Search found 211 matches

by stuck
Fri Aug 05, 2022 1:16 pm
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Baby Steps: I get to have more agency?!
Replies: 3
Views: 105

Baby Steps: I get to have more agency?!

My wife has been seeing a counselor for some anxiety. Recently she saw her and told her that one of her main sources of her anxiety was my faith crisis/transition. The counselor told her that she shouldn't be like Satan and not give me agency. In my mind I was like yes! She says that she feels like ...
by stuck
Fri Jul 29, 2022 12:43 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Feel Injured->Desire Vengeance->Soothe
Replies: 16
Views: 487

Re: Feel Injured->Desire Vengeance->Soothe

Yes it does seem like if you have been born in the church, your family and the church sort of take away our agency. We are not free to explore things and develop our own opinion about things because we are in the church and we must always think about what is most important through the lens of the ch...
by stuck
Thu Jul 28, 2022 8:57 am
Forum: Support
Topic: More lifting from Old Testament?
Replies: 6
Views: 265

Re: More lifting from Old Testament?

Here’s a great table of other comparisons. https://faenrandir.github.io/a_careful_examination/comparison-table-book-of-mormon-and-bible-verses-origins-project/ The really telling thing here is how many of these verses are lifted from the New Testament, but included in the BoM's timeframe BEFORE the...
by stuck
Tue Jul 26, 2022 9:30 am
Forum: Support
Topic: More lifting from Old Testament?
Replies: 6
Views: 265

More lifting from Old Testament?

I was listening to the history in the bible podcast and he spoke about The Benjamites stealing Canannite women to have for wives. This seems pretty similar to the priests of King noah who stole the Lamanite women to marry. Compare Judges 21:18-23 with Mosiah 20:1-5.
by stuck
Fri Jul 22, 2022 12:22 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: 4 % tithing sounds like a good idea !!
Replies: 24
Views: 944

Re: 4 % tithing sounds like a good idea !!

Now that we know that know that the LDS church is not what it claims to be it makes sense that many here are on the 0% tithing plan. By the way, does anyone know the status of that lawsuit against the church to refund tithing?
by stuck
Thu Jul 21, 2022 3:12 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: 4 % tithing sounds like a good idea !!
Replies: 24
Views: 944

Re: 4 % tithing sounds like a good idea !!

I figure I don't have any obligation to pay tithing now since I paid on my gross for several years and at minimum should have paid the way Rock Waterman suggests: 10% on any extra money I have after expenses right? So I feel I'm paid up for the rest of my life. We have all probably overpaid but woul...
by stuck
Tue Jul 19, 2022 11:26 am
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: Types of Faith Spectrum
Replies: 17
Views: 583

Re: Types of Faith Spectrum

I am curious to know why we noms experienced a faith crisis but why some of our spouses or family have not. Is it because our faith is based on evidence? Mine started with the Blacks and the priesthood essay. It just didn't make sense to me that the former prophets would be wrong on this unless they...
by stuck
Tue Jul 12, 2022 12:14 pm
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: Comparing the Historicity of Ramses II and Moses.
Replies: 5
Views: 363

Re: Comparing the Historicity of Ramses II and Moses.

I have been listening to the history in the Bible podcast recently by Gary Stevens. It is fairly succinct, but interesting and it does take more of a critical approach. https://www.historyinthebible.com/ It averages about 25 to 30 mins per episode.
by stuck
Tue Jun 21, 2022 11:50 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Baptized my Son
Replies: 6
Views: 347

Re: Baptized my Son

Congrats! Glad it worked out for you. I will be facing this in a couple of years. It's too bad they don't allow them to wait until they are adults right? They don't really get to examine both sides and make an informed decision. And if my wife is still as orthodox as she is now, she will probably no...
by stuck
Tue Jun 14, 2022 2:11 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Holy Fetch! (Update…)
Replies: 37
Views: 1981

Re: Holy Fetch!

Wow RR, that's wonderful right?! We all hope that our tbm spouses will finally agree that the church is not what it claims to be. But I remember a post a couple years back about whether we would like it if our spouses had faith transitions/crises or not and some were a bit reluctant. But it is wonde...
by stuck
Fri May 27, 2022 12:11 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Anxiety and Depression
Replies: 33
Views: 1913

Re: Anxiety and Depression

Read Michael Pollan's How to Change Your Mind. Hagoth, is this the one about magic mushrooms? I know you have tried these in the past. Did you try them in that church started by an exmo? It is interesting. Tell us more if you can. Yes to all of the above. I will start a thread in the Coffee Shop, s...
by stuck
Fri May 27, 2022 12:10 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Anxiety and Depression
Replies: 33
Views: 1913

Re: Anxiety and Depression

I’ll put in the plug for exercise, sleep, and trying to eat healthy. Talking to your doctor is also a perfect solution. Taking a break from Mormonism is highly recommended too. Both chapel and internet Mormonism. Take care of yourself first. I like the break from mormonism. I'll have to see if my D...
by stuck
Tue May 24, 2022 1:39 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Anxiety and Depression
Replies: 33
Views: 1913

Re: Anxiety and Depression

Go to therapy with your wife. Sister Ryder and I did 15 weeks and came out better able to communicate. We don’t always agree but we’ve learned to communicate and set our boundaries. At the beginning of this faith transition mess, I was afraid we’d be divorced. Had little kids. Now I’m afraid we won...
by stuck
Tue May 24, 2022 8:12 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Anxiety and Depression
Replies: 33
Views: 1913

Re: Anxiety and Depression

Hagoth wrote:
Fri May 13, 2022 4:09 pm
Read Michael Pollan's How to Change Your Mind.
Hagoth, is this the one about magic mushrooms? I know you have tried these in the past. Did you try them in that church started by an exmo? It is interesting. Tell us more if you can.
by stuck
Mon May 23, 2022 3:40 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Anxiety and Depression
Replies: 33
Views: 1913

Re: Anxiety and Depression

Go to therapy with your wife. Sister Ryder and I did 15 weeks and came out better able to communicate. We don’t always agree but we’ve learned to communicate and set our boundaries. At the beginning of this faith transition mess, I was afraid we’d be divorced. Had little kids. Now I’m afraid we won...
by stuck
Fri May 13, 2022 2:50 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Anxiety and Depression
Replies: 33
Views: 1913

Re: Anxiety and Depression

Maybe I could talk her into both seeing her counselor to see if we could set boundaries with the church in our marriage. So yeah the church is a pain in my a$$. Stuck -- This is an excellent idea.If she likes and trusts the counselor, she'll then be open to listening and considering feedback. For e...
by stuck
Fri May 13, 2022 11:23 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Anxiety and Depression
Replies: 33
Views: 1913

Re: Anxiety and Depression

I have good days and bad days, but a lot more good days since distancing myself from attending church (automatic trigger). I still have anxiety and have accepted that I will always have it. I am better at recognizing triggers and setting boundaries to help keep it at bay. I did struggle with depres...
by stuck
Fri May 13, 2022 9:49 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Anxiety and Depression
Replies: 33
Views: 1913

Re: Anxiety and Depression

With your doctor, just say that attending church is one of your big stressors, and he should tell you to just stop going even if it upsets the wife. It really is simple once you get over trying to make everybody happy. Your health is important and your wife is responsible for her own happiness. You...
by stuck
Fri May 13, 2022 9:48 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Anxiety and Depression
Replies: 33
Views: 1913

Re: Anxiety and Depression

Xanax or other medication can help calm the symptoms for awhile, and you should do whatever your doctor directs you to do. If the Dr. has you on prescription meds, then follow the Dr.'s orders about that. But medications sometimes don't get to the heart of the anxiety and depression, which is the c...
by stuck
Fri May 13, 2022 8:55 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Anxiety and Depression
Replies: 33
Views: 1913

Re: Anxiety and Depression

Yes, there's great medications that can help you with your depression and/or anxiety. Find a Dr. That's not scared to write a prescription for Xanax, see if that helps your anxiety. Some of the newer anti depressants are really good but watch out for side effects. I spent a good portion of my life ...