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Thank you everyone. The “release” took 15 minutes. I said about 4 words. He spent a great deal of time reassuring me I had done nothing wrong which just convinced me they all felt I did. I was going to keep my thoughts to myself if asked but after that I decided to take your advice and talk about tr...

The odd thing was that I’d always been very good at memorizing things, but I could never, ever get the words of the temple ceremony right. A stupor of thought came through every single time. Again, I thought I was stupid or unworthy, but I should have remembered how the spirit testifies of truth… T...

Emower wrote: ↑

Thu Aug 29, 2019 4:16 pm

It does business pretty well.

Ha! I was about to say Real Estate or the Stock Market

My dad's side of the fam was TBM/LDS and my mom's was all kinds of religions. I think that helped me with boundaries. My mom's family did not discuss people's worth or their opinions on someone else's choices. The irony was that the Mormons believed in agency but judged everyone. I hope your wife st...

Congrats!! From my point of view, the stake callings always seems to come and go often so 15 months seems standard especially (not trying to be rude here just pointing out reality) for the women. Nobody will remember you had the calling 3 weeks from now. On the bright side, that back door is now su...

I understand the feeling. Even after my views changed I still cared what friends and neighbors thought about me as a person. Yes. I'm having some of those "how will I be judged over this" and "only problems get released this fast" moments. As I've obsessed over it all morning, I've also realized th...

I have tried to discuss this with my DH before, I don't learn anything, ever. And I used to feel that meant something was wrong with me. I used to listen to these sisters in RS go on and on about how they learn something new EVERY TIME they attend. I think it's just more oneupmanship and spiritual c...

I told you all about caving for a stake calling over a year ago. I've actually enjoyed parts of the calling and have made a way for it to work for me. I'm also a very hard worker and I have taken on the lion's share of tasks for the president. There have been some pretty big bumps in working cohesiv...

As Anon70 said, you can pay anonymously to SLC directly. The amount paid is not reported to your bishop, only that a payment was made. You could pay $1 and it will show up the same as $15,000. So pay $1 per pay period and then keep paying 10% to local charities that you feel need it. You will be he...

I’ve paid anonymously for years and I never show them or have been asked for proof. I just say I’m a full tithe payer.

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I feel for you!! I agree with previous posts about doing it your way. I’ve been in an unwanted stake calling for over a year now (mainly for my spouse’s feelings). And I don’t even try to act like a TBM. I am vocal in my opposition about activities I don’t agree with (trek) and I give talks I feel l...

Thoughtful wrote: ↑

Sat Aug 03, 2019 8:38 pm

I had a pre-wedding ob/gyn exam. It was a baseline pap smear and birth control rx. No sex ed. No dilators. No big deal.

Ditto for me 28 years ago. And I sent my DD to one recently for same reason.

The best thing about the new program is that all “treks and youth conferences” are to be put on hold. Amen & Hallelujah! I hadn’t prayed about it but wish I had so I could say my prayers had been answered. I had actually been the only vote against trek here and had said that with all the issues they...

Not knowing what was true or real was very upsetting at first-the church had an answer for everything before my faith crisis. But, like Emower, years down the path I feel so much peace at not knowing anything. I don’t even know what I believe most days. I find it very freeing. I actually feels it’s ...

I keep glancing at the title of this thread and think it's a thread about Willie Nelson for an instant before I realize it's really about some other dude with the last name of Nelson, and I am disappoint. What does Willie Nelson have to do with MORmONism? https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/comm...

In the church council I am currently serving on, we are told we can disagree all we want internally. Discuss. Dissect. Disagree. But when we leave the room we need to be a unified team that is consistent in our messaging. It sounds good in theory but I don’t agree with a lot of the decisions made af...

I’m not sure if this is on topic but I have to give a talk in a few weeks due to my calling. We’re always given a GC talk as topic. I always hate mine. Without fail. So I’m reading it and then reading all of the scripture references to see if I can find some tiny thing of value to talk about. Multip...

2. When you do a survey like this you likely want to target a certain group of the population to get a good representation from each group. This way they aren't sending surveys to the entire church constantly. A guy messaged me yesterday they he just took a survey on "leisure travel" from the churc...

It’s interesting to look back and wonder. I dated a bit in high school—members and non members. Dated a lot in college all members. I always told my kids to date around! Have lots of fun dating experiences! All of my dating eligible kids have been in one long term relationship after another. Some go...