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Hi

Posted: Tue Jun 14, 2022 4:08 pm
by Toe-the-line
Good Evening Everyone!

I was active on this board in 2012 before my divorce. Back then I was in a mixed faith marriage and attempting to make it work. That is, until I realized the marriage wasn't healthy and not worth saving. I tried to check back into NOM shortly after everything settled only to find it had disappeared. But it appears that it's back and has been back for quite a while.

I'm no longer Mormon or married, but I'm gainfully employed and have a really wonderful nevermo boyfriend. Two of my four kids have graduated from High School. Life is pretty stable, although it took almost a decade to get here and to feel this grounded. I would love to help others take some of these steps if needed or to be a listening ear.

Re: Hi

Posted: Tue Jun 14, 2022 7:30 pm
by Hagoth
Welcome back, TTL! What a long, strange trip it's been. I'm glad to hear that most of the dust has settled. Thanks for bringing your hard-earned wisdom back to NOM. I really look forward to hearing more from you!

Re: Hi

Posted: Tue Jun 14, 2022 8:18 pm
by AllieOop
Toe-the-line wrote:
Tue Jun 14, 2022 4:08 pm
Good Evening Everyone!

I was active on this board in 2012 before my divorce. Back then I was in a mixed faith marriage and attempting to make it work. That is, until I realized the marriage wasn't healthy and not worth saving. I tried to check back into NOM shortly after everything settled only to find it had disappeared. But it appears that it's back and has been back for quite a while.

I'm no longer Mormon or married, but I'm gainfully employed and have a really wonderful nevermo boyfriend. Two of my four kids have graduated from High School. Life is pretty stable, although it took almost a decade to get here and to feel this grounded. I would love to help others take some of these steps if needed or to be a listening ear.
Hello! I remember you!!

Welcome back (I LOVE your red shoes :) )

I know many will welcome your input and insights.....sounds like you've had quite the journey these past many years.

Re: Hi

Posted: Wed Jun 15, 2022 8:31 am
by Red Ryder
Welcome back Toe!

I loved reading your posts all those years ago. You’re writing and shared experiences was amazing.

Looking back, what would you say you did right? And what would you say you should have done differently?

I know someone who is at the crossroads of a possible divorce right now that might benefit from your experience.

Re: Hi

Posted: Wed Jun 15, 2022 10:53 am
by Toe-the-line
Red Ryder wrote:
Wed Jun 15, 2022 8:31 am
Welcome back Toe!

I loved reading your posts all those years ago. You’re writing and shared experiences was amazing.

Looking back, what would you say you did right? And what would you say you should have done differently?

I know someone who is at the crossroads of a possible divorce right now that might benefit from your experience.
I wish I had trusted my gut back then. I remember posting about some of the awful stuff happening in my marriage at the time, unsure if it was abuse. So many people on this board didn't know either. Much of the behavior was normalized within the church. I'm sure it still is.

But just because abusive behaviors are normalized doesn't make them non-impactful or non-abusive. I am so glad that I left. I guess, if I had any advice for couples attempting to make a mixed faith relationship work, it would be to really examine the dynamics of the relationship itself to determine if it's worth saving.

Re: Hi

Posted: Wed Jun 15, 2022 12:43 pm
by alas
I saw the high heal shoes, and wondered if it was the same person. Welcome back and glad to hear life is good.