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If no, why not?

My wife knows I post within a group that is more constructive than places like reddit, but I've never told her the name of the site because I don't want her reading what I write until she's truly ready to talk about it. As of now she refuses to talk about anything in detail, so it's just not worth it.

Nope.

My spouse doesn't want to know anything about my "apostate lifestyle."

You know... Passive aggressive mormon-style: If they ignore it long enough, it will go away right? In actuality, that method will work... When I die, my apostate-ness will go away.

I don't think he knows I post on NOM. If he does, he's keeping very quiet about it.

Although it's a public space and never truly anonymous, I've felt able to post things here that are more personal than I would ever say to most people in real life. After I told my husband I no longer believed earlier this year I was worried he'd find NOM and find me and be upset at the things I posted, particularly about our relationship. As a result, I posted less often than before, and then I kind of stopped reading regularly as well which created a much needed break from Mormonism. But back to whether my husband knows, no, I've never told him. I prefer this to be my own personal space.

I posted a similar question earlier this year.

My wife does not need to know everything about me so I don't feel the need to share that I post here. It would undoubtedly lead to interviews with local leaders. I don't need that.

I don't tell her, but I don't "not tell her". If I mention something I read here I just say "I read on the internet that..." and she never asks for specifics. I've told her about my disaffection in general several times, and then the next day she goes on and interacts with me like it never happened. Every time I bring it up it's like starting over. The same shock and hurt surface and her comments are as if she is hearing it for the first time. It's like living in the movie Groundhog Day. I just got tired of going through that and we don't discuss it.

Yes, DW knows I post here. She will read through the site once in a while. I have invited her to join in, but she has yet to sign up. She doesn't get into the forum style of message board much.

No because she might feel bad about it although she knows of my dissaffection. It is nice to have a group like this though to commiserate with when the slog gets bad.

Yes she knows. I wish she would read it or ask me more about it than she does, but we occasionally discuss religion, and I appreciate that.

No because my DH is a nevermo and couldn't care less. For that I am truly grateful!! Amen.

No, because she doesn't want to talk about anything in person, I don't think she'd appreciate much of what I've written here. She has seen one of my more innocuous posts when I accidentally left it up on the laptop, but I don't think she actually linked it to me as the one doing the writing. I waited for her to ask about it, but she never did.

We have a “don’t ask don’t tell” policy in regards to my online anti-Mormon activities.

Anon70 wrote: ↑

Thu Oct 24, 2019 10:26 am

We have a “don’t ask don’t tell” policy in regards to my online anti-Mormon activities.

Yep. That's about it!

Sis M knows I post here, doesn't like it, and is convinced ya'll are leading me carefully down to hell. If she actually takes the time to read what I post, I'm sure she'll know different.

No, I have to keep my apostate lifestyle very very secret!!! I think she knows but doesnt really want to know , if that makes sense.

For years, the answer was no. Now it is yes. She is now a NOM as well, just not on NOM. We are both active, calling having, non believing members stuck in the generational and community cult like community.

But aren't we all stuck in similar communities we dont love fully?!

wtfluff wrote: ↑

Tue Oct 22, 2019 4:15 pm

Nope.

My spouse doesn't want to know anything about my "apostate lifestyle."

You know... Passive aggressive mormon-style: If they ignore it long enough, it will go away right? In actuality, that method will work... When I die, my apostate-ness will go away.

+1

Mormorrisey wrote: ↑

Thu Oct 24, 2019 12:38 pm

Sis M knows I post here, doesn't like it, and is convinced ya'll are leading me carefully down to hell. If she actually takes the time to read what I post, I'm sure she'll know different.

Similar here.
I don’t post often here - and post more on other places. Yet, whenever we get into religious disagreements, DH assumes every point of disagreement is due to me reading on “anti-mormon” forums like this and gullibly going along with everything. I’ve tried to explain to him that I disagree on topics with many here too. He seems to project his own herd mentality but generally, my beliefs are not popular in most circles - religiously, politically, psychologically, spiritually. Though it could be partly where I live.

She knows and has said she's glad I have a community. I talk about NOM often and occasionally share stories and information, but she has no interest in checking it out for herself.

I was outed to my wife by having the old NOM open on a browser. Tough first discussion. It has been better since. She is more out than me now.

Probably. I've mentioned it to him more than once. My husband (although he left the church with me) really doesn't care about Mormonism and will rarely even comment on it. The other day he was talking about schedules with our high schooler, and he mentioned early morning seminary and how awful it was. That's probably the second thing he's said about Mormonism in the last 6 months. I find it equal parts fascinating and frustrating that our experiences are so different at times.