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by Boozer
Sat Jun 22, 2019 6:43 am
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: Taking indefensible position?
Replies: 7
Views: 197

Re: Taking indefensible position?

So for some background info. I think I was actually fell pretty in the middle of the clinical definition of a porn addict and the church's definition. So I am frustrated because the church (and my wife) label me an addict which is supposed to be a forever thing, like an alcoholic should never touch ...
by Boozer
Fri Jun 21, 2019 6:50 pm
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: Taking indefensible position?
Replies: 7
Views: 197

Taking indefensible position?

Hey All, I am relieved to see that NOM is back up and running. This is a really cool site. Do you think it was North Korean hackers or DezNat? anyway, let's see if I can get some ideas out without making to much of a muck of it all. My wife and I struggle with Intimacy (I had a porn addiction going ...
by Boozer
Sat Jun 01, 2019 8:37 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: 4 Month Check in
Replies: 5
Views: 294

4 Month Check in

Hey everyone, It's been a while since I've posted but it seemed like a good time. I have been on exmo reddit but this seems like a better audience for what I'm going through. I am in month 4 of my faith crisis/transition and I am trying to heed yall's advice by taking things slow and not being an as...
by Boozer
Wed Apr 24, 2019 7:14 pm
Forum: Introductions
Topic: New and Confused (so long its not true, one little woman...)
Replies: 30
Views: 1303

Re: New and Confused (so long its not true, one little woman...)

Hey all, Thanks for the great advice. I have some updates that I would love to share. On Sunday my wife agreed to read the Mormon stories essay on polygamy, and I used my chance to be an asshole and try to tear her down. Of course, we fought. The problem for me was that she says things like you can'...
by Boozer
Sat Apr 20, 2019 7:16 am
Forum: Introductions
Topic: New and Confused (so long its not true, one little woman...)
Replies: 30
Views: 1303

Re: New and Confused (so long its not true, one little woman...)

Hey, Thanks for the recommendations! I'm liking a lot of John's s discussions, I started the Parallax problem this morning. I also watched "In The Shadow of The Temple" and felt horrible for those people, while at the same time cheering the one guy who stayed with his wife especially at the end when...
by Boozer
Wed Apr 17, 2019 7:40 pm
Forum: Introductions
Topic: New and Confused (so long its not true, one little woman...)
Replies: 30
Views: 1303

Re: New and Confused (so long its not true, one little woman...)

on the topic of feeling based decisions. I have yet to tell DW (planning to tonight) that when the news of her emotional affair first broke I went straight to prayer, and the first "impression" I had in my mind was "Let her go". For me, that has been a huge turning point. I think its more likely tha...
by Boozer
Tue Apr 16, 2019 6:13 pm
Forum: Introductions
Topic: New and Confused (so long its not true, one little woman...)
Replies: 30
Views: 1303

Re: New and Confused (so long its not true, one little woman...)

@Hagoth Actually, yes it does help to think that 90% of the world does just that exact same thing. And I have thought for some time that Mormons as a people had become modern-day pharisee's but it wasn't until now that I've started thinking about the church as that which to me now makes total sense....
by Boozer
Mon Apr 15, 2019 2:58 pm
Forum: Introductions
Topic: New and Confused (so long its not true, one little woman...)
Replies: 30
Views: 1303

Re: New and Confused (so long its not true, one little woman...)

Well along with the LDS viewpoint being super extreme comes the shame that isn't helpful and drives people further into their cycles. At some point, I had to accept myself without perpetuating any shame which was difficult with DW's hurt feelings. I own up to it, because looking back I can see how i...
by Boozer
Sun Apr 14, 2019 4:22 pm
Forum: Introductions
Topic: New and Confused (so long its not true, one little woman...)
Replies: 30
Views: 1303

Re: New and Confused (so long its not true, one little woman...)

I am going to go ahead and say I was a true addict. As a behavior, it covered up my feelings of loneliness (while an adolescent) and lack of self-worth. As an adult, it was getting in the way of my relationship and it began following me to work even (which was a red flag that I needed help). It was ...
by Boozer
Wed Apr 10, 2019 3:42 pm
Forum: Introductions
Topic: New and Confused (so long its not true, one little woman...)
Replies: 30
Views: 1303

Re: New and Confused (so long its not true, one little woman...)

@ Hagoth The name is Boozer as in Carlos Boozer who when he used to play for the Utah Jazz I named a pet after him, I can see how that can cause the head scratching. I am having doubts about pretty much everything I've ever believed in which is hard to just breathe and stay calm about it but I think...
by Boozer
Tue Apr 09, 2019 5:59 pm
Forum: Introductions
Topic: New and Confused (so long its not true, one little woman...)
Replies: 30
Views: 1303

New and Confused (so long its not true, one little woman...)

Hi All, As I am sure many of you have felt this is not somewhere I ever imagined that I would find myself. I will try to keep this introduction succinct but there is so much going on in my life that it will be hard. so I guess I will start at the beginning. I was born and raised in happy valley, Uta...