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- Mon Jan 29, 2024 9:15 pm
- Forum: Support
- Topic: Communication skills
- Replies: 61
- Views: 22709
Re: Communication skills
Mayan, you have steps that I was lumping together. Trigger, leads to emotion, leads to controlled or uncontrolled reaction. To try to keep things simpler, I was just looking at the set as a whole. Yes, in writing the whole book, you are correct. But for here, I am trying to cover lots of material in...
- Sun Jan 28, 2024 7:28 pm
- Forum: Support
- Topic: How do you define Mormonism?
- Replies: 54
- Views: 14680
Re: How do you define Mormonism?
I have also seen TBM member do things that helped. One friend knew a woman was in an abusive marriage. The elder’s quorum told the men not to help her move out f the house as she was going against the bishop’s advice to stay with her temple marriage. He was the only man who showed up to help her get...
- Sun Jan 28, 2024 6:55 pm
- Forum: Support
- Topic: Communication skills
- Replies: 61
- Views: 22709
Re: Communication skills
My internet is supper slow, so that is all for now, but think more about emotions as a sign, that flashes “danger” but tells you zip about what, when, where, why is the danger. How can you know what is the danger with such a shitty road sign?
- Sun Jan 28, 2024 6:40 pm
- Forum: Support
- Topic: Communication skills
- Replies: 61
- Views: 22709
Re: Since we don’t have moderators
Great topic. I do think I'm now on the spectrum - comfortably numb - no feelings. I found my past feelings to be completely false, false trust, false beliefs, false security - my feelings didn't protect, were based on lies, so I have no respect for feelings. In Tuchkman team formation stages, the s...
- Sat Jan 27, 2024 9:35 pm
- Forum: Support
- Topic: Communication skills
- Replies: 61
- Views: 22709
Re: communication skills
I want to change things up a bit and look at reflective listening in an online situation. How is it different when you are reading instead of listening? Well, you don’t have facial cues, you don’t have body language, and you can’t hear the tone and voice inflections. So it is much harder, especially...
- Sat Jan 27, 2024 9:09 pm
- Forum: Support
- Topic: Communication skills
- Replies: 61
- Views: 22709
Re: Since we don’t have moderators
Great topic. I do think I'm now on the spectrum - comfortably numb - no feelings. I found my past feelings to be completely false, false trust, false beliefs, false security - my feelings didn't protect, were based on lies, so I have no respect for feelings. In Tuchkman team formation stages, the s...
- Fri Jan 26, 2024 2:29 pm
- Forum: Support
- Topic: Communication skills
- Replies: 61
- Views: 22709
Re: Since we don’t have moderators
So, if her feeling is pissed, then you look further at what event triggered pissed. You can go several directions with pissed. As Mayan’s thing is quotes says, you can look at other secondary emotions. Anger is not a primary emotion. It is secondary to feelings of threat or loss. So, what is the fea...
- Thu Jan 25, 2024 9:08 pm
- Forum: The Coffee Shop
- Topic: The 10 Commandments (JST translation)
- Replies: 5
- Views: 985
Re: The 10 Commandments (JST translation)
I like the part about coveting thy neighbor’s ass. Only my current neighbors are all old men and none of them have very good asses, even in tight levies. But I am in a face book group that like to put up pictures of firemen holding puppies, so we can all enjoy the fireman’s puppy as well as his ass,...
- Thu Jan 25, 2024 8:10 pm
- Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
- Topic: Church and State; Utah and Texas
- Replies: 9
- Views: 2012
Re: Church and State; Utah and Texas
I would just like to mention what somebody said on another thread when they mentioned wanting to keep political discussions to the coffee shop as much as possible, so that these forums don’t get taken over with politics. They mentioned how political discussions can become so consuming as well as ma...
- Thu Jan 25, 2024 7:57 pm
- Forum: Support
- Topic: How do you define Mormonism?
- Replies: 54
- Views: 14680
Re: How do you define Mormonism?
Whether or not I can or can't find case evidence of what the church does or did or does not do - does not validate calling all the members part of a herd. Some folks are awful. Some are complicit in awful things. Most people are not. There seems to be a disconnect in what a person named Jane or Jim...
- Thu Jan 25, 2024 6:50 pm
- Forum: Support
- Topic: Communication skills
- Replies: 61
- Views: 22709
Re: Since we don’t have moderators
Alright, I will kind of aim the discussions at how to talk to your still believing family, since I hope none of you are involved in things like domestic violence or some of the other crap I worked with. :shock: So, the first part of communication is understanding the other person, so, we will start ...
- Tue Jan 23, 2024 8:27 pm
- Forum: Support
- Topic: Communication skills
- Replies: 61
- Views: 22709
Communication skills
Edited to change heading from since we don’t have moderators to communication skills Right now I am stuck sitting around a lot as I recover after the fourth blankety blank surgery in the same foot. Can’t walk, the knee scooter I use to get around hurts my knee replacement. So, too much time on my ha...
- Tue Jan 23, 2024 7:25 pm
- Forum: The Coffee Shop
- Topic: Annalee Skarin- Mormon Prophetess?
- Replies: 7
- Views: 1977
Re: Annalee Skarin- Mormon Prophetess?
Hey, I have a trans friend waiting for top surgery. If that what you mean by trans-figured?moksha wrote: ↑Fri Jan 05, 2024 9:57 amUsually, it takes a year-long effort on a rigorous diet and strenuous exercise to get me transfigured.Just This Guy wrote: ↑Fri Jan 05, 2024 5:48 amI have never seen someone listed as transfigured on Wikipedia.
- Tue Jan 23, 2024 7:16 pm
- Forum: The Coffee Shop
- Topic: Has Finland Anti-LDS Values?
- Replies: 9
- Views: 1561
Re: Has Finland Anti-LDS Values?
I read an article about how some red state, forgot which one, but Utah qualifies, would rather split up a homeless family and put the kids in foster care and pay MORE for foster care, then provide housing for the family. I know I used to work for a private funded agency (like YWCA) that had a batter...
- Tue Jan 23, 2024 6:57 pm
- Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
- Topic: Church and State; Utah and Texas
- Replies: 9
- Views: 2012
Re: Church and State; Utah and Texas
I would just like to mention what somebody said on another thread when they mentioned wanting to keep political discussions to the coffee shop as much as possible, so that these forums don’t get taken over with politics. They mentioned how political discussions can become so consuming as well as may...
- Tue Jan 23, 2024 6:50 pm
- Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
- Topic: Replacing the New Order Mormon
- Replies: 59
- Views: 81255
Re: Replacing the New Order Mormon
I'm late to this discussion, but I like it. I like the idea of trying to empathize with those who disagree with me, even though sometimes I let emotion take over and get pissed off. Ideas that seem weird or crazy to me but still make sense to others like: flat earth, young earth, Trump as the solut...
- Tue Jan 23, 2024 6:25 pm
- Forum: Support
- Topic: How do you define Mormonism?
- Replies: 54
- Views: 14680
Re: How do you define Mormonism?
When I was TBm….well, maybe I should say when I was a practicing Mormon who was involved in the community with all that heritage that Mayan is proud of, I never felt like a slave except for when I was Relief Society President. Then I sure as hell felt like I was slave to the bishopric. People have t...
- Thu Jan 18, 2024 6:42 pm
- Forum: Support
- Topic: Pope, Gay blessing, Conversion opportunity
- Replies: 47
- Views: 136638
Re: Pope, Gay blessing, Conversion opportunity
Mayan, we are not saying we agree or disagree with the penguin. We are saying that you pick on him unnecessarily. I totally agree with you that some of what he puts out as jokes are not funny and generalize too much. But, hey the world survived blond jokes, Polish jokes, wow, even n word jokes when...
- Thu Jan 18, 2024 6:23 pm
- Forum: Support
- Topic: How do you define Mormonism?
- Replies: 54
- Views: 14680
Re: How do you define Mormonism?
As a female, I obviously have zero say in what Mormonism is, so I cannot participate on this thread. I would say that I resent my lack of voice, but since I don’t have a voice y’all can’t hear me. You have a voice here , (female) Froggy. Please, please, please? Define what Mormonism is to Alas. I h...
- Thu Jan 18, 2024 5:26 pm
- Forum: Support
- Topic: How do you define Mormonism?
- Replies: 54
- Views: 14680
Re: How do you define Mormonism?
As a female, I obviously have zero say in what Mormonism is, so I cannot participate on this thread. I would say that I resent my lack of voice, but since I don’t have a voice y’all can’t hear me.