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by MerrieMiss
Thu Nov 03, 2016 1:00 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: How did you find the new site?
Replies: 60
Views: 5580

Re: How did you find the new site?

Someone using the name Wonderment has posted on fMh. I don't go there much these days, so I don't know if it's the same person or if they still frequent that site.
by MerrieMiss
Mon Oct 31, 2016 5:17 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: At odds with Religious Community
Replies: 12
Views: 3795

Re: At odds with Religious Community

I like the idea of keeping close friends and family in a small inner circle, but like MerrieMiss, I worry about the kids. Won't someone think about the children?! Yeah, I worry about the kids too. The close friends and family do provide a fairly large group of kids to be friends with in my case, bu...
by MerrieMiss
Mon Oct 31, 2016 5:11 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: At odds with Religious Community
Replies: 12
Views: 3795

Re: At odds with Religious Community

And it's not that I consider the abstract concepts within religion as fake, even though I don't believe they are ontological realities, it's that because I don't believe I can't participate in them. This is going to sound like a really negative word, but I don't know how else to phrase it, the drea...
by MerrieMiss
Mon Oct 31, 2016 10:20 am
Forum: Support
Topic: At odds with Religious Community
Replies: 12
Views: 3795

Re: At odds with Religious Community

In my opinion, this has been the final, real-world question in my faith journey. I have a hypothesis that while the theistic God of the monotheistic traditions is not exactly "real" in the traditional sense, humanity might be better off if most people fundamentally believe in "Him". I haven't read ...
by MerrieMiss
Sun Oct 30, 2016 12:30 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: As an active NOM, how do you engage the church?
Replies: 33
Views: 2673

Re: As an active NOM, how do you engage the church?

Would it help to view it all as sociological field work? You know, going native and writing an ethnography. I try to do this in sacrament meeting. It helps. The real difficulty is that everyone there assumes you're one of them and unlike the researcher who engages another culture for a definite amo...
by MerrieMiss
Fri Oct 28, 2016 4:39 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: As an active NOM, how do you engage the church?
Replies: 33
Views: 2673

Re: As an active NOM, how do you engage the church?

I attend, am active, and hold a calling. I currently teach primary, although I admit it's getting old now that I've done it for several years. I could probably stand it a lot better if I could skip out of sharing time. I hate sharing time. Teaching the lesson is the best part of the three hour block...
by MerrieMiss
Thu Oct 27, 2016 3:32 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: How did you find the new site?
Replies: 60
Views: 5580

Re: How did you find the new site?

When NOM when down I did a lot of google searches for anything NOM and searched exmo reddit a little obsessively. I found out about NOM 2.0 on the NOM subreddit. I don't post much of anything meaningful, but NOM is my sanity check. Sometimes when I'm surrounded by all the crazies, I start to think I...
by MerrieMiss
Wed Oct 26, 2016 12:03 pm
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Explain your avatar choice
Replies: 109
Views: 13923

Re: Explain your avatar choice

I was really terrified to sign up. I chose a name I thought that no one would ever link to me and then I tried to think of a random image. The harder I tried to think of something random the more meaningful everything became. I saw a beautiful bird in the park that day, so I chose a picture of a bir...
by MerrieMiss
Wed Oct 26, 2016 11:57 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Konfession Time!
Replies: 52
Views: 5519

Re: Konfession Time!

I bought half a dozen black and green teas from the bulk bin at the store today so I could sample each one. Weird how it gave me butterflies in the stomach to do it. After brewing my first cup, I put the used teabag in the very bottom of the trash and burned the wrapper it came in. Paranoid, I know ...
by MerrieMiss
Fri Oct 21, 2016 4:58 pm
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Marriage counseling?
Replies: 11
Views: 1972

Re: Marriage counseling?

This is not about marriage counseling, but about seeing a therapist generally. I saw a therapist off and on for a couple years for postpartum depression, knowing I had serious faith problems as well. The therapist was great for the PPD, and generally okay for matters of faith – but only generally. W...
by MerrieMiss
Wed Oct 19, 2016 2:06 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Asked to pray in church
Replies: 11
Views: 1403

Re: Asked to pray in church

It was a great prayer, and as you said, most people probably didn't hear it since everyone tunes it out. I find most people can't even tell you who prayed, let alone what was said. I've always hated praying in church so a couple months ago when I was asked to pray in Sacrament Meeting, I politely de...
by MerrieMiss
Wed Oct 19, 2016 2:01 pm
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: One Ordinary Family's Extraordinary Mormon Transition
Replies: 3
Views: 922

Re: One Ordinary Family's Extraordinary Mormon Transition

I agree, it's great podcast. One of my favorite parts was on Part 2 minute 13-14 when he talks about validating a spouse's concerns and what it takes to have someone change their worldview. " A moment of unease " is how he frames it - it takes a moment of unease when a person is willing to confront ...
by MerrieMiss
Tue Oct 18, 2016 9:49 pm
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: The first argument we about the church
Replies: 1
Views: 616

The first argument we about the church

The first argument DH and I had about the church was on our honeymoon. We were touring an old church and I said I could feel the spirit. He told me I couldn’t feel it because it wasn’t a Mormon church or temple. I remember thinking to myself, “Who is this person I married?” In all fairness, he was p...
by MerrieMiss
Tue Oct 18, 2016 9:33 pm
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Mrs. Hagoth is reading RSR
Replies: 20
Views: 2502

Re: Mrs. Hagoth is reading RSR

Hagoth wrote: I just want her to have a better understanding of the reasons I can't believe.
This is all I really want. I can live with DH and I thinking and believing differently. We did even whenI was TBM. But I'd like to him to at least have a bit of perspective of where I am coming from.
by MerrieMiss
Tue Oct 18, 2016 9:30 pm
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: What I wish I would have done differently
Replies: 9
Views: 1623

Re: What I wish I would have done differently

It's a great list.

Exercise is important, but for me, more important than the exercise is being in the outdoors. If I can get outside in any weather and get into nature at all it elevates me. Exercising in a gym doesn't do much.
by MerrieMiss
Tue Oct 18, 2016 9:28 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Welcome NOM refugees to NOM 2.0
Replies: 89
Views: 9508

Re: Welcome NOM refugees to NOM 2.0

So glad that this is here. I can't believe how much I missed it. I did enjoy seeing familiar names popping up on other forums, reddit, and in other places - even on some old comment threads on podcasts. I've been trying to think of a new name because I never much liked this one, but whatever. I'm ba...