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by glass shelf
Tue Jul 16, 2019 12:09 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: To tell in-laws or not?
Replies: 16
Views: 316

Re: To tell in-laws or not?

I always find these discussions so interesting because I would never have been able to live with a "don't ask, don't tell" policy for the long term. Just not my personality. It's not about seeking validation from other people for me but about not having the 1,923 awkward interactions where Mormons ...
by glass shelf
Tue Jul 16, 2019 4:29 am
Forum: Support
Topic: To tell in-laws or not?
Replies: 16
Views: 316

Re: To tell in-laws or not?

I always find these discussions so interesting because I would never have been able to live with a "don't ask, don't tell" policy for the long term. Just not my personality. It's not about seeking validation from other people for me but about not having the 1,923 awkward interactions where Mormons w...
by glass shelf
Thu Jun 06, 2019 4:22 am
Forum: Support
Topic: My Journey out from the flock, Getting a Coffee Maker
Replies: 3
Views: 195

Re: My Journey out from the flock, Getting a Coffee Maker

I have a Ninja single serve that I use mainly when it's cold. I like that you don't have to mess with cups or any of that. I mainly drink cold brew which I either make myself (1/2 gallon mason jar and special sieve) or buy at the grocery store (Stok usually). My friend who makes fantastic coffee use...
by glass shelf
Thu May 30, 2019 2:10 pm
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: My parental units--is a visit worth it?
Replies: 14
Views: 557

Re: My parental units--is a visit worth it?

It's 100% okay to put your needs and comfort first.

It doesn't sound like a good time for a trip. Stock the pantry and freezer and figure out an alternate time they can come. :)
by glass shelf
Tue May 28, 2019 3:31 pm
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: My parental units--is a visit worth it?
Replies: 14
Views: 557

Re: My parental units--is a visit worth it?

I'd probably go with "no" on this trip. I'd rather people visit me when I can enjoy them than when it would be adding stress to my life while I was trying to recuperate. This is probably colored by the "helpful" trips that my grandma made when I was a child that resulted in mass stress for my parents.
by glass shelf
Mon May 13, 2019 9:19 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Got Corbridged!
Replies: 14
Views: 575

Re: Got Corbridged!

I always wonder what good they think will come of randomly sending things like this.
by glass shelf
Mon May 06, 2019 1:00 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Couples Married Civilly Now Authorized for Immediate Temple Marriage
Replies: 68
Views: 1831

Re: Couples Married Civilly Now Authorized for Immediate Temple Marriage

Finally! Now time to start pushing for the USA to follow the world by going metric :mrgreen: I agree. I work in healthcare and everything is metric, but few other areas in the US are. It is the church that has been holding back on the entire USA moving to the metric system /s I'm all in if someone ...
by glass shelf
Mon May 06, 2019 8:10 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Couples Married Civilly Now Authorized for Immediate Temple Marriage
Replies: 68
Views: 1831

Re: Couples Married Civilly Now Authorized for Immediate Temple Marriage

Once again, they make no apologies for all of the people that their previous requirements hurt. I'm sorry for everyone who had to exclude loved ones or who has been excluded.
by glass shelf
Mon Apr 08, 2019 5:40 pm
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: Did not watch one second of conference. Did not miss it.
Replies: 7
Views: 289

Re: Did not watch one second of conference. Did not miss it.

Me, neither. For several sessions in a row. It's the best. I just read about the crazy/interesting/whatever stuff on the internets later. I still remember the last time I did watch conference before my shelf crashed down, and I heard the speaker giving life advice. I literally thought to myself, thi...
by glass shelf
Mon Apr 08, 2019 4:31 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Equally yoked? I don't think so.
Replies: 9
Views: 446

Re: Equally yoked? I don't think so.

It makes me sad for me that I grew up thinking this was totally normal and okay, too. Visuals like this help me realize that my feelings about it are totally valid.
by glass shelf
Mon Apr 08, 2019 2:47 am
Forum: Support
Topic: What would you choose?
Replies: 10
Views: 436

Re: What would you choose?

I wouldn't personally choose anything related to mormonism, but that's not really the point of this. If you invited me over, and I already had scheduled an activity for my favorite hobby and spent money on tickets, I'd decline. I'd suggest an alternate time, but I wouldn't change my plans. I wouldn'...
by glass shelf
Sun Apr 07, 2019 5:24 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Update. Need to vent, has nothing to do with Mormonism
Replies: 26
Views: 996

Re: Update. Need to vent, has nothing to do with Mormonism

What an amazing update, Alas. I'm so happy for you. Medical professionals make their best predictions based on their evidence and experiences, but slim probabilities are still possible.

I so glad you all got to hear him talk! Does he have a Passy-Muir Valve? They're amazing. :)
by glass shelf
Fri Apr 05, 2019 5:28 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Honor Code Stories
Replies: 14
Views: 673

Re: Honor Code Stories

As a victim of the HCO myself, I find these stories deeply concerning et unsurprising. My experience was at Ricks. A platonic female friend of my room mate had fallen asleep on the couch watching a movie. She slept over on the couch. Nothing more. Nothing less. Her roommates reported her spending t...
by glass shelf
Fri Apr 05, 2019 4:27 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Intervention
Replies: 18
Views: 831

Re: Intervention

Are you going to set a boundary about talking about the church after this? My mother-in-law did something equally manipulative one time, and I told her it was the last time we would ever talk about the church. Period. I know she's still not happy we left, but we don't talk about it. I'm a grown adul...
by glass shelf
Fri Mar 29, 2019 10:30 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Ward Council is Closed (Minded)
Replies: 44
Views: 2122

Re: Ward Council is Closed (Minded)

FiveFingerMnemonic wrote:
Fri Mar 29, 2019 8:39 am
When someone asks you how your testimony is doing the proper response is to ask them how their sex life is doing. [emoji1787]

Hey now, we all know that's inappropriate....unless you're the bishop of course.
by glass shelf
Thu Mar 28, 2019 2:53 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Brainstorm - Psychological Damage
Replies: 24
Views: 816

Re: Brainstorm - Psychological Damage

Alas- I think all of these things can be so entertwined that it's really hard to separate them out, so thanks for adding your thoughts. Basically, for me, it boiled down to the fact that I was supposed to be some kind of peacemaking doormat with no personal needs who put everyone first. Enough year...
by glass shelf
Wed Mar 27, 2019 4:14 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Brainstorm - Psychological Damage
Replies: 24
Views: 816

Re: Brainstorm - Psychological Damage

Alas- I think all of these things can be so entertwined that it's really hard to separate them out, so thanks for adding your thoughts. Basically, for me, it boiled down to the fact that I was supposed to be some kind of peacemaking doormat with no personal needs who put everyone first. Enough years...
by glass shelf
Tue Mar 26, 2019 2:49 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Brainstorm - Psychological Damage
Replies: 24
Views: 816

Re: Brainstorm - Psychological Damage

overly enmeshed families codependent relationships overzealous sense of responsibility guilt regarding self-care and self-prioritization lack of healthy boundaries (both creation and recognization of) Glass Shelf - would you mind elaborating a bit on your items above. These seems to strike a chord ...
by glass shelf
Tue Mar 26, 2019 6:35 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Brainstorm - Psychological Damage
Replies: 24
Views: 816

Re: Brainstorm - Psychological Damage

overly enmeshed families
codependent relationships
overzealous sense of responsibility
guilt regarding self-care and self-prioritization
lack of healthy boundaries (both creation and recognization of)
by glass shelf
Mon Mar 25, 2019 10:58 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Ward Council is Closed (Minded)
Replies: 44
Views: 2122

Re: Ward Council is Closed (Minded)

Ward council was the source of many a heavy weight on my shelf.

Good luck with your interview!