I answered the phone, and it was the pe...
by Somegirl
Thu May 31, 2018 9:08 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: How do you respond when...
Replies: 20
Views: 964

Re: How do you respond when...

dogbite wrote:
Thu May 31, 2018 7:27 am
"your eyes seem to work just fine then"

Acknowledges you're not there, changes the topic puts them off balance a bit
:lol: 👍
by Somegirl
Thu May 31, 2018 9:07 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: How do you respond when...
Replies: 20
Views: 964

Re: How do you respond when...

What do you all say? I've responded with saying something like, "We've been spending a lot more time together doing things as a family." It's only happened a few times, but I've found no one can argue with that or say anything negative in return. I've also just nodded and said, "Yes, it has been aw...
by Somegirl
Thu May 31, 2018 9:06 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: How do you respond when...
Replies: 20
Views: 964

Re: How do you respond when...

Funniest thing I have seen lately with something like this I was in a business and two employees were talking. Out of nowhere one of them just asked the other Are you Mormon? Which she replied "Not Usually" it made me laugh and left the guy who asked speechless :lol: That is funny. I always wish I ...
by Somegirl
Thu May 31, 2018 9:04 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: The Waiting Game
Replies: 17
Views: 1076

Re: The Waiting Game

I also would love to hear about any response. Please update if you can!
by Somegirl
Wed May 30, 2018 9:37 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Everything Happens for a Reason
Replies: 21
Views: 1097

Re: Everything Happens for a Reason

I’m so glad you posted this. It’s a great reminder to me to try to be a better listener. I agree with wonderment that people say things like this because they are uncomfortable and are trying to make themselves feel better. :(
by Somegirl
Wed May 30, 2018 9:32 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: How do you respond when...
Replies: 20
Views: 964

Re: How do you respond when...

Funniest thing I have seen lately with something like this I was in a business and two employees were talking. Out of nowhere one of them just asked the other Are you Mormon? Which she replied "Not Usually" it made me laugh and left the guy who asked speechless :lol: That is funny. I always wish I ...
by Somegirl
Wed May 30, 2018 9:31 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: How do you respond when...
Replies: 20
Views: 964

Re: How do you respond when...

MoPag wrote:
Wed May 30, 2018 10:34 am
Somegirl wrote:
Tue May 29, 2018 9:24 pm
Somebody says something like: I’ve missed you at church. Or I haven’t seen you at church in awhile.
You could say "Yeah, well I figured out that church sucks a$$...sooo...I'm not going anymore."
Lol. Great idea!
by Somegirl
Wed May 30, 2018 9:31 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: How do you respond when...
Replies: 20
Views: 964

Re: How do you respond when...

Somebody says something like: I’ve missed you at church. Or I haven’t seen you at church in awhile. Or I haven’t seen you in forever! I personally haven't had this experience. It seems that all of my "friendships" in my ward were so completely superficial, that all of those "friends" have completel...