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by Linked
Mon Oct 14, 2019 4:36 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Staying Positive While Being a Non-Believer
Replies: 10
Views: 409

Re: Staying Positive While Being a Non-Believer

Something I'm coming to understand is that my negativity toward the church is warranted, even if it is unhelpful and unwanted by DW. My DW thinks I'm a very negative person, especially about church. Because I was often negative at church, even as a waning believer, I bought into that as well. It tur...
by Linked
Mon Oct 14, 2019 4:15 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Happy Birthday NOM!
Replies: 15
Views: 411

Re: Happy Birthday NOM!

Happy Birthday! I enjoyed this post by Ghost which brings up absurdism in a Slavereeno thread about Nihilism . It was the first time I had heard of absurdism, and it really resonated with me. I barely had a faith crisis before it became an existential crisis. (I don't really like using the word "cri...
by Linked
Thu Oct 03, 2019 3:12 pm
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Stake Calling for DW?
Replies: 5
Views: 527

Re: Stake Calling for DW?

Update: DW accepted the calling
by Linked
Wed Oct 02, 2019 3:01 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Goodbye Garments
Replies: 9
Views: 474

Re: Goodbye Garments

Hey Linked, How did your wife react when you stopped wearing your g's? I wonder if our wives would actually like us more without g's? (sexier right?) Congrats! She wasn't super pumped for a few months when I first stopped wearing them. The first time I think she cried. I went pretty slow, first buy...
by Linked
Wed Oct 02, 2019 2:50 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: A one-liner that captures your disaffection
Replies: 81
Views: 2178

Re: A one-liner that captures your disaffection

achilles wrote:
Tue Oct 01, 2019 9:34 pm
I'm done with being afraid all the time
Achilles is back! Good to hear from you. And good line.
by Linked
Mon Sep 30, 2019 4:47 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: New Youth Program
Replies: 9
Views: 453

New Youth Program

My ward showed the church video about the new youth program for next year during the second hour. It was like one of those corporate training videos, lots of cringe. The kids will create and work on goals in 4 areas to grow; Spiritually, Socially, Physically, and Intellectually. They trotted out the...
by Linked
Mon Sep 30, 2019 4:39 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: A one-liner that captures your disaffection
Replies: 81
Views: 2178

Re: A one-liner that captures your disaffection

Feelings aren't a reliable source of truth for anything else, so why would feelings be the source of truth regarding the nature of the universe and human existence?
by Linked
Fri Sep 27, 2019 3:31 pm
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: Love is not an excuse
Replies: 13
Views: 380

Re: Love is not an excuse

What would be a more honest and less church-speaky?

"Today I come with deep love for each of you as I share this message of truth"

becomes

"You guys aren't doing what I think you should be doing, but I have to say it nicely or you won't listen."
by Linked
Fri Sep 27, 2019 3:22 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Goodbye Garments
Replies: 9
Views: 474

Re: Goodbye Garments

Congrats. It’s a big emotional relief to finally toss them out. Or I guess put them in the closet. What’s with Mormons keeping their old garments in a box/bag in the closet? In case Jesus comes back and we have to throw them on and look busy? Take another step and throw them in the trash can with t...
by Linked
Fri Sep 27, 2019 1:40 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Goodbye Garments
Replies: 9
Views: 474

Goodbye Garments

I bought 5 more non-religious undershirts so now I have enough to never run out and have to revert to wearing the garments. This goes along with my many pairs of heathen underwear. I was surprised by the mixed feelings I got as I took the remaining garments out of my drawer and stuck them in the box...
by Linked
Wed Sep 25, 2019 11:26 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Feeling Forced to Choose a Path
Replies: 38
Views: 1226

Re: Feeling Forced to Choose a Path

Red Ryder wrote:
Wed Sep 25, 2019 10:53 am
“Linked” wrote:Ok, one bit of advice for coming back together. Put your arm(s) around her and cuddle while watching tv sometime soon.
The cow charm!

Or is it couch arm?
Is that the arm you are laying on and wish you could remove when trying to cuddle in bed?
by Linked
Tue Sep 24, 2019 2:57 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Come Follow Me vs Come Along With Me
Replies: 8
Views: 445

Come Follow Me vs Come Along With Me

My 5 year old son has started singing the hymns with me during sacrament meeting. The other day we sang "Come Follow Me" and he laughed and said that it was like " Come Along with Me ", the intro song for the show Adventure Time that we watch together. But it's not. Come Follow Me includes a compone...
by Linked
Tue Sep 24, 2019 2:46 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Feeling Forced to Choose a Path
Replies: 38
Views: 1226

Re: Feeling Forced to Choose a Path

I now return and report: this sucks. Had a 2+ hour conversation with DW last night. It wasn't fun. I was able to keep my emotions under control and she was too for the most part. A couple highlights: - Me wanting to learn more about church history and doctrine (starting in 2012) is the same as comm...
by Linked
Mon Sep 23, 2019 4:13 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: How to skip Priesthood mtg?
Replies: 19
Views: 607

Re: How to skip Priesthood mtg?

Hey everyone, My ward (elder's quorum) is very tbm and I don't feel comfortable there because being tbm as they are they are not open to alternative viewpoints other than tbm ones. In any event, my wife is still quite tbm even though she knows why I think and don't believe like I used to. But, it s...
by Linked
Mon Sep 23, 2019 4:06 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Feeling Forced to Choose a Path
Replies: 38
Views: 1226

Re: Feeling Forced to Choose a Path

Count me in this boat too. Solidarity. I've tried to be honest with my DW that I'm done, but I continue to go to support her. I made it clear early on that I don't believe anymore, and over the years she seems to have come to get used to it. She now goes to the temple on her own. She doesn't seem to...
by Linked
Fri Sep 20, 2019 2:15 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: the Dark Night of the Soul
Replies: 21
Views: 635

Re: the Dark Night of the Soul

so... my TBM DH is cracking... it is such a hard thing... a little from a note he just sent: "This whole Universe is a lie: God is either a lie or a liar, and this Universe is a sadistic puppet-show, where no truth can be found and that offers nothing but a temporary, painful, and meaningless exist...
by Linked
Wed Sep 18, 2019 3:18 pm
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Stake Calling for DW?
Replies: 5
Views: 527

Re: Stake Calling for DW?

I'm glad she said she'd think about it. I hope the answer she gives is from her heart. It really sucks to have a calling you genuinely hate, but were afraid to say "no" to. Yeah, I agree. Even if she accepts it now, she can know that it was her deliberate decision and that she wasn't tricked into i...
by Linked
Wed Sep 18, 2019 3:16 pm
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: Pres Nelson's BYU Speech Today
Replies: 54
Views: 1839

Re: Pres Nelson's BYU Speech Today

Nelson having to beg God to let him change the PoX in order to prevent the human suffering it caused also suggests that the church failed at living up to God's requirements. Somehow the world was not ready for God's law on gay people. Members of the church weren't ready to accept God's law on gay pe...
by Linked
Mon Sep 16, 2019 11:34 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Good Discussion with TBM Family with some Fallout
Replies: 23
Views: 1040

Re: Good Discussion with TBM Family with some Fallout

Just a quick update. Things are going pretty well in the Linked household. I attribute a lot of that to you guys and this forum; I was able to get my frustrated thoughts and feelings out which helped me let them go. I've been nicer/happier and DW seems to have noticed and is also nicer/happier. We'v...
by Linked
Mon Sep 16, 2019 11:27 am
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Tribal rhetoric and the practice of "othering"
Replies: 5
Views: 218

Re: Tribal rhetoric and the practice of

Ugh. Those talks are the worst. It lays bare the most personal things we worry about in mixed faith families, that the church will poison our relationships with our spouse and children. Or on crappier days that we have poisoned our relationship with our spouse and children. Days like that push me to...