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My mom

Posted: Tue Nov 22, 2022 3:15 pm
by LSOF
The last few years have driven her mental. She is now antivax and afraid of "gender ideology". I tried to disabuse her of these lies, but she clung tightly to them. It's personal for me, as I am trans myself. She reacted with extreme anger to my insistence upon being correctly addressed. The shooting in Colorado has only made the situation worse.

Re: My mom

Posted: Wed Nov 23, 2022 7:37 am
by dogbite
There is a scene in On a Sunbeam. That's a genderqueer sci-fi comic about a space construction crew. You can read the whole thing on-line for free or buy it at most bookstores.

https://www.onasunbeam.com/

In roughly the middle of Chapter 13, they're leaving a job that went bad and this scene crystallized the issue of pronouns for me.

All of you have been rude, insubordinate, and just plain shits since I got here. I don't deserve this!

I think you're forgetting a key part of this puzzle. I'll admit that I have, at times, been slightly jerkish to you. But only for excellent reasons.

This is ridiculous.

No way, you stay right here and listen to me. Do you remember the night you showed up here?

Yes, So?

We were pissed when you showed up. Char was gone and we were broken. And we could've just taken that out on you.
But we didn't You showed up and Alma make you dinner. We made you a bed, even played cards together.

And we TOLD you that Ell didn't talk, we told your their pronouns.

And you IGNORED us.

I don't need to know that stuff! This is a job, none of that is important.

No. No way. You don't get to decide that . You don't get to decide what's important for US. You can choose for yourself but no one else.

When you chose not to respect us, we chose not to respect you. The fact that you expect people you shit on to treat you nicely shows just how delusional you are.

I can't believe this. So I screwed up some words. You act like I'm a monster!

Wow... You, you really don't it, do you? Have you even considered that something that's trivial to you could mean ... SO much more to someone else?

You don't get to take the easy road out and just respect the parts of people that you recognize.

Re: My mom

Posted: Wed Nov 23, 2022 11:53 am
by Linked
I'm sorry your mom can't/won't understand, accept, and love you. That's so hard.

How has the shooting in Colorado made it worse? Is she celebrating it? I would think that such an obviously terrible act would get bigots to rethink their bigotry rather than double down.

On a personal note, I'm glad to see you posting again, I have always enjoyed your comments.

Re: My mom

Posted: Wed Nov 23, 2022 4:17 pm
by LSOF
Linked wrote:
Wed Nov 23, 2022 11:53 am
I'm sorry your mom can't/won't understand, accept, and love you. That's so hard.

How has the shooting in Colorado made it worse? Is she celebrating it? I would think that such an obviously terrible act would get bigots to rethink their bigotry rather than double down.

On a personal note, I'm glad to see you posting again, I have always enjoyed your comments.
She has not celebrated it herself, but I've seen the Matt Walsh/Steven Crowder/Chaya Raichik set celebrating it and agitating for more. What made it worse for me was learning that the shooter is Mormon, in a state bordering mine. I have firmly resolved, moreover, to bring her into therapy with me.

Thank you for the welcome back. :)

Re: My mom

Posted: Thu Nov 24, 2022 9:59 am
by Hagoth
Linked wrote:
Wed Nov 23, 2022 11:53 am
On a personal note, I'm glad to see you posting again, I have always enjoyed your comments.
Me too!