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- Wed Apr 03, 2024 4:38 am
- Forum: Support
- Topic: Would you do it all over?
- Replies: 9
- Views: 847
Re: Would you do it all over?
I would change soooo many things if I could start life over again knowing what I know now. I've never quite understood those who say they wouldn't change a thing... really? You wouldn't avoid that car crash? You wouldn't change which job you accepted? You wouldn't reach out and help that kid who was...
- Mon Apr 01, 2024 7:47 pm
- Forum: The Coffee Shop
- Topic: From 15th to 23rd
- Replies: 8
- Views: 977
Re: From 15th to 23rd
I sometimes feel lucky to have grown up in the era I did. Aside from the obvious (not living in a war zone or subject to starvation, etc.), it seems like kids had a lot more unsupervised play in the recent past than they do now. And how would my life have been different had I carried a mobile phone...
- Mon Apr 01, 2024 6:49 pm
- Forum: Support
- Topic: Returning to the fold
- Replies: 7
- Views: 495
Returning to the fold
After a reflective Easter holiday experience, I've come to realize the profound significance of my Mormon faith in my life. The themes of renewal, rebirth, and spiritual growth echoed throughout the chocolate coated celebrations resonated deeply with me, prompting a reevaluation of my beliefs and va...
- Mon Apr 01, 2024 3:30 pm
- Forum: Support
- Topic: NOM needs to be a safe place
- Replies: 21
- Views: 4005
Re: NOM needs to be a safe place
It's been awhile since I've posted. The last little while the site seemed to be down. I'm in the dark as to what happened here. Site seemed to be down for me too (or was I banned?) - haha, I am permanently banned from some other not to be named discussion site. Testing, testing, 123 testing I seem ...
- Mon Apr 01, 2024 2:15 pm
- Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
- Topic: Teaching the wrong stuff
- Replies: 25
- Views: 19085
Re: Teaching the wrong stuff
Getting here late, but if anyone wants a teachers $.02 about mass shootings... Yes, I've had troubled people in my class. Have been through several situations... Here's one - I'm just about to start class, and we hear commotion down hallway, a dozen cops are marching down the hall - I wonder whose c...
- Mon Apr 01, 2024 1:53 pm
- Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
- Topic: Events on Earth 2
- Replies: 5
- Views: 657
Re: Events on Earth 2
To me, the multiverse scenerio is the only scenerio where God exists. Let everyone have existed everywhere experiencing everything - reincarnation, we all experience being poor, being rich, living in each life - equal opportunities, equal existence and experience - it is the only fair and just scene...
- Mon Apr 01, 2024 1:35 pm
- Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
- Topic: Doubt
- Replies: 8
- Views: 736
Re: Doubt
It wasn't a gradual fungus for me. It was pretty much just that one phone call informing us about his arrest.... followed by a few more meetings where it was crystal clear the good-old-boys club protects priests - not kids. They would not testify in court against him. They already knew, had known fo...
- Mon Apr 01, 2024 12:39 pm
- Forum: Support
- Topic: Apologizing for your faith?
- Replies: 9
- Views: 882
Re: Apologizing for your faith?
The other day a couple students were chatting about religion after class, they turned to me and said - I hear a lot of educated people aren't religious, is that true? I try avoiding religious/political discussions at work (though I have a lgbtq safe zone sticker on my lab, so everyone kind of knows ...
- Sun Mar 31, 2024 6:37 pm
- Forum: Support
- Topic: GC wish list !!!
- Replies: 16
- Views: 1170
Re: GC wish list !!!
My GC wish is to have special guests - Pope Francis - The Dalai Lama - Ayatollah Ali Khamenei - (Shia Islam) Ecumenical Patriarch Bartholomew I - (Eastern Orthodox Church) ... ... all of them - standing together with choir singing Imagine by J.Lennon Imagine a short service, just one song, followed ...
- Sat Feb 17, 2024 3:30 pm
- Forum: The Coffee Shop
- Topic: Who wants a Christian "Sharia" society?
- Replies: 19
- Views: 6428
Re: Who wants a Christian "Sharia" society?
I'm reminded of the movie Cool Hand Luke (1967) - The Captain's speech " What we've got here is failure to communicate. Some men you just can't reach. So you get what we had here last week, which is the way he wants it. . . well, he gets it. I don't like it any more than you men." Let me try to com...
- Thu Feb 08, 2024 9:15 pm
- Forum: Support
- Topic: Communication skills
- Replies: 61
- Views: 28465
Re: Communication skills
I have been thinking about what to tell Angel about not trusting feelings. This is really quite common in the mental health world. The cure for it depends on the reason for it. Some people take it so far they stop having feelings and become kind of like Mr. Spock. They operate as much as possible f...
- Fri Feb 02, 2024 3:11 pm
- Forum: Support
- Topic: Communication skills
- Replies: 61
- Views: 28465
Re: Communication skills
Boundaries - in NYC everyone learns to live in a crowd, limited personal space, rushed life, limited resources. NY'ers don't use fuzzy words like "please respect my boundaries". They say "No" haha. Direct, clear, you make deals with people, its businesses - this for that - consequences for actions. ...
- Thu Feb 01, 2024 8:01 pm
- Forum: Support
- Topic: Communication skills
- Replies: 61
- Views: 28465
Re: Communication skills
Back to the idea of feelings telling us stuff. First point is that like logic, emotions are only as accurate as the information they are based on. So, garbage in, garbage out. The trigger may not be accurately interpreted. Or, you may have some faulty beliefs that lead to faulty feelings. Now, some...
- Wed Jan 31, 2024 6:33 pm
- Forum: Support
- Topic: How do you define Mormonism?
- Replies: 54
- Views: 17099
Re: How do you define Mormonism?
I just had someone from old ward reach out to me for help - I connected them with support services in area. (my school serves low income/ immigrants etc so I'm in the loop of where to go for what).
There are amazing groups out there.
The church isn't one of them.
There are amazing groups out there.
The church isn't one of them.
- Wed Jan 31, 2024 5:14 am
- Forum: Support
- Topic: Communication skills
- Replies: 61
- Views: 28465
Re: Since we don’t have moderators
there is a great story on not ruminating on past pain - knowing to drop the feelings - when the fight is over, let it be over, reliving it, emotional pain does nothing to help. "This pain isn't real", nothing is currently wrong, I don't need to be triggered right now etc. I've learned to pull mysel...
- Mon Jan 29, 2024 9:00 pm
- Forum: Support
- Topic: How do you define Mormonism?
- Replies: 54
- Views: 17099
Re: How do you define Mormonism?
I have also seen TBM member do things that helped. One friend knew a woman was in an abusive marriage. The elder’s quorum told the men not to help her move out f the house as she was going against the bishop’s advice to stay with her temple marriage. He was the only man who showed up to help her ge...
- Mon Jan 29, 2024 8:41 pm
- Forum: Support
- Topic: How do you define Mormonism?
- Replies: 54
- Views: 17099
Re: How do you define Mormonism?
Angel, you said members won't go outside the box to help a child? I did. When I was still a TBM I observed a man physically abusing a child alone in a classroom during sacrament mtg. I got in his face and told him to stop immediately. I told him he knew that was wrong. He didn't argue. I called CPS...
- Mon Jan 29, 2024 6:24 am
- Forum: Support
- Topic: Communication skills
- Replies: 61
- Views: 28465
Re: Since we don’t have moderators
Hey, your feelings were not lies, just based on incorrect information. So, rather than distrusting your feelings, just keep searching for the best most accurate information. They were lies: Everything I felt good about, feelings of trust, feelings of comfort, love, safety - that "warm fuzzy" holy s...
- Sun Jan 28, 2024 7:36 am
- Forum: Support
- Topic: Communication skills
- Replies: 61
- Views: 28465
Re: Since we don’t have moderators
Great topic. I do think I'm now on the spectrum - comfortably numb - no feelings. I found my past feelings to be completely false, false trust, false beliefs, false security - my feelings didn't protect, were based on lies, so I have no respect for feelings. In Tuchkman team formation stages, the s...
- Sat Jan 27, 2024 9:00 pm
- Forum: Support
- Topic: Communication skills
- Replies: 61
- Views: 28465
Re: Since we don’t have moderators
Great topic. I do think I'm now on the spectrum - comfortably numb - no feelings. I found my past feelings to be completely false, false trust, false beliefs, false security - my feelings didn't protect, were based on lies, so I have no respect for feelings. In Tuchkman team formation stages, the st...