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by whatififly
Wed May 16, 2018 6:20 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: In which I lose my best friend
Replies: 21
Views: 12634

Re: In which I lose my best friend

Give her some time..if she is a true friend, she will miss you. I mean surely there has to be another connection between good friends other than the church. Wait a little..I don't think it is over. Time will tell..and time will tell if she was a true friend or not. If she is not..then she is not al...
by whatififly
Wed May 16, 2018 6:17 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: In which I lose my best friend
Replies: 21
Views: 12634

Re: In which I lose my best friend

Thanks everyone, your support has been amazing. I'm still struggling with the loss but have been allowing myself to grieve and work through it. DH mentioned that my friend had a look of fear on her face when I addressed a few of the things in the church that I have struggled deeply with, such as pol...
by whatififly
Wed May 09, 2018 5:13 pm
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: Making sense of "spiritual" experiences
Replies: 17
Views: 8472

Making sense of "spiritual" experiences

I have been able to attribute a lot of spiritual experiences to simply strong emotions or a sense of community or purpose. However, I have had a few experiences that I can't explain away. I feel quite certain that the church is the product of a clever and manipulative con man, but one of these exper...
by whatififly
Wed May 09, 2018 3:26 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: In which I lose my best friend
Replies: 21
Views: 12634

In which I lose my best friend

My husband and I talked religion with a couple we're close friends with recently. We didn't admit that we no longer believe but came pretty close. I felt like I handled it pretty well, sticking with "I feel" statements, etc. They didn't take it well. The wife raised her voice and got extremely defen...
by whatififly
Wed Apr 25, 2018 2:09 pm
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: "If you read the BoM, your babies will cry less"
Replies: 14
Views: 11033

Re: "If you read the BoM, your babies will cry less"

That makes me cringe too. I have a friend who went on an overseas mission. In his homecoming talk he related the story of a couple he encountered on his mission who were in an abusive relationship. He knew the guy was violent to his wife and promised them that if they read the book of Mormon the pro...
by whatififly
Sun Apr 22, 2018 4:09 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Strategy #9: How to stop wearing garments.
Replies: 15
Views: 9033

Re: Strategy #9: How to stop wearing garments.

So funny! :lol: I have to remember the phrase priesthood antennae. It was hard for me to stop wearing garments. I took the covenants seriously and even as my belief began to wither away, I still felt supersticious about taking them off. I was legitimately afraid of what would happen if I did. The br...
by whatififly
Sat Apr 21, 2018 6:10 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Shouldn't have, but I outed myself
Replies: 9
Views: 4360

Shouldn't have, but I outed myself

Late Thursday evening a member of the elder's quorum stopped by our house. He was dressed up so (I assume) heading back from a meeting where they were discussing the inactives in the ward. I genuinely like this guy. He's sincere. Anyway, after the basic "how you doing" conversation he asked in a rou...
by whatififly
Fri Apr 20, 2018 9:13 pm
Forum: Gatherings, Events, and Announcements
Topic: COMING TO UTAH
Replies: 2
Views: 16780

Re: COMING TO UTAH

Do they meet in Draper every Sunday? I'm new in NOM and am interested in something like that.
by whatififly
Wed Apr 18, 2018 5:52 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: TBM in laws in my ward..
Replies: 26
Views: 14467

Re: TBM in laws in my ward..

Thanks everyone for your support and suggestions. After reading through everything I definitely feel less alone but am still not entirely sure what I will do. DH says play alone, occasional church to appease them. I'm trying to embrace that idea- after all, like one of you mentioned, it may be less ...
by whatififly
Mon Apr 16, 2018 8:25 pm
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Avoiding conflict
Replies: 11
Views: 7625

Re: Avoiding conflict

On another note, you are at the worst stage marriages go through. The little kid time is most stressful on marriages. There is very little time for the two of you to talk, so it is important to make time. Date time. Away from the kids time. Adult time. Instead of worrying about how you are keeping ...
by whatififly
Mon Apr 16, 2018 8:07 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: TBM in laws in my ward..
Replies: 26
Views: 14467

TBM in laws in my ward..

My husband and I are no longer comfortable attending church. We can handle the judgement from neighbors and ward members, but dread what will happen with his family. They are in our Ward and have noticed our lack of church attendance. DH makes excuses but they sound just like that- stupid excuses- a...
by whatififly
Mon Apr 16, 2018 6:46 pm
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Just joined NOM
Replies: 15
Views: 8906

Re: Just joined NOM

Welcome. I just recently joined myself. I wish I could have my wife talk to you. She is in the same boat. Always feeling like a failure because she doesn't amount to some random standard of perfect motherhoodness. I have tried to convince her how much better I feel once I stopped caring about wheth...
by whatififly
Sun Apr 15, 2018 8:32 pm
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Just joined NOM
Replies: 15
Views: 8906

Re: Just joined NOM

Just This Guy wrote:
Sun Apr 15, 2018 4:30 pm
Greetings and Salutations! Pull up a chair and a drink of your choice.
Happily, I have found that I enjoy tea, coffee, and beer. Currently it's tea I'm sipping. :lol:
by whatififly
Sun Apr 15, 2018 8:30 pm
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Just joined NOM
Replies: 15
Views: 8906

Re: Just joined NOM

We are glad you found us. Do you have a spouse involved in your transition? Yes, I have kept my DH involved in this process. He's hasn't had the time to do any research for himself, but I have kept him updated on what I have found and sent him some of the most poignant information to read. Luckily ...
by whatififly
Sat Apr 14, 2018 2:20 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Deprogramming Modesty
Replies: 10
Views: 4720

Re: Deprogramming Modesty

I don't have any answers for you, but I feel your pain. I'm approaching this topic as a female, re-evaluating my choices and wondering what my new normal should be.
by whatififly
Sat Apr 14, 2018 1:04 pm
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Just joined NOM
Replies: 15
Views: 8906

Just joined NOM

I've been lurking on here for a month or so now and have finally joined as I really need support as I go through my faith transition. There is so much I need to talk about and work through, but I'm still in the closet as an unbeliever as my husband and I are afraid of the social rejection we'll face...