Mayan Elephant wrote:
This is exactly why I prefer you do not moderate again.
Process matters. It matters a lot. A ton. It matters more than whether Smith had 33 or 133 wives. Every time you come in these conversations and express your inability to allow a process to continue or proceed, I cringe.
The conversation about the old Nom, including the shitty moderating, doesn't end when you say it should end. It ends when people choose to stop talking about it and have expressed their ideas, concerns and experiences.
Jesus. Just let people talk without bringing a guillotine to every conversation you dislike or in which you lack interest. Your experiences are relevant, your stop signs are annoying.
NOW, CAN WE STOP DISECTING THE OLD NOM? I just don't think anything good can come out of it. I still have bad feelings about the time and I just do not like rehashing it all.
It isn't that I want to "stop the process". It is that I want the new NOM to not carry over old grudges. There is one kind of universal rule for running websites and that is you don't bring garbage from one website onto another. This is a different website and I feel it may be damaging to it to constantly be bringing up crap from the other website. We can take what we learned from the old website, and apply it here. But I just don't see the "who did what and why" as helpful.
So, what I learned from the old website where I moderated and other websites I have participated on.
1. Never have sole ownership, because it tends to become a dictatorship. Power corrupts and absolute power....
2. Allow a certain level of evolution.
3. It isn't a competition, (This one was learned on a different discussion board) but it applies to NOM.
4. Give people a second and third chance.
5. Rotate moderators, so no one burns out on it. And for the individual mod, If you feel like resigning as a moderator, do it. You probably have hit burnout.
6. If you don't stand up to jerks, they continue to be jerks.
7. Never go against your conscience to protect someone else.
8. If you can't respect the group, find yourself a different group, don't try to change the group. From a moderating standpoint, never never choose as moderator someone who wants to change the group.