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by Linked
Wed Jun 09, 2021 3:50 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Spiritual* Violence
Replies: 5
Views: 333

Re: Spiritual* Violence

*spiritual in this book is not really religion-based, but more about the yearnings of the self or soul. Does the book have an actual definition of *spiritual? Hey Fluff, I've been thinking about this question once a day since you posted it, but I haven't yet got a good answer. I'm listening to the ...
by Linked
Tue Jun 01, 2021 1:21 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: One Month Down. 59 To Go.
Replies: 20
Views: 761

Re: One Month Down. 59 To Go.

Thanks for the update Græy, sounds like you have been busy. It is heartening to hear how much of a difference you have been able to make in just 1 month, the members of your ward are lucky to have you. That experience for your DW sounds really big; for her, for you, and for her friend. After years o...
by Linked
Fri May 28, 2021 10:49 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Spiritual* Violence
Replies: 5
Views: 333

Spiritual* Violence

More from "Finding Meaning in the Second Half of Life": What a terrible dilemma facing a child! Please my parents and die within, or live my separate journey and lose their love. Such deformation of the child's unique journey is a kind of spiritual violence. And how many only come to realize this sp...
by Linked
Fri May 28, 2021 10:36 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Growing Up
Replies: 4
Views: 258

Re: Growing Up

Good points about our values being a journey. Trying to hold too hard to one value may prevent us from growing. Making a list would help get a conversation going with yourself and/or others. It would not be the final word on a person's values. For me, this effort started because I was getting really...
by Linked
Thu May 27, 2021 12:21 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Growing Up
Replies: 4
Views: 258

Growing Up

I'm reading "Finding Meaning in the Second Half of Life" as recommended by my therapist to find/make a solid set of core values that are strong enough to pull me through hard times and give meaning to my day to day activities. My religious beliefs used to provide that, but those have changed and don...
by Linked
Tue May 25, 2021 11:19 am
Forum: The Coffee Shop
Topic: Solution to "labor shortage"
Replies: 5
Views: 386

Re: Solution to "labor shortage"

Yeah, this is a big part of the problem. Makes me wonder what drove the high and low spikes between 2000 and 2010. Is it due to anything the government did? Is the spike in profits due to unions losing power? I know some people need help. Now instead of tithing I give to homeless shelters. And I ge...
by Linked
Tue May 25, 2021 10:34 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Anyone else feel trapped?
Replies: 18
Views: 688

Re: Anyone else feel trapped?

I have definitely been there RR, but I'm not there today. I've got enough distance from the church and enough other stuff in my life to have the other stuff on my mind. The things that have been particularly helpful recently are: - An agreement with my DW to attend sacrament meeting together as a fa...
by Linked
Mon May 17, 2021 10:16 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Should I get a Priesthood blessing?
Replies: 16
Views: 651

Re: Should I get a Priesthood blessing?

I'm so sorry about your eye Oliblish! I hope you recover fully. Regarding the priesthood blessing, I would try to hear it as your daughter saying she loves you and cares for you and wants to help you, and respond as though that's what she said. Something like "it means a lot to me that you would off...
by Linked
Mon May 17, 2021 10:05 am
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: I Learned How to Judge as a Mormon
Replies: 10
Views: 457

Re: I Learned How to Judge as a Mormon

I think the church teaches members to judge themselves first and foremost, and that for most members, all other judgment flows from that. When I let go of judging myself - when I realized I was terrible at it, and the commandment to "judge not" applied just as easily to self-judgment - I largely st...
by Linked
Mon May 17, 2021 9:50 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Radio West - Doubt
Replies: 5
Views: 402

Re: Radio West - Doubt

Just watched someone who has been talking about faith crisis on his podcasts, but who works for the church! :D Hello! Sure, it’s ok to question - BUT IT’S NOT OK TO HAVE WRONG ANSWERS. Lol Totally. And these kind of "address what people are saying/going through, but then take a left turn before com...
by Linked
Fri May 14, 2021 10:33 am
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: What do you believe about it now?
Replies: 26
Views: 1317

Re: What do you believe about it now?

Does anyone find the back of President Nelson's gravestone to be faith-affirming? https://pbs.twimg.com/media/E1TqYpnXEAAr365.jpg https://www.sltrib.com/religion/2021/05/13/latest-mormon-land/ It's disgusting. He used his power to memorialize himself with a priceless piece of my history. It's gaudy...
by Linked
Fri May 14, 2021 10:30 am
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: I Learned How to Judge as a Mormon
Replies: 10
Views: 457

Re: I Learned How to Judge as a Mormon

To judge is to be human. For me I would say I learned what to judge as a mormon, and it was all wrong. We are judgement machines and I don't think there is a way to stop it. So I've tried to change what I judge from swearing and modesty and caffeine and R-rated movies and church attendance and garme...
by Linked
Fri May 14, 2021 10:24 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Moving out of Utah
Replies: 8
Views: 437

Re: Moving out of Utah

Welcome Aphrodite! I'm sorry you are made to feel guilty for being yourself. It sounds like you are a thoughtful person who doesn't deserve that guilt. I think getting away from home for a while would do any young adult good to see different ways of life. In your situation I think it would be even b...
by Linked
Fri May 14, 2021 8:45 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Radio West - Doubt
Replies: 5
Views: 402

Radio West - Doubt

Jill Lepore was on with Doug Fabrizio on Radio Wes t this week to discuss season 2 of her podcast which is about the way doubt has evolved in the public theater over the past century. It's been interesting, and touches on a lot of the things that led me out of my faith in the mormon church. One inte...
by Linked
Thu May 13, 2021 4:48 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: 'Do you think I could ever be happy outside of the church?'
Replies: 18
Views: 564

Re: 'Do you think I could ever be happy outside of the church?'

That's hard jfro! It's interesting that she would ask that question, because it's a question I am sure you would love her to sincerely consider in good faith. But she did not mean it that way. There does not appear to be space in her mind/soul for a good faith discussion about being out of the churc...
by Linked
Wed May 12, 2021 4:26 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Keys To Sexuality
Replies: 18
Views: 1211

Re: Keys To Sexuality

Oliver wrote:
Wed May 12, 2021 11:58 am
That meme is creepy to me. It would lead to the logical conclusion that Jesus is a voyeur...
Jesus and your ancestors...
by Linked
Wed May 12, 2021 4:25 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Mormons are Nice
Replies: 6
Views: 394

Mormons are Nice

In "Finding Meaning in the Second Half of Life" James Hollis says the following when discussing reflexive kindness: Indeed the stakes are even higher, for studies of totalitarian systems, or any society with strong collective pressures, show that through intimidation most, if not all, citizens becom...
by Linked
Mon May 10, 2021 4:11 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Extended Family Baptism
Replies: 2
Views: 223

Re: Extended Family Baptism

Hmmm.... Joseph Dodged a bullet (actually a flaming sword) when he agreed to polygamy. Emma had to accept polygamy, if only for a little while, so she got to live another 30 years. Yeah, it sounds like your sister's talk was terrible. :( Hahaha, phew! I'm glad we didn't have to find out what God wo...
by Linked
Mon May 10, 2021 1:38 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Extended Family Baptism
Replies: 2
Views: 223

Extended Family Baptism

My sister's kid got baptized recently and I went to be part of the family. My BIL was kind enough to invite me up to be part of the confirmation circle which I accepted; he knows where I stand and I treat those as family events and appreciate being included. My sister gave the talk on baptism and wa...
by Linked
Fri May 07, 2021 8:30 am
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: New Apologetic Movie: Witnesses
Replies: 47
Views: 1825

Re: New Apologetic Movie: Witnesses

I can't tell you how many times people have thrown the witnesses back at me on the website as proof that it's all true. "They never lost their testimony in the BoM even after leaving the church, which tells you that they really saw the plates." And since the evidence is so flimsy for for and agains...