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- Thu Aug 09, 2018 6:16 pm
- Forum: Support
- Topic: Off-day thoughts on forgiveness
- Replies: 13
- Views: 7862
Re: Off-day thoughts on forgiveness
Interesting, and I agree to some extent. I would say, let someone else trap the snake because if you waste time on doing it yourself you die. And if being in the desert was not full of rattle snakes and you are never going to contain all of the hazard. Too much hazard to contain. A snake bite is no...
- Thu Aug 09, 2018 5:56 pm
- Forum: Support
- Topic: Pedophile Relative was Arrested--ongoing saga
- Replies: 12
- Views: 6799
Re: Pedophile Relative was Arrested--ongoing saga
If something is happening in the home, set up surveillance cameras, and let the kids know where the cameras are. Carrying around a cell phone is similar to carrying around a can of mace or a knife - a cell phone is a weapon. If something starts not feeling right, teach kids to get their phones out, ...
- Thu Aug 09, 2018 5:41 pm
- Forum: Support
- Topic: Pedophile Relative was Arrested--ongoing saga
- Replies: 12
- Views: 6799
Re: Pedophile Relative was Arrested--ongoing saga
so sorry - I have seen it, victims are blamed, abusers are protected - teach your kids to use their phones to videotape what is happening to them. Without recording what is happening there will be no justice. Even with the abuse recorded - the abuser is still fighting charges in my fam - the only sa...
- Thu Aug 09, 2018 5:30 pm
- Forum: Support
- Topic: Off-day thoughts on forgiveness
- Replies: 13
- Views: 7862
Re: Off-day thoughts on forgiveness
Betrayal trauma ... if you are not familiar with it, wiki is as good a place to start as any. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Betrayal_trauma A little bit ago there was a fb post about a recent lesson - I just looked it up, here is a quote: "When you hold a grudge against someone, regardless of the re...
- Mon Jul 30, 2018 9:45 am
- Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
- Topic: Broke the news that I'm "questioning"
- Replies: 6
- Views: 5116
Re: Broke the news that I'm "questioning"
My husband and I are in the middle of a faith-transition as well. we are now partially active - no callings, no temple recommend, cafeteria Mormons. For me, my religious journey takes place partially within a community, and partially as an individual. Embracing these two pieces - both community and ...
- Mon Jul 30, 2018 9:36 am
- Forum: Support
- Topic: I am taking my own action to support Sam
- Replies: 4
- Views: 2354
Re: I am taking my own action to support Sam
I was privileged to meet Sam a week ago, and shared our own family's story with him... our court case is coming up - the high priest is guilty (he video taped what he did, so there is no doubt of guilt) it is just a matter of how many years he will serve at this point. I credit Sam Young with pressu...
- Fri Jul 13, 2018 10:50 am
- Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
- Topic: Juggling World Views
- Replies: 5
- Views: 2891
Re: Juggling World Views
I spend a lot of time at the computer grading, and updating websites etc. I like to listen to podcasts, audio books, and other lectures while I am working. There is so much out there it is hard to know where to begin - but I do love listening and exploring where I can. I have recently been really en...
- Wed Jul 11, 2018 9:18 pm
- Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
- Topic: Soul-Crushing Sins of Omission
- Replies: 41
- Views: 30997
Re: Soul-Crushing Sins of Omission
Supposed sins of omission is why most, very good members of the church, still hate themselves. I agree. Soul crushing. A broken heart and a contrite spirit - that is the goal right? men are that they might have... what kind of joy? humility is a good thing, pride is a horrible thing - there has to ...
- Wed Jul 11, 2018 9:07 pm
- Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
- Topic: A Theory of Revelations (Stark [1999])
- Replies: 8
- Views: 3826
Re: A Theory of Revelations (Stark [1999])
I have had a couple of spiritual experiences that do not fit the mold. The one that caused me to join the church in the first place, I had not been taught about what the spirit was, had no idea anyone claimed to be led by the spirit - it was out of the blue, and it scared the be-geezers out of me. N...
- Fri Jul 06, 2018 2:50 pm
- Forum: Staying Faithful
- Topic: Stages of Faith
- Replies: 5
- Views: 20657
Re: Stages of Faith
For a time our ward was passing around buttons that read "All In" - to earn it you had to go to the temple, read scriptures, some long list of things.. What an awful, horrible idea. :shock: I have told a few people that I am "half in". I would have paid to make a button that looked the same as the ...
- Fri Jul 06, 2018 1:18 pm
- Forum: Introductions
- Topic: Looking for a home...
- Replies: 20
- Views: 15316
Re: Looking for a home...
So, is there a place for me? Both the church, and most of those who have left seem to embrace a dualistic mode where I'm either all in or all out. Will I be forced down one of these paths eventually? Is it worth it to find a middle of the road path? You do not have to be dualist. http://ucat.osu.ed...
- Fri Jul 06, 2018 1:11 pm
- Forum: Staying Faithful
- Topic: Stages of Faith
- Replies: 5
- Views: 20657
Re: Stages of Faith
Thanks for the reply Corsair - I like the stages of faith idea as I think there are some ways to return after a dark night to again be a member of a religious community - but you return in a new mindset as a new person - not allowing yourself to be tied down, owning your own beliefs while also being...
- Fri Jul 06, 2018 12:58 pm
- Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
- Topic: Emotional connectedness
- Replies: 3
- Views: 3294
Re: Emotional connectedness
Just an update - DH and I just registered for a Mormon Stories retreat - he is still trying to be active in the church, but he was also willing to go to the retreat with me which is wonderful. We also have a large book collection... a library - he likes to collect nice copies of books, and he has st...
- Thu Jul 05, 2018 11:54 am
- Forum: Staying Faithful
- Topic: Stages of Faith
- Replies: 5
- Views: 20657
Stages of Faith
Just curious how many of you are familiar with: http://www.thebattleofarmageddon.com/stages_of_faith.pdf Quite a bit of the "dark night" is familiar to me right now, and quite a few different paths to take after the dark night. I like the above essay - as it allows believers to question their faith ...
- Fri Jun 29, 2018 11:03 am
- Forum: Staying Faithful
- Topic: Prayer = Gratitude + Meditation
- Replies: 6
- Views: 20479
Re: Prayer = Gratitude + Meditation
As an agnostic deist, I still see that there is a lot of beauty in Christianity and value in many of the practices. I think it can still be useful to practice spiritual elements with a hope in a god or heavenly parents (yay for LDS influence and Heavenly Mother!), even if your belief is absent or u...
- Mon Jun 04, 2018 9:58 pm
- Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
- Topic: Essay: Restoring Trust
- Replies: 5
- Views: 3119
Re: Essay: Restoring Trust
O that I were an angel and could cry repentance unto every .... are corporations people?
- Mon Jun 04, 2018 9:49 pm
- Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
- Topic: In Which my Family is Propelled
- Replies: 10
- Views: 10211
Re: In Which my Family is Propelled
... one of my children was being harassed by a priesthood leader. I'm in the same boat - with multiple kids... he video-taped what he did, so thankful it does not come down to victim shaming etc. but it is taking forever to be resolved, I suppose will never be resolved? The priesthood leader is in ...
- Sun Jun 03, 2018 10:51 am
- Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
- Topic: Oaks and the Priesthood Ban as a Directive from God
- Replies: 23
- Views: 12062
Re: Oaks and the Priesthood Ban as a Directive from God
It does go against the essay. There are different versions of religion A) the massocistic, punish yourself, rigid "letter of the law" - theory where people think pain is good for you...the priesthood ban was good, it humbled them, broken heart is good, honor pain and suffering... B) the kind, joyful...
- Sun Jun 03, 2018 10:36 am
- Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
- Topic: Emotional connectedness
- Replies: 3
- Views: 3294
Emotional connectedness
My DH and I are both balancing on the fence. Last weekend both of us were called to talk with the Bishop - not knowing what about... Bishop wanted to give us temple recommends back, and we both turned him down. I was relieved my DH refused to get his TR, had hopes of taking a new faith journey toget...
- Sun Jun 03, 2018 6:47 am
- Forum: Introductions
- Topic: Hello again to all my friends.
- Replies: 4
- Views: 3292
Re: Hello again to all my friends.
I'm just starting my transition, hoping my DH comes along with me... thank you for your post, it is definitely comforting for those just starting on the journey to read the experiences of others and have hope in a brighter future, so thank you again.