New Years Resolutions

[Korihor]

I know this is a little early, but it's on my mind. I would like to better plan out my goals for next year instead of doing it Jan 3.
I feel like 2017 could be my best year ever! 2015-16 were a tie for the most revolutionary years.

Right now I'm just brainstorming, but looking for suggestions from the peanut gallery.

[TheRunningmom]

What about a family resolution? It would be great to have a goal you're all working on together.

[Liberated Me]

How about you find a secular tribe as one of your goals? What are your hobbies or better yet, What have you been wanting to try but never considered a plan on how to make it happen? Paragliding? Toastmasters? Spelunking? Master Free Diver? Make this be The year you pursued a dream-hobby!

[Anon70]

I love new year's resolutions. And I love them more now that I'm not a believer. When I was TBM goals had a tinge of guilt or shame--like I'd never be good enough.

Now it's just joyful. I've got hikes on my list, improving my SUP skills, coming up with a solid plan for transitioning out of the church, creating a new me-mission statement. Doing a better job at saving for retirement

2017 is gonna be good

[trophywife26.2]

I love setting goals for the New Year. I agree that now it is nice to just set the goal for me and not feel guilty about never being good enough (like if I set a goal to go to the temple once a month it would've been better if I did it once a week, nothing was ever good enough).

I like to think in categories and choose one for each area then prioritize what is most important or most pressing. Health/fitness related goals, intellectual goals (take a class, or read a certain number of books), social goals (maybe be a better friend to a specific person, go on monthly date night with spouse, read 2 parenting books), spiritual goal (work on living in the present moment, meditation, etc.), financial goal (stick to a budget better, improve income, etc.)

[Newme]

I was watching a clip by Jim Rohne (love that man) who suggested writing at least 50 goals for the next 10 years...
Then breaking them down. And it helps to review them regularly. Some goals are discipline - like cutting back on sugar etc. - not real exciting, but still good for you. Other goals really make life feel more exciting - like hike Swiss Alps or horse back ride on a Caribbean beach.

One year, a friend did something that scared her every day of the year - everything from having a conversation with a stranger, to sky-diving.

I've got hikes on my list...

Me too! But it'll be when it's warmer. Which hikes?

[Newme]

I love setting goals for the New Year. I agree that now it is nice to just set the goal for me and not feel guilty about never being good enough (like if I set a goal to go to the temple once a month it would've been better if I did it once a week, nothing was ever good enough).

I like to think in categories and choose one for each area then prioritize what is most important or most pressing. Health/fitness related goals, intellectual goals (take a class, or read a certain number of books), social goals (maybe be a better friend to a specific person, go on monthly date night with spouse, read 2 parenting books), spiritual goal (work on living in the present moment, meditation, etc.), financial goal (stick to a budget better, improve income, etc.)

I'm still working on not beating myself up when I don't rise to my (sometimes) unrealistically high ideals. I'm trying to focus on what I've done well - to be more encouraging.

Categories help me too - to remember all of the different aspects... for me it's:
Physical - eat less sugar and breath deeper
Intellectual - study psychology - esp. Carl Jung
Emotional - don't yell so much, calm down and be a better example of emotional intelligence
Spiritual - bring more shadow aspects to light, learn Tai Chi 24 movements
Social - forgive, don't hold grudges - keep boundaries when needed, but still love. Communicate better.
Practical - organize the house, cook different ethnic foods
Financial - work more