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by trophywife26.2
Sun Jun 30, 2019 9:08 am
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: Hindsight Bias and Outcome Bias gone Nuclear
Replies: 5
Views: 2726

Re: Hindsight Bias and Outcome Bias gone Nuclear

Chernobyl, the mini series was amazing. I just wrote down these quotes from it. "When the truth offends we lie and lie until we can no longer remember it is even there but it is still there. Every lie we tell incurs a debt to the truth. Sooner or later that debt is paid." "To be a scientist is to be...
by trophywife26.2
Thu Jun 20, 2019 8:26 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Woohoo!
Replies: 20
Views: 9265

Re: Woohoo!

Yayyyy!!
by trophywife26.2
Sun Jun 09, 2019 9:10 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Help with outing myself?
Replies: 33
Views: 17492

Re: Help with outing myself?

Thanks everyone. This is helpful. My husband suggested just not saying anything also, but it’s hard to just not say anything. I have a sibling that got married, and was married for 6 months before any of us knew. My mom was the last to know. It caused a lot of stress and heartache for my mom, and I...
by trophywife26.2
Tue Jun 04, 2019 7:03 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Help with outing myself?
Replies: 33
Views: 17492

Re: Help with outing myself?

what worked for me was my parents already knew I was pretty loud about having problems with the way LGBTQ people were looked at and treated in the church. They also knew I was a bit of a feminist. I just took that and expanded it. I told my parents that there were things the church says is right or ...
by trophywife26.2
Sun Jun 02, 2019 7:59 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Very Happy Day For Me; coming full circle.
Replies: 4
Views: 2264

Very Happy Day For Me; coming full circle.

5 years ago when I first learned that the church wasn't quite what I thought it was and I tried to walk this middle path, something I did was teach Sunday school to young teens. I was a non-believer and I felt there was a chance two of the boys in my class were gay. This was Utah County. I often pos...
by trophywife26.2
Mon May 06, 2019 8:02 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Couples Married Civilly Now Authorized for Immediate Temple Marriage
Replies: 68
Views: 31843

Re: Couples Married Civilly Now Authorized for Immediate Temple Marriage

I really want to be happy about this, but the space I'm in is just mad. Mad about who I was 12 years ago when I: unapologetic and self righteous, refused to do a ring ceremony for my jackmo parents so I wouldn't take away from the sacredness of the sealing. I have apologized now, but no apology will...
by trophywife26.2
Mon Apr 08, 2019 8:13 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: What would you choose?
Replies: 10
Views: 5199

Re: What would you choose?

I wouldn't personally choose anything related to mormonism, but that's not really the point of this. If you invited me over, and I already had scheduled an activity for my favorite hobby and spent money on tickets, I'd decline. I'd suggest an alternate time, but I wouldn't change my plans. I wouldn...
by trophywife26.2
Sun Apr 07, 2019 9:03 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: What would you choose?
Replies: 10
Views: 5199

What would you choose?

We invited my in laws over for dinner this week and an Easter party (I planned this to avoid the fiasco that happened last year when they didn't respect our boundaries on Easter Sunday). Well, they decided going to the Firm Foundation Expo to learn about Evidence for the Book of Mormon was more impo...
by trophywife26.2
Sat Apr 06, 2019 11:02 am
Forum: Support
Topic: General NOMfrence Saturday Morning!!!!
Replies: 90
Views: 31596

Re: General NOMfrence Saturday Morning!!!!

It's always nice when The Family(TM) is used as a bludgeon to control people. Just like Jesus wanted! "Even when family members aren't living in the home." Isn't the place a person lives, by definition, a home? Are they living in a van down by the river? Hey can you please help me out, I'm not watc...
by trophywife26.2
Sat Apr 06, 2019 10:51 am
Forum: Support
Topic: General NOMfrence Saturday Morning!!!!
Replies: 90
Views: 31596

Re: General NOMfrence Saturday Morning!!!!

Sounds like he's trying to scare us. I can't believe he hasn't cried yet. It's always nice when The Family(TM) is used as a bludgeon to control people. Just like Jesus wanted! "Even when family members aren't living in the home." Isn't the place a person lives, by definition, a home? Are they livin...
by trophywife26.2
Mon Apr 01, 2019 7:33 pm
Forum: The Coffee Shop
Topic: Film Review: Captain Marvel
Replies: 15
Views: 9529

Re: Film Review: Captain Marvel

I liked Captain Marvel a lot. I don't think the story or special effects or acting were something huge and ground breaking or the best film I've ever seen, but I'm very happy to see it in the theater. I'm satisfied with the movie and would be willing to see it again. To me her character arc is subtl...
by trophywife26.2
Mon Apr 01, 2019 7:23 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: What do you say to someone who is dying?
Replies: 11
Views: 4808

Re: What do you say to someone who is dying?

I was always more afraid of the stick than motivated in going after the carrot. I have more peace about MY death now that I am an atheist. Other people's deaths are more unsettling now, but mine I am no longer afraid for my own death, except maybe if I die in a painful way. When it's over, it's over...
by trophywife26.2
Sun Dec 23, 2018 10:24 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Support through the holidays
Replies: 28
Views: 12795

Re: Support through the holidays

What a great idea to make this thread! Thanks Angel!! Ever since my DS passed away (July of 2017) the holidays are my own personal hell. I have to keep my sh*t together to try and give my DD a happy holiday season, but all I want to do is break down and cry and not get out of bed. I'm really lucky ...
by trophywife26.2
Tue Sep 25, 2018 8:20 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Sunstone in trouble?
Replies: 9
Views: 5901

Re: Sunstone in trouble?

I don't know who the donor would be, but the timing has me thinking it could be related to someone who doesn't want to be connected to the Courtney Kendrick and Robert Kirby fiasco... since that happened at Sunstone? I'm also curious.
by trophywife26.2
Fri Sep 21, 2018 8:23 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Update. Why I am angry with victims (myself)
Replies: 41
Views: 18758

Re: Update. Why I am angry with victims (myself)

Wow. This conversation was super intense. I am so glad I had a chance to read it because I learned so much. Fifi you added some really amazing and useful insight about handling these situations. I can clearly see why you would have so much fatigue from seeing the same situations play out over and ov...
by trophywife26.2
Sat Aug 18, 2018 5:07 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Break it to a coworker that I'm not Mormon?
Replies: 12
Views: 7437

Re: Break it to a coworker that I'm not Mormon?

i Wouldn’t worry about it. I think it is just the way religious people talk to someone they are comfortable with. In fact, people often assume that other’s that they like are like them in ways that those people are not. So if it comes up in some natural way, then you can share your lack of religiou...
by trophywife26.2
Sat Aug 18, 2018 5:02 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Break it to a coworker that I'm not Mormon?
Replies: 12
Views: 7437

Re: Break it to a coworker that I'm not Mormon?

2bizE wrote:
Fri Aug 17, 2018 11:42 pm
With the new name change fiasco, neither of you are Mormon anymore.
Right? That will never stick. 😂
by trophywife26.2
Sat Aug 18, 2018 5:02 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Break it to a coworker that I'm not Mormon?
Replies: 12
Views: 7437

Re: Break it to a coworker that I'm not Mormon?

No, I don't associate with any religion anymore. I consider myself an atheist but most religious people hate that. To Mormons I usually say, "we're on a different path now," if they really push it I might bring up gay marriage/nov policy or feminism. To general Christians, (I have a tiny handful at ...
by trophywife26.2
Fri Aug 17, 2018 8:07 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Break it to a coworker that I'm not Mormon?
Replies: 12
Views: 7437

Re: Break it to a coworker that I'm not Mormon?

PS I was going to post this on exmo reddit, since I am resigned and all and it's kind of an exmo question, but I just felt like you guys have the more nuanced answers I am looking for. Love you guys.
by trophywife26.2
Fri Aug 17, 2018 7:58 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Break it to a coworker that I'm not Mormon?
Replies: 12
Views: 7437

Break it to a coworker that I'm not Mormon?

There is a new person I work very closely with at work. Our jobs are complimentary we collaborate in all our planning on a daily basis. We are just starting out in this 'partnership' and I really like her and think this will be a mutually beneficial professional relationship. She is LDS (because Uta...