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by Linked
Tue Oct 19, 2021 1:50 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Any advice for those contemplating divorce?
Replies: 37
Views: 2678

Re: Any advice for those contemplating divorce?

Is your wife ok with the garments now? Yeah, she hasn't pushed me to start wearing them again. I don't remember ever really talking about it. I'm sure she had some thoughts about it, but she is not one to talk about her feelings. It's just the way things are now, I don't wear garments. Do you still...
by Linked
Mon Oct 18, 2021 3:17 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Any advice for those contemplating divorce?
Replies: 37
Views: 2678

Re: Any advice for those contemplating divorce?

Coffee and Garments For garments I just started buying replacement underwear and undershirts and put them in my rotation. My DW could plainly see it, and eventually I had enough that the garments ended up in a box in the closet. I screwed up on coffee, see this thread . I started drinking coffee wi...
by Linked
Mon Oct 11, 2021 10:50 am
Forum: Support
Topic: The Progressive Mormon Debate
Replies: 10
Views: 352

Re: The Progressive Mormon Debate

Good to hear from you Mormorrisey! Sorry work has been so busy but it's good to hear life is going well for you! I won't be mean, I'll listen carefully, evaluate what they have to say, and if it helps my life, I might actually follow their advice. If it doesn't, I'll just smile politely and tell the...
by Linked
Mon Oct 11, 2021 10:37 am
Forum: Support
Topic: "Thank you God"
Replies: 5
Views: 275

Re: "Thank you God"

Red Ryder wrote:
Fri Oct 08, 2021 3:10 pm
Reminds me of the elevator scene in Squid Games right after the tug o war game.

Why are praying and thanking God? We saved you...
Sounds about right. I still need to watch that though...
by Linked
Mon Oct 11, 2021 10:37 am
Forum: Support
Topic: "Thank you God"
Replies: 5
Views: 275

Re: "Thank you God"

Earlier in the conversation, had he also thanked you personally? I don't think so. Though he's not one to skimp on showing appreciation and I'm sure he would have thanked me at some point before I left. In his mind he was showing appreciation, and being true to himself as a very religious man. But ...
by Linked
Fri Oct 08, 2021 11:16 am
Forum: Support
Topic: "Thank you God"
Replies: 5
Views: 275

"Thank you God"

I was at my parent's house and noticed their toilet was leaking so I helped my dad fix it. Ultimately all that needed to be done was making sure the connections were threaded properly and tight (my dad is old, give him a break). After tightening it up I double checked everything, had my dad check it...
by Linked
Thu Sep 30, 2021 12:51 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Tithing
Replies: 17
Views: 763

Re: Tithing

That is great Linked! Which charities have you found to be the best? There are so many charities it is hard to pick a "best", but there seem to be a lot of good options for all sorts of causes. Typically we pick a cause and then use https://www.charitywatch.org/ and https://www.charitynavigator.org...
by Linked
Wed Sep 29, 2021 2:41 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Tithing
Replies: 17
Views: 763

Re: Tithing

Once a month on a stay-home-Sunday I sit down with my kids and we pick a charity to give to. It's not a ton of money (nowhere near 10%), but I feel good about it and I think it sets a good example of giving for the kids. They pick a cause they are interested in helping, then we search for charities ...
by Linked
Mon Sep 27, 2021 11:52 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Nephew Engagement Announcement
Replies: 6
Views: 386

Nephew Engagement Announcement

While he is still on his mission. I'm not sure what to do, lots of thoughts bouncing around and I could use some advice from the NOM family. He announced that he will be marrying his former high school girlfriend next summer, 3 months after getting home from his mission. They broke up after high sch...
by Linked
Mon Sep 27, 2021 11:32 am
Forum: Support
Topic: The anxious Mormon voice in your head
Replies: 10
Views: 422

Re: The anxious Mormon voice in your head

Nailed it, the recently-not-mormon voice gave me the chills.
by Linked
Thu Sep 23, 2021 1:21 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: The anxious Mormon voice in your head
Replies: 10
Views: 422

Re: The anxious Mormon voice in your head

All your posts are great RR, but this one is art.

Now do the anxious recently-not-mormon voice in your head.

Then the healthy voice after you finally figure out how to take Corsair's advice and the church has become insignificant in your life.
by Linked
Tue Sep 21, 2021 12:20 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Where Will You Go?
Replies: 12
Views: 599

Where Will You Go?

I was discussing my faith crisis with my pretty understanding TBM mom the other day and I was trying to express the difficulty of being an all-in TBM and then finding out it wasn't true. I even blurted, "Where was I supposed to go?", without realizing what I was saying. Clearly very similar to Elder...
by Linked
Fri Sep 10, 2021 12:34 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Five Months Down. 54 To Go.
Replies: 17
Views: 895

Re: Five Months Down. 54 To Go.

I've shared this before, but worth repeating. While I was Bishop, we had a visiting 70 meet with just the bishops. He told us the Q12 wants bishops to have both a wife and a job when they are released, and they are seeing more and more cases where this is not the case. He also told us that the aver...
by Linked
Wed Sep 08, 2021 4:11 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Five Months Down. 54 To Go.
Replies: 17
Views: 895

Re: Five Months Down. 54 To Go.

Thanks for the update, I appreciate seeing an honest view from the Bishop's chair. That sounds really heavy for you græy, from keeping the faithful happy with how things are run, to helping people stay afloat who don't seem that interested in staying afloat, to a troubling home situation. That's a l...
by Linked
Tue Aug 31, 2021 12:08 pm
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion
Replies: 46
Views: 8256

Re: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion

It's been more difficult than going through my faith transition, although I do feel like going through that helped prepare me for this somewhat. She has been going to therapy on her own. Some things feel like they change, but then we have a conversation that goes back into this seemingly never endi...
by Linked
Fri Aug 27, 2021 10:35 am
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion
Replies: 46
Views: 8256

Re: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion

A quick update. I hired an attorney several months ago and have divorce papers ready to file, which she knows about. I have been talking to her about divorce, talking about not wanting to go to litigation, but she wants to still make the marriage "work". We've been sleeping in separate rooms for a ...
by Linked
Thu Aug 26, 2021 12:27 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Two kinds of minds?
Replies: 16
Views: 1193

Re: Two kinds of minds?

I couldn't even comprehend the option of choose to believe. I was 1000% convinced that mormon god was real and in charge and that the prophets were his people. Everything had to fit into that worldview. As I learned more and more my beliefs grew more nuanced and complicated to make everything fit, a...
by Linked
Tue Aug 24, 2021 3:57 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Dr. Prophet Finally Speaks
Replies: 39
Views: 2593

Re: Dr. Prophet Finally Speaks

Just found out one of my "never-vax" in-laws got vaccinated last week. Presumably due to the directive from the FP. I guess for him loyalty to the church trumps loyalty to doubting COVID stuff.

Good job church.
by Linked
Wed Aug 18, 2021 3:59 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Dr. Prophet Finally Speaks
Replies: 39
Views: 2593

Re: Dr. Prophet Finally Speaks

I'm not the first to say this nor the one to say it best, but I really have to express how truly disgusted I am that for these members who are leaving it isn't the misogyny, it isn't the racism, it isn't the homophobia, it isn't the sexual predation of early Church leaders, it isn't the lies and de...
by Linked
Fri Aug 13, 2021 4:57 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: You are not welcome
Replies: 18
Views: 1300

Re: You are not welcome

I'm sorry azflyer, that sucks.

I used to see the temples as beacons of goodness and hope, but now they are a reminder of the unwarranted control the church has over the lives of so many people in my life, and over me by extension. It's Orwellian.

Hang in there when the wedding comes.