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by Linked
Wed Aug 21, 2019 4:01 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: A win for satan!
Replies: 7
Views: 129

Re: A win for satan!

Oh wow, that is awesome! Congrats on the big steps toward freeing your family. My middle-school-TBM-a$$ would have been like "Jesus Christ founded to Church of Jesus Christ of latter-day Saints." :lol: :oops: Haha, that's what I thought too. Everyone knows that the right answer is Joseph Smith, but ...
by Linked
Wed Aug 21, 2019 3:48 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Bishopric -> EQP: And I feel.... numb.
Replies: 19
Views: 483

Re: Bishopric -> EQP: And I feel.... numb.

Good luck as EQP Graey! They are lucky to have you, even if it is just for your DW.
by Linked
Wed Aug 21, 2019 3:45 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Shared The Myth of the Unrighteous Parent with DW
Replies: 5
Views: 139

Re: Shared The Myth of the Unrighteous Parent with DW

Thanks for the support, it is hard living in a marriage relationship with such a chasm, as you all know. Both sides hurt so deeply when the topic is brought up, and both sides hurt separately and silently when it is left alone. Everybody loses.
by Linked
Wed Aug 21, 2019 3:41 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Mass disclosure
Replies: 51
Views: 1006

Re: Mass disclosure

Hey Slavereeno, sorry I'm late to the post. Hang in there through all of this, it can be exhausting telling everyone. Hopefully there is little fallout and you can get back to life. How is your DS handling it?
by Linked
Tue Aug 20, 2019 11:43 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Shared The Myth of the Unrighteous Parent with DW
Replies: 5
Views: 139

Shared The Myth of the Unrighteous Parent with DW

I read through some of the stories in Lindsay Hansen Park's post on The Myth of the Unrighteous Parent with DW (discussed in this post ). I only read the non-polygamy related stories to her, and none of LHP's commentary. I was trying to share something that scared me with her, specifically that my s...
by Linked
Tue Aug 20, 2019 11:33 am
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Any suggestions for good marital therapists?
Replies: 7
Views: 127

Re: Any suggestions for good marital therapists?

Veon Smith is in South Jordan, DW and I went a few times and I thought he was a good therapist. Compromise for a TBM is really hard, it's like admitting you don't have the faith to really follow the gospel. I think one possible path is to not require them to admit anything. Go on a vacation that in...
by Linked
Fri Aug 16, 2019 1:09 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Sea Legs
Replies: 19
Views: 380

Re: Sea Legs

A quick update and confession. I took the book with me to meetings during our wards YW/YM activity knowing that Bishop would also be there. Pre-meeting I sat reading and marking the book and sure enough, he asked about it. I told him about David Ostler, and briefly explained his reasons for writing...
by Linked
Fri Aug 16, 2019 1:02 pm
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: ‘The Myth of the Unrighteous Parent’....A Fantastic New Post by Lindsay Hansen Park....
Replies: 7
Views: 305

Re: ‘The Myth of the Unrighteous Parent’....A Fantastic New Post by Lindsay Hansen Park....

This was a great article. I worry about this with my kids a lot. I think I will share this with DW. Or maybe do a selective reading of it to remove some of the more antagonistic parts and focus on the things that I fear; keep it on topic.
by Linked
Fri Aug 16, 2019 12:55 pm
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Finally joined after lurking 6 years
Replies: 11
Views: 256

Re: Finally joined after lurking 6 years

Thanks Linked and Angel for your replies. Linked what will happen when you get released from primary? I would like to not attend priesthood but I guess I will have to work towards that in "baby steps" That's a good question. I will just go home during the second hour when it is priesthood week. I'v...
by Linked
Thu Aug 15, 2019 1:18 pm
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: Green tea is officially bad for you, against WoW
Replies: 30
Views: 756

Re: Green tea is officially bad for you, against WoW

My mission was in Japan, and tea is a big part of the culture, especially green tea. All the members I knew were very aware which teas were kosher and which weren't. The rules they followed are basically verbatim in the linked article. No green tea, no black tea, no milk tea. But wheat tea was ok. I...
by Linked
Wed Aug 14, 2019 2:53 pm
Forum: The Coffee Shop
Topic: Stock Market, economy, and recession?
Replies: 12
Views: 282

Re: Stock Market, economy, and recession?

Looks like we have an inverted yield curve ( or more info ), which is a pretty big indicator of a recession looming. Basically, people are pulling their money from stocks and putting them in long term bonds. This drives the price of long term bonds down, even below the price of short term bonds, whi...
by Linked
Wed Aug 14, 2019 2:27 pm
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Shunning the shunners
Replies: 12
Views: 577

Re: Shunning the shunners

This is so painful. Spouseman met with a brother Saturday and they talked about the issues. This BIL is incredibly kind, but also delusional. We learned some more bad stuff about people. It's nearly impossible to conceptualize any way a relationship can continue. Advice for how to support Spouseman...
by Linked
Wed Aug 14, 2019 1:55 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Sea Legs
Replies: 19
Views: 380

Re: Sea Legs

Great post Graey. I used the analogy of having the church or God as a wall to lean on for support. You get hurt or feel sick or dizzy, you reach out and lean on the wall. There is not doubt the wall is there, and it will certainly hold you up. JS, Alma, Lehi, and Ostler all had prayer and God to cal...
by Linked
Wed Aug 14, 2019 1:40 pm
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Finally joined after lurking 6 years
Replies: 11
Views: 256

Re: Finally joined after lurking 6 years

Welcome to NOM stuck! Based on your post you will fit in well here. The mixed-faith family can be a patience-trying road, but for some it is better than the alternative. I'm also about 6 years into my faith transition, with a TBM wife. We teach primary so I have managed to avoid Elder's quorum for y...
by Linked
Thu Aug 08, 2019 10:35 am
Forum: Support
Topic: An update from Holland - the country
Replies: 12
Views: 323

Re: An update from Holland - the country

It's great to hear from you Meilingkie! Sounds like things are settling to a new, good normal. That's fantastic. Enjoy your time with J!
by Linked
Wed Aug 07, 2019 12:56 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Preventing the imenent fall of the church?
Replies: 14
Views: 369

Re: Preventing the imenent fall of the church?

Good post RR. In my view, in the United States the balance of fast moving vs slow moving is maintained by giving the president broad range to quickly enact almost anything, then giving the legislature and judicial branches the power to reverse what the president does more with processes that move mo...
by Linked
Wed Aug 07, 2019 12:23 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: A Quote by Nelson We Should All Take to Heart
Replies: 13
Views: 419

Re: A Quote by Nelson We Should All Take to Heart

I also posted this on my blog. It's a total keeper! "While searching for the truth, we must be free to change our mind—even to change our religion—in response to new information and inspiration… One’s religion is not imposed by others. It is not predetermined. It is a very personal and sacred choic...
by Linked
Mon Aug 05, 2019 4:00 pm
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Hello
Replies: 5
Views: 191

Re: Hello

Welcome to NOM Penny! I hope we can provide a place for you to express things you feel you can't with others, and thoughtful comments about your situation and other topics. I You describe the beginning of a tough situation. It is one many here are familiar with. I don't know if you will be able to b...
by Linked
Mon Aug 05, 2019 10:57 am
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: Elder Steven Snow: Most Members Couldn't Care Less
Replies: 19
Views: 793

Re: Elder Steven Snow: Most Members Couldn't Care Less

I beg to differ with him. I think MOST women really want to know more about polygamy, but the church doesn’t allow discussion. The instructors manuals actually say that if it comes up, the instructor should change the subject and move on. We are forbidden to discuss many other history topics. Imagi...
by Linked
Fri Aug 02, 2019 10:47 am
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: The Mormon Premarital Exam
Replies: 15
Views: 541

Re: The Mormon Premarital Exam

Anyone read or was gifted that awesome book "between husband and wife" before the wedding? [emoji16] Mormon physicians explain in medical terms all about sex to unsuspecting lds kids about to get married. I didn't get that one, but an LDS family counselor who gave DW and I premarital counseling sug...