NOM

Most of us married to TBM's are NOM because we weren't afraid to think, while most of us are still married to TBM's and attending/because we're afraid to act. Wove haz nuffing twoo do wif it. this was like a truth slap to the head for me today. Maybe, to be a little more specific, afraid of the con...

Unless they are begging, say nothing. Even if they are begging, unless they are transitioning themselves, say nothing. I don't know that I agree. If no one had ever said anything, I might still be beating myself up for not being a good enough Mormon. Some good advice I got (and I see here regularly...

Humperdinck!

I have wondered about this myself. My DH truly believes I have my agency and doesn't seem to worry about it. BUT I pretend and attend for him. I wonder how it will be once I stop.....

So many awesome comments. I won't confront. I will persevere in trying to make interesting lessons. If the ward complains, maybe I'll get released and that will be one step closer to the door.

After a disappointing year of almost losing a friendship over trying to explain what I've leaned I've lost any interest in talking to anyone about it at all. I just want to live how I'd like. But. I'm stuck. Good advice though if you want to talk about it

I dream of this too. I told my spouse that when the kids are grown and we've moved I won't be active. I said I'd like to find a church with a soup kitchen or homeless shelter and participate there. He was disappointed and sad. Then over time he started saying he was looking forward to volunteering w...

This post reminded me of bishop from my youth. He was wealthy and convinced it was due to being a very rigid Mormon. Letter of the law kind of Guy. For me it's never made sense-how do we reconcile the teachings of Christ--humility, meek will inherit, God looketh on the heart--and the idea that wealt...

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Sun Jun 11, 2017 9:03 pm

so I picked him up and hugged him and told him I was proud of him that he wanted to help Heavenly Father. I told him that Heavenly Father will be proud of him no matter how much he gives;

What a great dad.

Nice! A little jealous-would love to find out a friend irl is here too!

If you want to go really simple you could just dial in your next lesson. No work. No effort. Just read from the manual. Honestly, that's how I felt. I put quite a bit of effort into my lessons and thought-perhaps that's not what is wanted. Just show up and give the standard 1, 2, 3 and go home. It'...

If you want to go really simple you could just dial in your next lesson. No work. No effort. Just read from the manual. Honestly, that's how I felt. I put quite a bit of effort into my lessons and thought-perhaps that's not what is wanted. Just show up and give the standard 1, 2, 3 and go home. It'...

The way I used to handle lessons was by swinging everything back toward doctrines I believe in like love, charity, humility, forgiveness, and tolerance. No one reads the manual anyway, so you won't get called out on that. I do think using lessons to reach against something, even if it's obliquely, ...

I took a calling teaching. I've mostly enjoyed it. (I'm non-believing attending TR holding..). I try to present the material in new and interesting ways. Not the same old. I do a tiny bit NOM but I'm careful. Lesson wasn't going great today and then right in the middle someone who doesn't enjoy my l...

This is a great post. A great reminder. Whenever possible, TSCC changes history to conform whatever current narrative they're trying to sell.

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Tue Jun 06, 2017 12:55 pm

I sit there on Sunday I see the young investigators looking for hope and a new life and I feel complicit in a sham, because I don't encourage debate around the messier parts of the doctrine, and I do let it all slide, because I want to attend with DW and not have any self-inflicted drama.

Me too

Thanks give it time This turned into a thought provoking post so thanks. Didyoumythme I wanted to say something similar. Yes there is sexism in the church. And it should not be tolerated. And it should be eradicated. And, there's also bullying. And some of the examples spoke to me as that. I think I...

Your life sounds lovely-intentional, compassionate and centered. Thanks for sharing.

(I thought I had posted this so sorry if it's a dup...) This post makes me uncomfortable. I know you're saying you're not bashing men. But how would we feel if there was a thread like this about women? I think focusing on one of those incidents or a pattern of behavior to discuss/dissect may have fe...

Alas & Nonny-thank you-those comments were very reassuring and validating I, too, wish belief wasn't required. I live in a good community. If I could just be me and be real and stil be loved and accepted without the love bombing or judgement I'd love it here. As it is I feel I have to be careful wha...

I've taken so many mental notes from this post! Parenting gold! I try to ask questions whenever I hear or see something I'm concerned about. Usually leads to great discussions. I'm very open to all of their questions and I'm honest about not knowing the answers. I try to find common ground on their ...