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Hello again

Posted: Sat Mar 09, 2019 9:56 am
by larecherche
Hey everybody. I'm yet another old forum-goer that's back for more; my fingers still start with "forum." when I want to visit NOM. I was an infrequent browser/poster on the old forum, and thought that I'd give it another go.

I think that it was really Jana Reiss book "The Next Mormons" (or rather, her interviews. I haven't actually read the book yet) that has spurred me to return. I've been feeling a lot of angst about my membership in the church lately, and I'm thinking of scaling it back.

My faith crisis journey started as a teenager many years ago, but I eventually got to the point where I felt OK about going along with all of the peer pressure and going on a mission (it was overall a pretty miserable experience with a few good points). I'm way past any anger, but I'm also to a point where I'm not going to study and pray my way back to belief. Any study just seems to magnify the differences between what I believe and what the church teaches. I'm OK with shaping my own beliefs and trying to maintain boundaries, I'm just concerned about whether or not I will be able to stick around or be welcome if I'm not all-in.

The hardest part, for me, is all of the life events that require you to be at least mostly in to participate. Baptism, ordination, temple sealings... if my family wanted to leave I'd be OK skipping them all, but I don't think that I'm OK sitting on the side while somebody else does all of that with my family.

My biggest hope is that Bill Reel's sources are right and the church is planning on dropping garments and the the no coffee rule soon. Those are probably the worst two things about being all-in right now, and if they were dropped then there wouldn't be a lot of difference between half-in and all-in aside from my internal dialogue.

Re: Hello again

Posted: Sat Mar 09, 2019 11:49 am
by MoPag
Welcome back!
larecherche wrote:
Sat Mar 09, 2019 9:56 am
I'm just concerned about whether or not I will be able to stick around or be welcome if I'm not all-in.
It's always the Pharisees who are obsessed with virtue signaling that wouldn't welcome you in the church. But those people are usually so broken on the inside, their friendships are more draining that anything. The people who will welcome you are the ones you want in your life.

And you are always welcome in the NOM ward family! :D

Re: Hello again

Posted: Sun Mar 10, 2019 7:19 pm
by Hagoth
MoPag wrote:
Sat Mar 09, 2019 11:49 am
And you are always welcome in the NOM ward family! :D
Agreed. Welcome back larecherche! I hope you will participate in the conversations.

Re: Hello again

Posted: Mon Mar 11, 2019 2:16 pm
by SoJo
Hello larecherche! I'm just back as well! Welcome again and best of luck in your journey.