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by MerrieMiss
Sun Apr 14, 2019 11:27 am
Forum: The Coffee Shop
Topic: Fantasyland: How America Went Haywire
Replies: 2
Views: 325

Re: Fantasyland: How America Went Haywire

I read it last year and didn't care for it much. After hearing an interview with the author I was excited to read it, but in my opinion it was overrated and disappointing. I never finished the last twenty pages or so as I lost motivation. Since it was a year ago, I don't remember all of the issues I...
by MerrieMiss
Sun Apr 07, 2019 9:33 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Newest update on my brother
Replies: 41
Views: 2337

Re: Update. Need to vent, has nothing to do with Mormonism

Such wonderful news!
by MerrieMiss
Fri Apr 05, 2019 3:19 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Intervention
Replies: 18
Views: 1244

Re: Intervention

This is so weird. I don't know how you kept it together. So, so weird.

Was your wife there? Does she know about this? I would imagine many active mormons thinking this is over the top.
by MerrieMiss
Fri Apr 05, 2019 1:49 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Thursday Night Group Therapy? (7pm pacific time)
Replies: 21
Views: 1426

Re: Anyone need to talk through this stuff?

I don't know what one says or does to change minds or have useful dialogue. I've long ago got to the point where if I think there's no bridging the gap, then I don't even bother to engage and in the few instances when I do, I usually regret it because it is a waste of time and energy. I'm fortunate ...
by MerrieMiss
Fri Apr 05, 2019 1:44 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Thursday Night Group Therapy? (7pm pacific time)
Replies: 21
Views: 1426

Re: Anyone need to talk through this stuff?

slavereeno wrote:
Fri Apr 05, 2019 11:47 am
Yes, I like the idea, but perhaps schedule in advance.
Same.
by MerrieMiss
Tue Apr 02, 2019 7:20 pm
Forum: The Coffee Shop
Topic: Complicated Family Tree
Replies: 10
Views: 848

Re: Complicated Family Tree

I had difficulty getting pregnant and we looked into adoption through at least three different organizations. It is difficult. It is very invasive. It's also expensive. And it comes with a lot of issues that do not exist when you have your own. I'm sure what this couple did was also expensive, so I ...
by MerrieMiss
Wed Mar 27, 2019 3:28 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Brainstorm - Psychological Damage
Replies: 24
Views: 1310

Re: Brainstorm - Psychological Damage

I mean, could some of those things be done in healthy ways? Maybe. But anytime people start going on about how "it's faaaaaammmmilllly and we've always done it this way in our faaaaaammmmmiilllllyy," i think it's a red flag. I see that you've met my in-laws. (And alas too - some of your examples so...
by MerrieMiss
Mon Mar 25, 2019 10:53 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Ward Council is Closed (Minded)
Replies: 53
Views: 5164

Re: Ward Council is Closed (Minded)

Sometimes I think Ward Council is what’s going to break my husband’s shelf. Every week he comes home from it just a little more disappointed/disgusted with how things are done/work. I have to remind myself to keep my mouth shut because the church really is its own worst enemy. I hear of all these wh...
by MerrieMiss
Thu Mar 21, 2019 1:58 pm
Forum: The Coffee Shop
Topic: I wish I hadn't volunteered
Replies: 2
Views: 323

I wish I hadn't volunteered

Can I just vent about something? My son’s 4H group is doing a service project for a cause that’s very important to me so I volunteered to be in charge of it. I’m really regretting it. The project needs a lot of scaffolding to be an effective project for kids, which isn’t a problem but will take more...
by MerrieMiss
Thu Mar 21, 2019 1:55 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Do you tell people about NOM?
Replies: 17
Views: 1061

Do you tell people about NOM?

Do you tell people you know in real life about NOM? It ends up my progressive sister-in-law is having a faith crisis. She’s pretty much a non-believer in Mormonism at this point. She says she feels alone and belongs to a post Mormon facebook group for support. I’m reluctant to tell her about NOM bec...
by MerrieMiss
Thu Mar 21, 2019 1:24 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: What's left in your transition?
Replies: 18
Views: 1088

Re: What's left in your transition?

I have: Deconstructed my religion and testimony Become comfortable with unanswered questions about god (apatheistic) Stopped wearing garments Stopped attending RS Told my husband I’m a non-believer Things I have yet to do: Drink coffee or tea not in secret Cook with wine Buy a pair of shorts Not att...
by MerrieMiss
Tue Mar 19, 2019 1:33 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: What was your first NOM thought?
Replies: 46
Views: 2915

Re: What was your first NOM thought?

Well, if I go back to my childhood it was about getting baptized. I got a journal and was told to record how I felt. I wrote, "I felt warm." And I remember thinking to myself at the time, and every time I went back to read it, that I was pretty sure it was the water that was warm and not the spirit,...
by MerrieMiss
Fri Mar 15, 2019 9:28 am
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: I think..... or I obey?
Replies: 11
Views: 779

Re: I think..... or I obey?

Just This Guy wrote:
Wed Jan 23, 2019 10:28 am
Shounds like something Out of Thomas the Tank Engine.

I think, therefore I am a really useful engine.
Yes. This is still making me laugh a couple hours after reading it. It might help I'm hearing it in Ringo Starr's voice.
by MerrieMiss
Thu Mar 14, 2019 1:16 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: on being outside
Replies: 17
Views: 1218

Re: on being outside

I am so sorry you have to go through this. I can’t imagine how it feels – my son will get baptized this year and I get nauseated every time I think about it. Just as with the sealing, I know it isn’t real, I know it doesn’t matter; reframing it helps, but it’s emotional abandonment. My grandparents ...
by MerrieMiss
Thu Mar 14, 2019 1:03 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: mocha latte for Neal
Replies: 22
Views: 1124

Re: mocha latte for Neal

Mocha latte mission completed, sending many hugs and much love.
by MerrieMiss
Tue Mar 05, 2019 3:24 pm
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: Church Going Mainstream
Replies: 28
Views: 1780

Re: Church Going Mainstream

If they want to go mainstream they need to drop the temple and the underwear. Not happening. The church is verifiably false. My time on earth is limited and I’m not waiting around for some changes that may or may not happen. Why am I supposed to hold out for some old guy to tell me it’s okay to wear...
by MerrieMiss
Tue Mar 05, 2019 12:47 pm
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Help for TBM-lite spouse?
Replies: 14
Views: 2137

Re: Help for TBM-lite spouse?

One of the things my husband was most upset about when I told him I didn't believe was that he was alone and couldn't talk to anyone about it. On his own he searched out a few Mormon Stories podcasts, I'm not sure which ones and I don't know that they were helpful since he doesn't say much. My bigge...
by MerrieMiss
Sun Mar 03, 2019 11:44 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Thoughts on Jana Riess podcast on Mormon Land
Replies: 9
Views: 878

Re: Thoughts on Jana Riess podcast on Mormon Land

I don't know why I worry about this crap. My discussion with my husband went something like this: Me: I listened to that podcast. What did you think of it? Husband: Oh yeah. What did you think? Me: You recommended it, I'd like to hear your thoughts. Husband: I guess it's interesting Millennials are ...
by MerrieMiss
Thu Feb 28, 2019 2:17 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: 2 faced gentiles
Replies: 21
Views: 1211

Re: 2 faced gentiles

Maybe it was because I never lived in a place where being Mormon was the norm/majority, but if you wanted to fit in to the greater culture, it just made sense not to project your unwanted beliefs on others. Sure there were always those few who did, but for the most part being Mormon never came up an...
by MerrieMiss
Thu Feb 28, 2019 2:06 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Thoughts on Jana Riess podcast on Mormon Land
Replies: 9
Views: 878

Re: Thoughts on Jana Riess podcast on Mormon Land

I agree that Riess is quite fair, and perhaps I should wait and see how things go with my husband, but I don't know that TBMs who hear what she has to say will see it in a "we need to have more nuanced, less black and white thinking" kind of way. More liberal or progressive mormons may get that mess...