Starting over (almost)
Posted: Sun Mar 03, 2019 9:49 am
It’s been a few months since I’ve been here. Life got busy. Many of the things that bring church to mind aren’t present in my life anymore. Sometimes I think I’ve mostly gotten over being angry, other times I wonder if I’m just avoiding it. I’ll take it either way at this point.
In 2018, just over a year ago, I told my wife I was done with the church. She pretty quickly started diving into church history and over the course of the summer decided she was done too. My oldest left the church a few months after I did. My four year old simply won’t remember it. Our 14 year old DD is the one we worry about. She’s still (maybe?) believing. DW has a standing agreement with her that anytime she wants to attend church DW will go with her.
It was in that context that I started looking for a new job. We both (DW and I) felt the need for a fresh start. In November I got a job offer in San Diego, about 400 miles from where we were living. We moved down here in January.
It has been a fresh start in every sense. I like the work better. It feels like a clean break from church. DD hasn’t asked to go since we moved down. 18yo DS decides not to move with us, he’s living with roommates and loves his job. We spend more time together as a family. We go do things that we all enjoy. The only two not resigned are my DW and our 14 year old.
Life is better than it was a year ago. But it’s not perfect. We’re trying to figure out how to make friends with people. As in... where to even find people? We’re working on that, but it takes time for sure.
In 2018, just over a year ago, I told my wife I was done with the church. She pretty quickly started diving into church history and over the course of the summer decided she was done too. My oldest left the church a few months after I did. My four year old simply won’t remember it. Our 14 year old DD is the one we worry about. She’s still (maybe?) believing. DW has a standing agreement with her that anytime she wants to attend church DW will go with her.
It was in that context that I started looking for a new job. We both (DW and I) felt the need for a fresh start. In November I got a job offer in San Diego, about 400 miles from where we were living. We moved down here in January.
It has been a fresh start in every sense. I like the work better. It feels like a clean break from church. DD hasn’t asked to go since we moved down. 18yo DS decides not to move with us, he’s living with roommates and loves his job. We spend more time together as a family. We go do things that we all enjoy. The only two not resigned are my DW and our 14 year old.
Life is better than it was a year ago. But it’s not perfect. We’re trying to figure out how to make friends with people. As in... where to even find people? We’re working on that, but it takes time for sure.