Spouseman reading CES letter

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Spouseman reading CES letter

Post by Thoughtful » Wed Sep 05, 2018 9:47 pm

He doesn't love the tone, but the plagiarism evidence is speaking to him. I hope he will finish it.

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Re: Spouseman reading CES letter

Post by Corsair » Wed Sep 05, 2018 10:08 pm

This is a critical time for Spouseman. You have to let this happen pretty naturally so that the emotional change happens on his own accord. The chance of backtrack can occur if you concur with the CES Letter too quickly. You have be as accepting of whatever he decides. Weirdly enough, this is the time to be as Christlke and forgiving as possible.

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Re: Spouseman reading CES letter

Post by jfro18 » Thu Sep 06, 2018 7:19 pm

Corsair wrote:
Wed Sep 05, 2018 10:08 pm
This is a critical time for Spouseman. You have to let this happen pretty naturally so that the emotional change happens on his own accord. The chance of backtrack can occur if you concur with the CES Letter too quickly. You have be as accepting of whatever he decides. Weirdly enough, this is the time to be as Christlke and forgiving as possible.
I agree 100%. The other thing I would do is just be prepared with the 'normal' apologetic responses that FAIR gives, because the first thing my wife did was go to FAIR. She ultimately bought their rebuttals and that so far has been the end of her willingness to read, and to be honest she did not spend much time reading the CES Letter... she just skimmed it so you might be in better shape since it sounds like he is really taking is more seriously.

Good luck - hope you get some good results from it!

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Re: Spouseman reading CES letter

Post by Thoughtful » Thu Sep 06, 2018 10:14 pm

He was irritated at the tone. He did find the comparison between the contemporary books interesting, but hated the snark. So, I I agreed and recommend letter to my wife instead and he's reading that one instead.

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Re: Spouseman reading CES letter

Post by Dravin » Fri Sep 07, 2018 3:25 am

jfro18 wrote:
Thu Sep 06, 2018 7:19 pm
I agree 100%. The other thing I would do is just be prepared with the 'normal' apologetic responses that FAIR gives, because the first thing my wife did was go to FAIR. She ultimately bought their rebuttals and that so far has been the end of her willingness to read, and to be honest she did not spend much time reading the CES Letter... she just skimmed it so you might be in better shape since it sounds like he is really taking is more seriously.

Good luck - hope you get some good results from it!
It's funny, I think it was the 'quality' of FAIR's rebuttals (usually dug up in an effort to defend the church on LDS.net) that put the first creaks in my shelf. I was often left thinking, "This is the best defense that exists?"
Hindsight is all well and good... until you trip.

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Re: Spouseman reading CES letter

Post by alas » Fri Sep 07, 2018 9:05 am

I think your spouse an is in the emotional condition where he no longer wants the church to be true more than he wants to know the truth. The church supporting a sexual predator over his victims will do that to a parent.

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Re: Spouseman reading CES letter

Post by Thoughtful » Fri Sep 07, 2018 8:20 pm

alas wrote:
Fri Sep 07, 2018 9:05 am
I think your spouse an is in the emotional condition where he no longer wants the church to be true more than he wants to know the truth. The church supporting a sexual predator over his victims will do that to a parent.

I agree.

He read about the temple ceremony Masonic penalties yesterday, and the crack in the shelf was audible.

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