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by alas
Sun Jan 28, 2024 6:40 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Communication skills
Replies: 61
Views: 3527

Re: Since we don’t have moderators

Great topic. I do think I'm now on the spectrum - comfortably numb - no feelings. I found my past feelings to be completely false, false trust, false beliefs, false security - my feelings didn't protect, were based on lies, so I have no respect for feelings. In Tuchkman team formation stages, the s...
by alas
Sat Jan 27, 2024 9:35 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Communication skills
Replies: 61
Views: 3527

Re: communication skills

I want to change things up a bit and look at reflective listening in an online situation. How is it different when you are reading instead of listening? Well, you don’t have facial cues, you don’t have body language, and you can’t hear the tone and voice inflections. So it is much harder, especially...
by alas
Sat Jan 27, 2024 9:09 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Communication skills
Replies: 61
Views: 3527

Re: Since we don’t have moderators

Great topic. I do think I'm now on the spectrum - comfortably numb - no feelings. I found my past feelings to be completely false, false trust, false beliefs, false security - my feelings didn't protect, were based on lies, so I have no respect for feelings. In Tuchkman team formation stages, the s...
by alas
Fri Jan 26, 2024 2:29 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Communication skills
Replies: 61
Views: 3527

Re: Since we don’t have moderators

So, if her feeling is pissed, then you look further at what event triggered pissed. You can go several directions with pissed. As Mayan’s thing is quotes says, you can look at other secondary emotions. Anger is not a primary emotion. It is secondary to feelings of threat or loss. So, what is the fea...
by alas
Thu Jan 25, 2024 9:08 pm
Forum: The Coffee Shop
Topic: The 10 Commandments (JST translation)
Replies: 5
Views: 634

Re: The 10 Commandments (JST translation)

I like the part about coveting thy neighbor’s ass. Only my current neighbors are all old men and none of them have very good asses, even in tight levies. But I am in a face book group that like to put up pictures of firemen holding puppies, so we can all enjoy the fireman’s puppy as well as his ass,...
by alas
Thu Jan 25, 2024 8:10 pm
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: Church and State; Utah and Texas
Replies: 9
Views: 1498

Re: Church and State; Utah and Texas

I would just like to mention what somebody said on another thread when they mentioned wanting to keep political discussions to the coffee shop as much as possible, so that these forums don’t get taken over with politics. They mentioned how political discussions can become so consuming as well as ma...
by alas
Thu Jan 25, 2024 7:57 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: How do you define Mormonism?
Replies: 54
Views: 5159

Re: How do you define Mormonism?

Whether or not I can or can't find case evidence of what the church does or did or does not do - does not validate calling all the members part of a herd. Some folks are awful. Some are complicit in awful things. Most people are not. There seems to be a disconnect in what a person named Jane or Jim...
by alas
Thu Jan 25, 2024 6:50 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Communication skills
Replies: 61
Views: 3527

Re: Since we don’t have moderators

Alright, I will kind of aim the discussions at how to talk to your still believing family, since I hope none of you are involved in things like domestic violence or some of the other crap I worked with. :shock: So, the first part of communication is understanding the other person, so, we will start ...
by alas
Tue Jan 23, 2024 8:27 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Communication skills
Replies: 61
Views: 3527

Communication skills

Edited to change heading from since we don’t have moderators to communication skills Right now I am stuck sitting around a lot as I recover after the fourth blankety blank surgery in the same foot. Can’t walk, the knee scooter I use to get around hurts my knee replacement. So, too much time on my ha...
by alas
Tue Jan 23, 2024 7:25 pm
Forum: The Coffee Shop
Topic: Annalee Skarin- Mormon Prophetess?
Replies: 7
Views: 1606

Re: Annalee Skarin- Mormon Prophetess?

moksha wrote:
Fri Jan 05, 2024 9:57 am
Just This Guy wrote:
Fri Jan 05, 2024 5:48 am
I have never seen someone listed as transfigured on Wikipedia.
Usually, it takes a year-long effort on a rigorous diet and strenuous exercise to get me transfigured.
Hey, I have a trans friend waiting for top surgery. If that what you mean by trans-figured?
by alas
Tue Jan 23, 2024 7:16 pm
Forum: The Coffee Shop
Topic: Has Finland Anti-LDS Values?
Replies: 9
Views: 1292

Re: Has Finland Anti-LDS Values?

I read an article about how some red state, forgot which one, but Utah qualifies, would rather split up a homeless family and put the kids in foster care and pay MORE for foster care, then provide housing for the family. I know I used to work for a private funded agency (like YWCA) that had a batter...
by alas
Tue Jan 23, 2024 6:57 pm
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: Church and State; Utah and Texas
Replies: 9
Views: 1498

Re: Church and State; Utah and Texas

I would just like to mention what somebody said on another thread when they mentioned wanting to keep political discussions to the coffee shop as much as possible, so that these forums don’t get taken over with politics. They mentioned how political discussions can become so consuming as well as may...
by alas
Tue Jan 23, 2024 6:50 pm
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: Replacing the New Order Mormon
Replies: 59
Views: 47864

Re: Replacing the New Order Mormon

I'm late to this discussion, but I like it. I like the idea of trying to empathize with those who disagree with me, even though sometimes I let emotion take over and get pissed off. Ideas that seem weird or crazy to me but still make sense to others like: flat earth, young earth, Trump as the solut...
by alas
Tue Jan 23, 2024 6:25 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: How do you define Mormonism?
Replies: 54
Views: 5159

Re: How do you define Mormonism?

When I was TBm….well, maybe I should say when I was a practicing Mormon who was involved in the community with all that heritage that Mayan is proud of, I never felt like a slave except for when I was Relief Society President. Then I sure as hell felt like I was slave to the bishopric. People have t...
by alas
Thu Jan 18, 2024 6:42 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Pope, Gay blessing, Conversion opportunity
Replies: 47
Views: 69384

Re: Pope, Gay blessing, Conversion opportunity

Mayan, we are not saying we agree or disagree with the penguin. We are saying that you pick on him unnecessarily. I totally agree with you that some of what he puts out as jokes are not funny and generalize too much. But, hey the world survived blond jokes, Polish jokes, wow, even n word jokes when...
by alas
Thu Jan 18, 2024 6:23 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: How do you define Mormonism?
Replies: 54
Views: 5159

Re: How do you define Mormonism?

As a female, I obviously have zero say in what Mormonism is, so I cannot participate on this thread. I would say that I resent my lack of voice, but since I don’t have a voice y’all can’t hear me. You have a voice here , (female) Froggy. Please, please, please? Define what Mormonism is to Alas. I h...
by alas
Thu Jan 18, 2024 5:26 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: How do you define Mormonism?
Replies: 54
Views: 5159

Re: How do you define Mormonism?

As a female, I obviously have zero say in what Mormonism is, so I cannot participate on this thread. I would say that I resent my lack of voice, but since I don’t have a voice y’all can’t hear me.
by alas
Tue Jan 16, 2024 11:37 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Pope, Gay blessing, Conversion opportunity
Replies: 47
Views: 69384

Re: Pope, Gay blessing, Conversion opportunity

Angel, yes, I was very disillusioned because the church is all about loving and helping each other. Until the need is big, like child sexual abuse or serious injury that puts a family member in the hospital for months and runs up millions in medical bills and then the insurance company says they won...
by alas
Tue Jan 16, 2024 11:25 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Pope, Gay blessing, Conversion opportunity
Replies: 47
Views: 69384

Re: Pope, Gay blessing, Conversion opportunity

Mayan, we are not saying we agree or disagree with the penguin. We are saying that you pick on him unnecessarily. I totally agree with you that some of what he puts out as jokes are not funny and generalize too much. But, hey the world survived blond jokes, Polish jokes, wow, even n word jokes when ...
by alas
Sun Jan 14, 2024 9:51 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Pope, Gay blessing, Conversion opportunity
Replies: 47
Views: 69384

Re: Pope, Gay blessing, Conversion opportunity

Thanks. I acknowledge your point as I have acknowledged Amen’s. I am not refuting these points or positions. I believe you. I hear you. I think change is necessary and that it will only happen by and through external force. However, I don’t see my family members or your husband as hateful or prosel...