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The importance of the child, as opposed to the importance of the church, has been slowly shifting ever since the baby boomers were all dunked and children became individuals rather than a herd. When I was baptized, there were just too many children for any individual attention for any of them. Back ...

I don't think she really wants you dead. I think she just sees that as the only way to get you believing the "truth" and avoiding the embarrassment of having a non believing apostate spouse. So, I think she is catastrophsizing your disaffection in the way the church teaches people to do, the kind of...

Well, since corporations often take on the characteristics of their leaders/founders it isn't surprising. I think most of the top leaders have mild to diagnosable cases of narcissistic personality disorder also. Look at the way they claim that they personally should never be criticized, should have...

Well I was writing, you posted and it sounds like thing are doing better. - More like I've chilled down, but still a concern The talk sounds like it was productive. As others have said, women tend not to be as amused by crude humor as what men are. This is a generality of course, with some women ob...

Here is a good overview of lesson #2 over at BCC . I like that part about adoption, and that we don't become sons and daughters of good until we accept Him. This, with JS's words in the King Follet address about God never having the power to create a human spirit really shows the JS did not believe...

Well, since corporations often take on the characteristics of their leaders/founders it isn't surprising. I think most of the top leaders have mild to diagnosable cases of narcissistic personality disorder also. Look at the way they claim that they personally should never be criticized, should have ...

You have some of the same issues that my DH and I struggled with, with her not being very willing to share her feelings. She probably has some of the same reasons and some different ones, so what worked for us may not work for you. But here goes. Long term thoughts: Like you suspect with your wife, ...

Well I was writing, you posted and it sounds like thing are doing better. The talk sounds like it was productive. As others have said, women tend not to be as amused by crude humor as what men are. This is a generality of course, with some women objecting to it more than others and even some at the ...

One option would be to back track even further than RR is recommending and acknowledge that you understand she is upset because she feels that you are mocking her inner most self. That would make anyone feel unloved. Once you convince her that you want to understand more about how she feels and why ...

We have a friend in the choir and he says that members are free to opt out. He is opting out and wrote about not wasting his time or money just so Trump can prove that most Mormons love him. The choir is expecting more volunteers than what it plans on needing, so of those volunteering, they will dra...

Since I am late to this discussion and you already have plans for today, let me make a more long term suggestion for saving the marriage. What my husband and I did when we no longer had religion as the big thing in common was to find something else in common. So, now he goes to church, but he has ne...

My theory is that he probably had long hair, not just the shoulder length hair usually depicted, but never cut l-o-n-g hair. His cousin John the Baptist was a member of the Essenes, who never cut their hair, as was Samson. Think about how Jesus bad mouthed the Pharisees and Saducees. Doesn't it make...

A while back my friend (believer) and I had a conversation where I posed a hypothetical of a church leader in their forties requesting permission to marry his oldest daughter (she is 14). I had the chance to pose the same question to an apologist friend and his wife. They are in a similar situation...

I think these "modesty issues" are just byproducts of the unhealthy way the church teaches women to view their bodies. The whole point of what I said. The church stresses "modesty" in a way that is very body shaming. Yet there is so much pressure to be attractive to catch a husband because that is ...

Oh man - this is so sad. The church brainwashes us to think we HAVE to do callings, and that prayer, God, whatever, will see us through. I've known people who served while spouses were diagnosed with fatal illnesses and later passed away - and the surviving spouse was still putting in 30 or more ho...

My sister has had the same roommate for about 25 years now. At first they went to great effort to let people know they were just friends, not lesbians. The roommate is divorced with children, but my sister never married? About 20 years ago, they purchased a house together and have been domestic part...

I like this modesty solution much better than the usual BYU immodestly modest uniform of skin tight tshirt and ankle length skirt. At least this says strength rather than wilting sexy violet. I really hate the skin tight Tshirt look and don't think it is modest al all. Sure skin is covered, but it s...

I recommend reading Mormon Enigma https://www.amazon.com/Mormon-Enigma-Emma-Hale-Smith/dp/0252062914 It's very good. I think I remember it being fairly straight-forward and not overly biased. I guess I have a more charitable impression of Emma. Imagine being a woman in the 1800's. Joseph is said to...

Those were not the only statues in Solomon's temple that were to Gods that today we would consider to be sort of like the statues pagan's worshipped. There were actually statues, most likely to Ashera and possibly to others. We actually don't have good records of the Gods Isreal worshipped. We just ...

About 40-50 years ago, it was quite common. Back 100 years ago, it was common for the missionaries to be married before going, so in a 50 year period, changing to only being engaged was not such a stretch. Then the church decided that the missionaries got too heart sick and the church started discou...