Support through the holidays

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Angel
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Support through the holidays

Post by Angel » Sun Dec 02, 2018 10:28 am

Wanted to make a holiday support thread - how is everyone navigating this season? I'm trying to be multi-cultural, will be attending a winter-solstice party, am celebrating Hanukkah with friends this week (Happy Hanukkah!), and also went to our ward's Nativity exhibit - hope to attend a UU service by the end of the season as well.

I don't want to be filled with anger, do not want to be one of those grumpy people through the holidays - want to just open my arms, and embrace it all. The good, the bad, just embrace and dance with all of it.

Wishing all of my NOM friends a wonderful and enlightened holiday season!
When it is dark enough, you can see the stars. ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

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Re: Support through the holidays

Post by Thoughtful » Sun Dec 02, 2018 11:39 am

Angel wrote:
Sun Dec 02, 2018 10:28 am
Wanted to make a holiday support thread - how is everyone navigating this season? I'm trying to be multi-cultural, will be attending a winter-solstice party, am celebrating Hanukkah with friends this week (Happy Hanukkah!), and also went to our ward's Nativity exhibit - hope to attend a UU service by the end of the season as well.

I don't want to be filled with anger, do not want to be one of those grumpy people through the holidays - want to just open my arms, and embrace it all. The good, the bad, just embrace and dance with all of it.

Wishing all of my NOM friends a wonderful and enlightened holiday season!
I always have seasonal blues. I did schedule a holiday open house to celebrate a saint from my pre-lds heritage. Putting up the tree today. Thanks for starting this thread.

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Re: Support through the holidays

Post by Angel » Sun Dec 02, 2018 7:56 pm

Thoughtful wrote:
Sun Dec 02, 2018 11:39 am

I always have seasonal blues. I did schedule a holiday open house to celebrate a saint from my pre-lds heritage. Putting up the tree today. Thanks for starting this thread.
The holidays are hard for a lot of people. I have been taking herbal supplements, using happiness guided meditations, sleep hypnosis, and "let it go yoga flow" - google all of the above, whatever works, right? I'm also trying to be outgoing - planning outings, getting together with people - that helps a lot. Hope you are able to find something that works to cheer you up!
When it is dark enough, you can see the stars. ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

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Re: Support through the holidays

Post by Dravin » Sun Dec 02, 2018 10:01 pm

I work retail, which has the benefit of making my stress job and not relationship related. Yay?
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Re: Support through the holidays

Post by MoPag » Mon Dec 03, 2018 1:00 pm

What a great idea to make this thread! Thanks Angel!!

Ever since my DS passed away (July of 2017) the holidays are my own personal hell. I have to keep my sh*t together to try and give my DD a happy holiday season, but all I want to do is break down and cry and not get out of bed. I'm really lucky that I have support form my family. I'm also a part of a bereaved mothers group. We get together and share our holiday woes.

One good thing about this year is I don't have to take my daughter to see XH. He has a criminal record now. He was responsible-and unremorseful-for DS's death. DD wants nothing to do with him. I was able to get full possession of her after DS's death. It took a whole year for it go through. So at least there is that.
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believing in old men’s lies...--Ezra Pound

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Re: Support through the holidays

Post by Reuben » Mon Dec 03, 2018 7:37 pm

Damn.

That's all I've got.
Grieve. It's your right and inheritance as a human being.

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Re: Support through the holidays

Post by MoPag » Tue Dec 04, 2018 9:33 am

Sorry If I got a little too real for some people.
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Re: Support through the holidays

Post by Red Ryder » Tue Dec 04, 2018 11:06 am

MoPag wrote:
Tue Dec 04, 2018 9:33 am
Sorry If I got a little too real for some people.
Congrats MoPag! That's good to hear (considering the circumstances)!

Your story is seared in my brain and I'm a constant life guard around the pool now. Even with the older kids. I got extremely mad at my SIL one day after getting home and seeing them sitting inside not paying attention to the kids outside.

So know that your tragedy has impacted other people for the positive even if through the friendship here online at NOM.

Hope you have happy holidays.

Thanks Angel for posting. I'm usually a grump for the holidays but this year I decided to focus on Jesus and let the annoying things slip through my hands.

Happy holidays!
Those who do not move do not notice their chains. —Rosa Luxemburg

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Re: Support through the holidays

Post by MoPag » Tue Dec 04, 2018 11:50 am

Red Ryder wrote:
Tue Dec 04, 2018 11:06 am

Congrats MoPag! That's good to hear (considering the circumstances)!
Thanks RR!
Red Ryder wrote:
Tue Dec 04, 2018 11:06 am
Your story is seared in my brain and I'm a constant life guard around the pool now. Even with the older kids. I got extremely mad at my SIL one day after getting home and seeing them sitting inside not paying attention to the kids outside.

So know that your tragedy has impacted other people for the positive even if through the friendship here online at NOM.
I'm glad my story has inspired others to be safer. Thanks again for your support! :)
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believing in old men’s lies...--Ezra Pound

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Re: Support through the holidays

Post by Thoughtful » Wed Dec 05, 2018 12:04 pm

Angel wrote:
Sun Dec 02, 2018 7:56 pm
Thoughtful wrote:
Sun Dec 02, 2018 11:39 am

I always have seasonal blues. I did schedule a holiday open house to celebrate a saint from my pre-lds heritage. Putting up the tree today. Thanks for starting this thread.
The holidays are hard for a lot of people. I have been taking herbal supplements, using happiness guided meditations, sleep hypnosis, and "let it go yoga flow" - google all of the above, whatever works, right? I'm also trying to be outgoing - planning outings, getting together with people - that helps a lot. Hope you are able to find something that works to cheer you up!
Love the holidays, hate the incessant darkness. But it will end, eventually. <3

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Re: Support through the holidays

Post by Thoughtful » Wed Dec 05, 2018 12:06 pm

MoPag wrote:
Mon Dec 03, 2018 1:00 pm
What a great idea to make this thread! Thanks Angel!!

Ever since my DS passed away (July of 2017) the holidays are my own personal hell. I have to keep my sh*t together to try and give my DD a happy holiday season, but all I want to do is break down and cry and not get out of bed. I'm really lucky that I have support form my family. I'm also a part of a bereaved mothers group. We get together and share our holiday woes.

One good thing about this year is I don't have to take my daughter to see XH. He has a criminal record now. He was responsible-and unremorseful-for DS's death. DD wants nothing to do with him. I was able to get full possession of her after DS's death. It took a whole year for it go through. So at least there is that.
I'm glad X is out of the picture. I wish I could bring you some hot soup and chilled wine. Keep hanging on.

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Re: Support through the holidays

Post by Angel » Wed Dec 05, 2018 3:48 pm

MoPag wrote:
Mon Dec 03, 2018 1:00 pm
What a great idea to make this thread! Thanks Angel!!

Ever since my DS passed away (July of 2017) the holidays are my own personal hell. I have to keep my sh*t together to try and give my DD a happy holiday season, but all I want to do is break down and cry and not get out of bed. I'm really lucky that I have support form my family. I'm also a part of a bereaved mothers group. We get together and share our holiday woes.

One good thing about this year is I don't have to take my daughter to see XH. He has a criminal record now. He was responsible-and unremorseful-for DS's death. DD wants nothing to do with him. I was able to get full possession of her after DS's death. It took a whole year for it go through. So at least there is that.
Big hugs MoPag, good to hear you have a support group.
When it is dark enough, you can see the stars. ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

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Re: Support through the holidays

Post by Angel » Wed Dec 05, 2018 3:52 pm

Red Ryder wrote:
Tue Dec 04, 2018 11:06 am

Thanks Angel for posting. I'm usually a grump for the holidays but this year I decided to focus on Jesus and let the annoying things slip through my hands.

Happy holidays!
I can get into the Jesus thing too - the vengeful HF/God thing not so much, but that Jesus guy, sermon on the mount stuff? yea - I can do that.
Happy Holidays to you too!
When it is dark enough, you can see the stars. ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

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