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Something I'm coming to understand is that my negativity toward the church is warranted, even if it is unhelpful and unwanted by DW. My DW thinks I'm a very negative person, especially about church. Because I was often negative at church, even as a waning believer, I bought into that as well. It tur...

Happy Birthday! I enjoyed this post by Ghost which brings up absurdism in a Slavereeno thread about Nihilism . It was the first time I had heard of absurdism, and it really resonated with me. I barely had a faith crisis before it became an existential crisis. (I don't really like using the word "cri...

Update: DW accepted the calling

Hey Linked, How did your wife react when you stopped wearing your g's? I wonder if our wives would actually like us more without g's? (sexier right?) Congrats! She wasn't super pumped for a few months when I first stopped wearing them. The first time I think she cried. I went pretty slow, first buy...

achilles wrote: ↑

Tue Oct 01, 2019 9:34 pm

I'm done with being afraid all the time

Achilles is back! Good to hear from you. And good line.

My ward showed the church video about the new youth program for next year during the second hour. It was like one of those corporate training videos, lots of cringe. The kids will create and work on goals in 4 areas to grow; Spiritually, Socially, Physically, and Intellectually. They trotted out the...

Feelings aren't a reliable source of truth for anything else, so why would feelings be the source of truth regarding the nature of the universe and human existence?

What would be a more honest and less church-speaky?

"Today I come with deep love for each of you as I share this message of truth"

becomes

"You guys aren't doing what I think you should be doing, but I have to say it nicely or you won't listen."

Congrats. It’s a big emotional relief to finally toss them out. Or I guess put them in the closet. What’s with Mormons keeping their old garments in a box/bag in the closet? In case Jesus comes back and we have to throw them on and look busy? Take another step and throw them in the trash can with t...

I bought 5 more non-religious undershirts so now I have enough to never run out and have to revert to wearing the garments. This goes along with my many pairs of heathen underwear. I was surprised by the mixed feelings I got as I took the remaining garments out of my drawer and stuck them in the box...

Red Ryder wrote: ↑

Wed Sep 25, 2019 10:53 am

“Linked” wrote:Ok, one bit of advice for coming back together. Put your arm(s) around her and cuddle while watching tv sometime soon.

The cow charm!

Or is it couch arm?

Is that the arm you are laying on and wish you could remove when trying to cuddle in bed?

My 5 year old son has started singing the hymns with me during sacrament meeting. The other day we sang "Come Follow Me" and he laughed and said that it was like " Come Along with Me ", the intro song for the show Adventure Time that we watch together. But it's not. Come Follow Me includes a compone...

I now return and report: this sucks. Had a 2+ hour conversation with DW last night. It wasn't fun. I was able to keep my emotions under control and she was too for the most part. A couple highlights: - Me wanting to learn more about church history and doctrine (starting in 2012) is the same as comm...

Hey everyone, My ward (elder's quorum) is very tbm and I don't feel comfortable there because being tbm as they are they are not open to alternative viewpoints other than tbm ones. In any event, my wife is still quite tbm even though she knows why I think and don't believe like I used to. But, it s...

Count me in this boat too. Solidarity. I've tried to be honest with my DW that I'm done, but I continue to go to support her. I made it clear early on that I don't believe anymore, and over the years she seems to have come to get used to it. She now goes to the temple on her own. She doesn't seem to...

so... my TBM DH is cracking... it is such a hard thing... a little from a note he just sent: "This whole Universe is a lie: God is either a lie or a liar, and this Universe is a sadistic puppet-show, where no truth can be found and that offers nothing but a temporary, painful, and meaningless exist...

I'm glad she said she'd think about it. I hope the answer she gives is from her heart. It really sucks to have a calling you genuinely hate, but were afraid to say "no" to. Yeah, I agree. Even if she accepts it now, she can know that it was her deliberate decision and that she wasn't tricked into i...

Nelson having to beg God to let him change the PoX in order to prevent the human suffering it caused also suggests that the church failed at living up to God's requirements. Somehow the world was not ready for God's law on gay people. Members of the church weren't ready to accept God's law on gay pe...

Just a quick update. Things are going pretty well in the Linked household. I attribute a lot of that to you guys and this forum; I was able to get my frustrated thoughts and feelings out which helped me let them go. I've been nicer/happier and DW seems to have noticed and is also nicer/happier. We'v...

Ugh. Those talks are the worst. It lays bare the most personal things we worry about in mixed faith families, that the church will poison our relationships with our spouse and children. Or on crappier days that we have poisoned our relationship with our spouse and children. Days like that push me to...