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by glass shelf
Mon Apr 08, 2019 5:40 pm
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: Did not watch one second of conference. Did not miss it.
Replies: 7
Views: 183

Re: Did not watch one second of conference. Did not miss it.

Me, neither. For several sessions in a row. It's the best. I just read about the crazy/interesting/whatever stuff on the internets later. I still remember the last time I did watch conference before my shelf crashed down, and I heard the speaker giving life advice. I literally thought to myself, thi...
by glass shelf
Mon Apr 08, 2019 4:31 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Equally yoked? I don't think so.
Replies: 9
Views: 302

Re: Equally yoked? I don't think so.

It makes me sad for me that I grew up thinking this was totally normal and okay, too. Visuals like this help me realize that my feelings about it are totally valid.
by glass shelf
Mon Apr 08, 2019 2:47 am
Forum: Support
Topic: What would you choose?
Replies: 10
Views: 321

Re: What would you choose?

I wouldn't personally choose anything related to mormonism, but that's not really the point of this. If you invited me over, and I already had scheduled an activity for my favorite hobby and spent money on tickets, I'd decline. I'd suggest an alternate time, but I wouldn't change my plans. I wouldn'...
by glass shelf
Sun Apr 07, 2019 5:24 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Update. Need to vent, has nothing to do with Mormonism
Replies: 26
Views: 839

Re: Update. Need to vent, has nothing to do with Mormonism

What an amazing update, Alas. I'm so happy for you. Medical professionals make their best predictions based on their evidence and experiences, but slim probabilities are still possible.

I so glad you all got to hear him talk! Does he have a Passy-Muir Valve? They're amazing. :)
by glass shelf
Fri Apr 05, 2019 5:28 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Honor Code Stories
Replies: 14
Views: 555

Re: Honor Code Stories

As a victim of the HCO myself, I find these stories deeply concerning et unsurprising. My experience was at Ricks. A platonic female friend of my room mate had fallen asleep on the couch watching a movie. She slept over on the couch. Nothing more. Nothing less. Her roommates reported her spending t...
by glass shelf
Fri Apr 05, 2019 4:27 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Intervention
Replies: 18
Views: 673

Re: Intervention

Are you going to set a boundary about talking about the church after this? My mother-in-law did something equally manipulative one time, and I told her it was the last time we would ever talk about the church. Period. I know she's still not happy we left, but we don't talk about it. I'm a grown adul...
by glass shelf
Fri Mar 29, 2019 10:30 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Ward Council is Closed (Minded)
Replies: 27
Views: 986

Re: Ward Council is Closed (Minded)

FiveFingerMnemonic wrote:
Fri Mar 29, 2019 8:39 am
When someone asks you how your testimony is doing the proper response is to ask them how their sex life is doing. [emoji1787]

Hey now, we all know that's inappropriate....unless you're the bishop of course.
by glass shelf
Thu Mar 28, 2019 2:53 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Brainstorm - Psychological Damage
Replies: 24
Views: 677

Re: Brainstorm - Psychological Damage

Alas- I think all of these things can be so entertwined that it's really hard to separate them out, so thanks for adding your thoughts. Basically, for me, it boiled down to the fact that I was supposed to be some kind of peacemaking doormat with no personal needs who put everyone first. Enough year...
by glass shelf
Wed Mar 27, 2019 4:14 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Brainstorm - Psychological Damage
Replies: 24
Views: 677

Re: Brainstorm - Psychological Damage

Alas- I think all of these things can be so entertwined that it's really hard to separate them out, so thanks for adding your thoughts. Basically, for me, it boiled down to the fact that I was supposed to be some kind of peacemaking doormat with no personal needs who put everyone first. Enough years...
by glass shelf
Tue Mar 26, 2019 2:49 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Brainstorm - Psychological Damage
Replies: 24
Views: 677

Re: Brainstorm - Psychological Damage

overly enmeshed families codependent relationships overzealous sense of responsibility guilt regarding self-care and self-prioritization lack of healthy boundaries (both creation and recognization of) Glass Shelf - would you mind elaborating a bit on your items above. These seems to strike a chord ...
by glass shelf
Tue Mar 26, 2019 6:35 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Brainstorm - Psychological Damage
Replies: 24
Views: 677

Re: Brainstorm - Psychological Damage

overly enmeshed families
codependent relationships
overzealous sense of responsibility
guilt regarding self-care and self-prioritization
lack of healthy boundaries (both creation and recognization of)
by glass shelf
Mon Mar 25, 2019 10:58 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Ward Council is Closed (Minded)
Replies: 27
Views: 986

Re: Ward Council is Closed (Minded)

Ward council was the source of many a heavy weight on my shelf.

Good luck with your interview!
by glass shelf
Thu Mar 21, 2019 7:04 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Do you tell people about NOM?
Replies: 17
Views: 544

Re: Do you tell people about NOM?

I don't think I've ever told anyone about NOM.

My parents posted on reddit after they ended up leaving the church. No idea if they still do or not.
by glass shelf
Thu Mar 21, 2019 6:00 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: What's left in your transition?
Replies: 18
Views: 566

Re: What's left in your transition?

-I finished up grad school, and I'm heading into the professional world--a pretty big deal for someone who was once convinced her full worth relied on being the best SAHM and wife possible Congrats GS! It seems like yesterday you were just starting the process. I remember your posts talking about i...
by glass shelf
Thu Mar 21, 2019 4:55 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: What's left in your transition?
Replies: 18
Views: 566

Re: What's left in your transition?

I think all that's really left for me is moving on completely, but I'm not sure how to do that because Mormonism shaped so much of who I am. All in all, I'm in a good place. -haven't stepped foot in a Mormon church or lived by Mormon rules in years -everyone who knew I was Mormon knows I'm not now -...
by glass shelf
Mon Mar 18, 2019 6:05 am
Forum: Support
Topic: College bound question?
Replies: 2
Views: 180

Re: College bound question?

It's been way too long for my BYU info to be very helpful, but my best living situation was definitely when I just shared a one-bedroom apartment with my roommate from my dorms. That probably says a lot about me being an introvert. In general, though, I think houses and smaller apartment complexes a...
by glass shelf
Thu Mar 14, 2019 7:51 am
Forum: Support
Topic: on being outside
Replies: 17
Views: 680

Re: on being outside

It is unfair and needlessly painful.

I hope the rest of the day is lovely.
by glass shelf
Wed Mar 13, 2019 5:26 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Should I Do This Interview?
Replies: 12
Views: 483

Re: Should I Do This Interview?

I appreciate everybody's thoughts on this. I decided to do the interview. I talked with the editor for about an hour. It was an excellent conversation. I described my own experience with conversion therapy, why I felt like I had to do it, and where I am now with it. At the end, I decided to have he...
by glass shelf
Tue Mar 12, 2019 6:44 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: mocha latte for Neal
Replies: 22
Views: 571

Re: mocha latte for Neal

I think of him when I grab one, too. ((hugs))

I'll raise a mug in the morning.
by glass shelf
Tue Mar 12, 2019 9:59 am
Forum: Support
Topic: If the church were to admit and apologize...
Replies: 22
Views: 603

Re: If the church were to admit and apologize...

dogbite wrote:
Tue Mar 12, 2019 9:45 am
it wouldnt change anything for me.
Me neither. It's too little too late.

That ship has sailed.