Secret lives of non-believing spouses

[stuck]

As most of you know, as a non-believer I've kept a few things from my wife. Namely tithing, coffee consumption, correspondence on this website and others. It seems that for our marriage, ignorance is bliss. Scarily, if some of these things come to light, I would be in trouble and would have to explain. I do have good explanations for the ones specifically mentioned and do not believe that they are sinful.

In fact I have been thinking of writing the 1st presidency outlining reasons for repealing the prohibition on coffee and tea. I don't know if this would do any good and may cause this issue to come to light to my wife which I don't think would be good.

Any thoughts or advice?

[alas]

Keep in mind that the 1st presidency do not read your letters. They forward them to your stake president. So, unless you want to inform your stake president of your habit, I do not recommend writing any letters. You could try writing and keep it anonymous but I suppose those would just go in the circular file. The church leaders really do not care what member think or need or anything. So, unless it is your uncle, I can’t see any good coming out of it.

[stuck]

I think you're right alas. It would be cool if somebody like Sam Young or a group of protesters could make a difference. I can understand where a prohibition on alcohol and tobacco makes sense but coffee and tea not so much.

[Just This Guy]

In fact I have been thinking of writing the 1st presidency outlining reasons for repealing the prohibition on coffee and tea. I don't know if this would do any good and may cause this issue to come to light to my wife which I don't think would be good.

I would think the Q15 would consider you as undermining their authority. By you bringing up logical, reasons why the WOW should go away, you are saying that they do not actually know what they are doing and do not have divine revelation. You, a meer mortal, know more than they do. While it all may very well be true, they don't like when peasants call them out.

If you write to you, at a minimum, it will get referred to your local leadership. If they happen to be in a bad mood, they could order that you be put in your place and order disciplinary action against you. This will bring attention that you don't want.

So if you are trying to keep your true view of the church from you spouse, this may not be the best the wisest option.