I imagine that maybe she's worried that your disaffection toward the church means a disaffection toward her and your marriage.
The church kind of has drilled this distorted idea as a manipulative threat to stay active no matter what. I'm really beginning to see that the church leaders insist that members worship the church (& them) over God/higher GOoD. They see inactivity as the worst thing - and vocally questioning evil of the church worse.
I don't know if this will help you, but I tried to help my DH understand where I was coming from by explaining (paraphrasing of course
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"Imagine you were in the Islamic faith - you were raised in it. But then you came to question - studied pondered & prayed to realize that it had some serious evils and you couldn't go along with them. As Joseph Smith did with other religion of the time, you were put down for seeing things differently, but in your heart, and conscience, you could not unsee what you saw, nor deny what you discovered. This is somewhat how I feel in this situation. I go to church every week with you - and I keep my mouth shut about things I believe, and try to be respectful of their beliefs, but you need to cut me some slack. I don't feel right about wearing garments nor do I feel right about using the temple to make money. The way the church handles funds (secretly & robbing the poor of tithes) is wrong to me - I can't go along with those things. Going along with what I KNOW to be wrong, is killing me spiritually. I want to be and am trying to be supportive of you - by sitting next to you in church. I love FHE and am glad we still do that. I love to pray as a family - I love good things about the church. But there are some things I cannot accept in good conscience. I hope you respect that and support me as I support you through our differences."