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by stuck
Fri Dec 13, 2019 2:09 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Christmas, Bah! Humbug!
Replies: 1
Views: 64

Re: Christmas, Bah! Humbug!

My faith crisis caused me to question god and christianity and wouldn't you know it there are problems. From the virgin mary not being a virgin to half the books in the new testament being forgeries. So when traditional christmas music comes on it's almost like how you feel during testimony meeting ...
by stuck
Thu Dec 05, 2019 3:16 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: It's been a while. What next
Replies: 33
Views: 911

Re: It's been a while. What next

I'm going to plus one on the bandaid rip! But that being said, I only did the bandaid rip with my local leaders. Our effort to fade out was putting us on the project list and we and our one kid at home were being harassed for interviews and callings, etc. After I wrote the email and sent it off, ma...
by stuck
Thu Dec 05, 2019 12:29 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Extended Family Relationships
Replies: 6
Views: 361

Re: Extended Family Relationships

I absolutely believe from personal experience on both sides of the fence that soft shunning in mormonism is a real experience. The awkwardness between ardent believers and former believers is tangible. We are living and breathing cognitive dissonance and the cause of discomfort to those still insid...
by stuck
Tue Dec 03, 2019 12:50 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Extended Family Relationships
Replies: 6
Views: 361

Extended Family Relationships

Does anyone else feel like their extended family relationships are more distant especially since they have discovered that you are now an unbeliever? I didn't make it to the family thanksgiving dinner because my wife just had a baby. But I texted a couple of siblings afterwards about things and neve...
by stuck
Tue Dec 03, 2019 12:28 pm
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Update after meeting with counselor
Replies: 7
Views: 678

Re: Update after meeting with counselor

Thanks for your comment Linked!
by stuck
Tue Nov 19, 2019 3:34 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: The challenges of attending church
Replies: 19
Views: 807

Re: The challenges of attending church

I found just two people I could relate to and invited them to do stuff outside of church, like a family bbq. Then we went to late night movies we knew our wives would not watch like John Wick. I felt better about going after that. If I didn’t have them, I wouldn’t have gone. I brought a book and en...
by stuck
Tue Nov 19, 2019 2:56 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: The challenges of attending church
Replies: 19
Views: 807

Re: The challenges of attending church

I have just the opposite problem. I have lots of friends at church, and enjoy the association with them, but not church! We even have a standing invite from one family for Sunday dinner every week. So I go to talk with my friends. That's nice to have friends! Do you think that they would still be y...
by stuck
Tue Nov 19, 2019 2:54 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: The challenges of attending church
Replies: 19
Views: 807

Re: The challenges of attending church

I feel the same way. I don’t have anyone at church I look forward to seeing it talking to. Few come up and talk to me, and I’m not even open about my faith. I just feel no desire to go to church. So, I go with DW every 2-3 weeks. Who ever decided church was needed weekly? I certainly don’t need it....
by stuck
Tue Nov 19, 2019 2:52 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: The challenges of attending church
Replies: 19
Views: 807

Re: The challenges of attending church

In my case the key to survival is reading my kindle books during sacrament meeting and getting out of there as soon as the closing prayer ends. I find that 1hr only attendance keeps my wife from having to play the single church widow with our kids and it provides me with just enough time listening ...
by stuck
Tue Nov 19, 2019 2:44 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: The challenges of attending church
Replies: 19
Views: 807

Re: The challenges of attending church

When i was active, the Ward members weren't my friends. I do have friends that are lds but we are not friends because of church. I simply am not interested in what the mormons in my area are interested in. Mostly sports. Pro, college and local schools. Activities revolve around sports. Area basketb...
by stuck
Mon Nov 18, 2019 12:39 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: The challenges of attending church
Replies: 19
Views: 807

The challenges of attending church

If you're like me, you would rather stay home instead of attending church. When I attend I feel like I don't have many friends. The only ones that act friendly are the bishop and eqp because I believe they have a better understanding of where I'm at (and they would probably like to see me "come back...
by stuck
Mon Nov 18, 2019 12:31 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: "I wish I could talk with Linked like this!"
Replies: 7
Views: 378

Re: "I wish I could talk with Linked like this!"

Good luck Linked with having a good conversation with your sister. Hopefully it will go like it did with your parents and then hopefully she will at least have more empathy and understanding for where you're at.
by stuck
Mon Nov 18, 2019 12:27 pm
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Update after meeting with counselor
Replies: 7
Views: 678

Re: Update after meeting with counselor

Thanks for your comment Hermey, I think that will be a great day if and when my wife is not so tbm and ocd about doing what the church wants her to do.
by stuck
Wed Nov 13, 2019 5:27 pm
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Update after meeting with counselor
Replies: 7
Views: 678

Re: Update after meeting with counselor

Man Graey, I don't know how you do it. After my FC I could only accept a calling to teach primary to the 7 year olds with my wife and I made her do most of the teaching. After that, I wouldn't accept anymore callings. That would be great if I new my elder's quorum president had had a FC though. I th...
by stuck
Tue Nov 12, 2019 1:39 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Pleasant Surprise
Replies: 6
Views: 436

Re: Pleasant Surprise

Progress is great right?! Congrats! Hopefully things will continue to go your way.
by stuck
Tue Nov 12, 2019 1:26 pm
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Update after meeting with counselor
Replies: 7
Views: 678

Re: Update after meeting with counselor

I know it's a process. Does anyone have any suggestions? I guess just keep going slow. The good thing is now she seems to be more open to listening to the other side. She wanted to study come follow me with her about the priesthood recently and I relented. When we were done she said do you have anyt...
by stuck
Sun Nov 10, 2019 11:59 am
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Update after meeting with counselor
Replies: 7
Views: 678

Update after meeting with counselor

I met with Veon also recently after some of you recommended him. I think one of the main problems I have and maybe some others on this site has also is being able to live authentically while being married to believing spouses. For example I have confessed to my wife that I have been drinking coffee ...
by stuck
Wed Oct 30, 2019 11:10 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Baby steps!
Replies: 17
Views: 623

Re: Baby steps!

https://carljungdepthpsychologysite.blog/2019/02/03/carl-jungs-near-death-experience/#.XbnLnehKjb0 New Me's response reminded me that Carl Jung had a near death experience. Hopefully the link above will take you there, otherwise you can google carl jung's near death experience. I am not convinced t...
by stuck
Tue Oct 29, 2019 4:29 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Baby steps!
Replies: 17
Views: 623

Re: Baby steps!

Emower and Linked you guys make some great points. My wife saw me not wear my garments the other day and was upset. I ended up buying her flowers and a card telling her I was sorry. But I said I don't think I could go back to attending priesthood. I remembered what she wanted me to do and did a litt...
by stuck
Tue Oct 29, 2019 11:09 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Baby steps!
Replies: 17
Views: 623

Re: Baby steps!

Great suggestions RH, I'll have to see if she is willing to take a Sunday off sometime. She is such a stickler though about missing church even if we travel.