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by stuck
Thu Feb 11, 2021 1:59 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Crap
Replies: 49
Views: 1431

Re: Crap

Great response Palerider! One of my wife's concerns is that drinking coffee would make me unworthy to give priesthood blessings and such. But I think if that is still a concern that we could go to the bishop and I am guessing that he would confirm that drinking coffee doesn't make us unworthy to giv...
by stuck
Tue Feb 09, 2021 9:22 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Crap
Replies: 49
Views: 1431

Re: Crap

Hey Linked, Sorry you're going through this. Something similar happened to me also. After she found out she said something to the effect of, "Are you going to file or am I?". Kind of scary stuff. Why do these tbm wives have such a reaction?! Anyway, she went on to say something like, "so you're real...
by stuck
Sat Jan 02, 2021 8:46 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: How do you cope with lost friendships?
Replies: 5
Views: 400

Re: How do you cope with lost friendships?

Thanks for your responses Wonderment and Red Ryder! I will have to look at the video a little closer some time. Anyway, it seems that sometimes I tend to blow things out of proportion when it comes to relationships post faith transition. I reconnected and said that I wasn't on his blacklist it was j...
by stuck
Wed Dec 30, 2020 8:30 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: How do you cope with lost friendships?
Replies: 5
Views: 400

How do you cope with lost friendships?

I have noticed recently that my former best friend has distanced himself from me. I am pretty sure it is because he knows that I am no longer a believer. This hurts because I miss that friendship. I do understand though, because even as an unbeliever I am still hesitant to befriend other unbelievers...
by stuck
Wed Oct 14, 2020 12:16 pm
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Marital stress
Replies: 13
Views: 1617

Re: Marital stress

Thank you Alas, those are some great ideas. Now I just have to get the guts to speak with her about it.
by stuck
Wed Oct 14, 2020 12:13 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: How to find a good marriage counselor
Replies: 21
Views: 2077

Re: How to find a good marriage counselor

Sorry to hear Oliblish. Hope it goes well. Don't have any experience myself except for trying to stay happily married to a tbm.
by stuck
Mon Oct 12, 2020 12:21 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Are member's testimonies changing?!
Replies: 12
Views: 1640

Are member's testimonies changing?!

I listened at home to the live streamed testimony in my ward yesterday and was pleasantly surprised to find that a couple of members in their testimonies said to the effect, "I'm not sure if the church is true but believe in Jesus". There were other more orthodox testimonies and one of the ones that...
by stuck
Mon Oct 12, 2020 12:11 pm
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Marital stress
Replies: 13
Views: 1617

Re: Marital stress

Hey guys thanks for the thoughts and advice. I should try to be more honest with her too. This is hard for me on some things like paying tithing and drinking coffee. She just found out I had been drinking coffee and had a bit of a melt down even though I told her I had been drinking coffee six month...
by stuck
Wed Sep 30, 2020 7:36 pm
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Marital stress
Replies: 13
Views: 1617

Re: Marital stress

Corsair’s post is spot on. My advice in this is mixed. Ready for it? Divorce is absolutely an option. Maybe not the best option for your situation right now or ever, but just remember it’s a valid option. Keep that in mind and communicate it openly with her. This will allow yourself to fully evalua...
by stuck
Wed Sep 30, 2020 11:33 am
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Marital stress
Replies: 13
Views: 1617

Re: Marital stress

I certainly want to acknowledge that this stress in a marriage is difficult. I have to give a lot of credit to my wife for coming to some acceptance on my beliefs. She is largely not budging on her testimony, but she does not evaluate our relationship based on my belief. I wish there was an easier ...
by stuck
Tue Sep 29, 2020 1:47 pm
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Marital stress
Replies: 13
Views: 1617

Marital stress

Hey guys, Just wanted to vent and hopefully get some more ideas on how to make a mixed faith marriage better especially when one spouse seems more entrenched. Just a bit of background: We have been married for about 7 years and my shelf broke about 6 years ago. We have a couple of young kiddos. She ...
by stuck
Tue Sep 22, 2020 1:26 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: House Church lessons
Replies: 18
Views: 1875

Re: House Church lessons

DW wants it more formal here, so our typical Sunday is: Everyone in church clothes Opening hymn (we play a hymn and we all kind of mumble along) Prayer Sacrament hymn Sacrament Lesson (usually come follow me from DW) Closing hymn Prayer DW is annoyed on a regular basis because the kids aren't parti...
by stuck
Fri Jun 05, 2020 2:29 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Bruce Porter Stuff Again
Replies: 22
Views: 2532

Re: Bruce Porter Stuff Again

I was watching this documentary from Magellan on the history of Egypt last night. One their first gods was in the form of a cow because they used to hunt and live on wild cows. This is like 19,000 years ago. Well if the Egyptians were such an inspired civilization, why didn't they like the Nephites ...
by stuck
Tue Feb 04, 2020 4:51 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Corsair Visits Nauvoo in Winter
Replies: 29
Views: 5171

Re: Corsair Visits Nauvoo in Winter

I think it's pretty clear that Joseph was always in over his head, and so land speculation was part of his way of creating artificial wealth and getting out from under all of his debt... and I think that was something that absolutely was more of a motivation to JS than the health and well being of ...
by stuck
Tue Feb 04, 2020 12:54 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Corsair Visits Nauvoo in Winter
Replies: 29
Views: 5171

Re: Corsair Visits Nauvoo in Winter

Did anyone hear Mike Brown's podcast with John Dehlin on Mormon Stories? He said something about Joseph Smith communicating to a land speculator? or someone of the like that to some effect he didn't care that much for the health of the people who lived in Nauvoo. This angered me because I did have a...
by stuck
Wed Jan 22, 2020 9:33 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Strange things in the Bible
Replies: 18
Views: 2282

Re: Strange things in the Bible

But if I remember right, isn't it true in LDS theology that the devil cannot influence kids under the age of 8? Yes, this is true but he seems to do very well keeping older white men in the dark about their own biases and ignorance..... I agree with that. When are they going to become intellectuall...
by stuck
Tue Jan 21, 2020 3:26 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Strange things in the Bible
Replies: 18
Views: 2282

Re: Strange things in the Bible

Could you give us an exact reason why an innocent toddler should be told about ( the myth) of Satan, or the abstract philosophical discussion of good vs. evil? Something more specific than your wife has ocd? Why is it not enough, at age 3, to learn that God love us and wants us to be obedient and lo...
by stuck
Sat Jan 18, 2020 9:59 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Strange things in the Bible
Replies: 18
Views: 2282

Re: Strange things in the Bible

Having raised four children, I wouldn't even raise either of these subjects with my kids until they were six or seven years old. Or if they happen to bring it up themselves. Three years old? Kinda young there.... But that's just me. I agree 3 years old is too young. Hell, I had nightmares about Inj...
by stuck
Thu Jan 16, 2020 6:01 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Strange things in the Bible
Replies: 18
Views: 2282

Strange things in the Bible

My wife recently discussed talking to our 3 year old about Satan. We were trying to decide perhaps how to approach the subject. I remember my parents reading to us bible stories from a children's bible and there being a picture of satan in there with hooves. I wasn't really scared but I think later ...
by stuck
Sat Jan 11, 2020 9:01 am
Forum: Support
Topic: It's not even wrong
Replies: 19
Views: 3114

Re: It's not even wrong

Ugh CFM! My wife is really pushing this. I guess in a home setting though, we can more easily give our perspective. And this is important I think. I say teach both sides to the kids so that when they are of age (or if we can get out before then) can more easily make an informed decision about the ch...