Mid 60’s divorcee

[Meilingkie]

Talked to the mom of an old exmo-friend.
And she said:

I wish my husband loved and cherished me as much as he did the Church.

And I admit to having lost a lot of sleep over that.

[Angel]

I recently heard a new story about my grandmother. My grandfather worked at a clothing company in HS, and bought her fancy cloths as a way to show her he loved her. My grandmother was always the best/fanciest dressed of everyone because of it.

What I didn't know, granny did not like those clothes. They weren't her style. She wanted to dress like everyone else. She didn't say anything.

I've seen this in women more than men - but men have it too. Women bow their heads to their husband, and husband's bow their head to the church. What is it called?
people-pleasing - having an excessive need for approval. Some people go to great lengths to gain acceptance, validation, and positive feedback from others. They prioritize the opinions and desires of others over their own needs and preferences, over their family, sacrifice their own well-being. It stems from fear of rejection, low self-esteem, a desire to avoid conflict. Rating and ranking in the tribe -what calling, what clothes, what popularity.

[Conman52]

I can relate to the earlier posts when my wife told me she loved the church more than me !!! That cut me very very deep. That's was 2 years ago and she has never apologized. I am still to this day contemplating divorce over it as she is a super TBM and refuses to see anything wrong with what the tscc does. Even the 60 minutes sec story she claims is anti mormon . I am trying to deal with it as I have for the past 9 years but I have to admit to myself it's becoming harder every day. I mentioned I would like to visit a non denominational christian church but she had to bring out the nukes and mention the D word. I don't see this ending well. Thanks

[Meilingkie]

I can relate to the earlier posts when my wife told me she loved the church more than me !!! That cut me very very deep. That's was 2 years ago and she has never apologized. I am still to this day contemplating divorce over it as she is a super TBM and refuses to see anything wrong with what the tscc does. Even the 60 minutes sec story she claims is anti mormon . I am trying to deal with it as I have for the past 9 years but I have to admit to myself it's becoming harder every day. I mentioned I would like to visit a non denominational christian church but she had to bring out the nukes and mention the D word. I don't see this ending well. Thanks

I relate to this, started attending an Non-Denominational. Divorcepapers were served within the year.
Ironically she started reading and quit the Church soon afterwards.