Meilingkie's Return and report
Posted: Thu Oct 26, 2017 3:56 am
Hello all,
It’s been a very turbulent few months with lots of things happening, done and finished.
TL:DR I resigned from the Church after Mormonleaks published about the financial scandal in my stake.
I started attending a normal church, and DW agrees.
Family-members, friend and co-workers see a marked change in my persona.
Well, let’s pick up where I left off in May this year.
I attended a church for the first time where a lovely co-worker of mine attended.
I felt the need to go, and I felt relieved, found a Church where I could be myself, with lots of freedom and zero strings attached.
No suit, no white shirts, no interviews, no callings, and good thorough teaching.
No hymns, but songs of praise.
And yes, the co-worker is still a part of my life, but also of our family’s life.
I don’t talk with her often, but my DW does, sometimes for hours.
DW has found a true friend, one she never had in the Church.
We have dinner-dates with our families about once every month now.
DW never invited people over who weren’t family, now it’s regular with them, and another couple.
With that out of the way, well I stopped regularly attending in June, and have only been in once since, to clean with DW.
I can’t leave her doing that all alone, can I?
It was initially hard on DW, seeing me go to another church.
The results however for her outweigh the pain she felt of being alone.
No more was I sliding into depression every Thursday, dreading the Sundays and becoming ever more morose as each day passed.
No more was I calling people, and being called by others who were also very upset, dissatisfied, or otherwise grumbling about the Church on Sunday-evening and Mondays.
No more Getting out of the dip on Tuesday-morning, before sliding down again on Thursday.
No more almost mandatory sleep after services because they physically and emotionally drained me, ruining our Sundays together.
So after grumbling tolerance in June, via acceptance in August, we reached the stage in late September where DW said: I want you to never visit the LDS-Church again, because it hurts you.
And in doing so it hurts us. Please go to that little Foursquare-church, because it works wonders for you and for us.
Then came conference-weekend, and Mormonleaks published about the financial scandal.
All of a sudden people came out of the woodwork telling one another: I knew, but I kept silent.
The former Utrecht bishop was vilified, emails, apps, notes of FB, people visiting him at home calling for blood.
But until then I hadn’t heard a thing about my absence.
And then, the Monday after conference my phone rang, I was at the office.
I looked at the phone and recognized the face, it was Elder Boom of the 70.
What The Fetch !
I was incensed, no-one had called me, no EQP, no Bishop, no-one from the Stake-presidency, no HT’s, nothing, only 2 friends did since May.
Something breaks in the news, and all of a sudden an Athoritah (sic) calls me, to talk about the scandal!
He told me that Mormonleaks was false, the figures grossly exaggerated, and that the stakeleaders and he himself had told me the truth in July 2016.
Bollocks I tell you guys, the next Sunday the disgraced former bishop attended his former ward, and the Stakepresidency bloody lied at the stand, telling members it was a loan.
Telling them the amount was much lower than Mormonleaks told.
Well, the Stake-clerk called me privately, and said the total amount is almost double what Mormonleaks published…….
So once again, leaders straight-up lied to my face, and to many others.
For me it was the last straw, I sent in my resignation the next Thursday. October 12th 2017
I can’t stomach the lies anymore, can’t stomach the double-crossing.
They are an insult to my integrity, and my intellect.
So I quit, and I can tell you, it feels great.
DW knows, but keeps silent, the in-laws know, but only talk behind our backs, as does the ward.
DW went in and talked to the bishop telling him it has to stop, we are no project.
Raising the Titanic would be easier to accomplish, care for the living, not the dead.
And she told him in no uncertain terms she’s done as well, and maybe even angrier than I ever was with the Church.
But it’s her tribe, and she attends when she feels like it, and not anymore as a standard church-ornament every Sunday.
Same goes for the kids.
My DS had his interview to become an Elder and to probe him about his mission.
DS said: I have no testimony yet and I am not going to testify of things I am not sure about.
BP told him to testify, because the bearing of a testimony produces a testimony within the bearer.
DS flatly rebutted him: The 7th commandment is thou shalt not bear false witness, what about that bishop?
The interview concluded almost immediately.
DD+DW attended a luncheon my church organized last Saturday:
On old chairs, with armrests, and DW said: they aren’t cheapskates here, they afford themselves armrests. Old chairs maybe, but that can be remedied with a new cover.
DD had had a run-in with RSP a few weeks ago I wasn’t aware of. She had taken a carton of juice and a cake from the stores.
And had found they were spoiled for 2 years, nevertheless she was called to the carpet for it.
At the luncheon there was something else, fresh food, fresh drinks, all bought that same morning. High quality, and DD said: That figures, when a church doesn’t need to build malls you can take care of the people.
Then DD talked about the most recent real-estate developments DW and I weren’t even aware of.... DD is quite the little apostate.
This is my report.
It’s been a very turbulent few months with lots of things happening, done and finished.
TL:DR I resigned from the Church after Mormonleaks published about the financial scandal in my stake.
I started attending a normal church, and DW agrees.
Family-members, friend and co-workers see a marked change in my persona.
Well, let’s pick up where I left off in May this year.
I attended a church for the first time where a lovely co-worker of mine attended.
I felt the need to go, and I felt relieved, found a Church where I could be myself, with lots of freedom and zero strings attached.
No suit, no white shirts, no interviews, no callings, and good thorough teaching.
No hymns, but songs of praise.
And yes, the co-worker is still a part of my life, but also of our family’s life.
I don’t talk with her often, but my DW does, sometimes for hours.
DW has found a true friend, one she never had in the Church.
We have dinner-dates with our families about once every month now.
DW never invited people over who weren’t family, now it’s regular with them, and another couple.
With that out of the way, well I stopped regularly attending in June, and have only been in once since, to clean with DW.
I can’t leave her doing that all alone, can I?
It was initially hard on DW, seeing me go to another church.
The results however for her outweigh the pain she felt of being alone.
No more was I sliding into depression every Thursday, dreading the Sundays and becoming ever more morose as each day passed.
No more was I calling people, and being called by others who were also very upset, dissatisfied, or otherwise grumbling about the Church on Sunday-evening and Mondays.
No more Getting out of the dip on Tuesday-morning, before sliding down again on Thursday.
No more almost mandatory sleep after services because they physically and emotionally drained me, ruining our Sundays together.
So after grumbling tolerance in June, via acceptance in August, we reached the stage in late September where DW said: I want you to never visit the LDS-Church again, because it hurts you.
And in doing so it hurts us. Please go to that little Foursquare-church, because it works wonders for you and for us.
Then came conference-weekend, and Mormonleaks published about the financial scandal.
All of a sudden people came out of the woodwork telling one another: I knew, but I kept silent.
The former Utrecht bishop was vilified, emails, apps, notes of FB, people visiting him at home calling for blood.
But until then I hadn’t heard a thing about my absence.
And then, the Monday after conference my phone rang, I was at the office.
I looked at the phone and recognized the face, it was Elder Boom of the 70.
What The Fetch !
I was incensed, no-one had called me, no EQP, no Bishop, no-one from the Stake-presidency, no HT’s, nothing, only 2 friends did since May.
Something breaks in the news, and all of a sudden an Athoritah (sic) calls me, to talk about the scandal!
He told me that Mormonleaks was false, the figures grossly exaggerated, and that the stakeleaders and he himself had told me the truth in July 2016.
Bollocks I tell you guys, the next Sunday the disgraced former bishop attended his former ward, and the Stakepresidency bloody lied at the stand, telling members it was a loan.
Telling them the amount was much lower than Mormonleaks told.
Well, the Stake-clerk called me privately, and said the total amount is almost double what Mormonleaks published…….
So once again, leaders straight-up lied to my face, and to many others.
For me it was the last straw, I sent in my resignation the next Thursday. October 12th 2017
I can’t stomach the lies anymore, can’t stomach the double-crossing.
They are an insult to my integrity, and my intellect.
So I quit, and I can tell you, it feels great.
DW knows, but keeps silent, the in-laws know, but only talk behind our backs, as does the ward.
DW went in and talked to the bishop telling him it has to stop, we are no project.
Raising the Titanic would be easier to accomplish, care for the living, not the dead.
And she told him in no uncertain terms she’s done as well, and maybe even angrier than I ever was with the Church.
But it’s her tribe, and she attends when she feels like it, and not anymore as a standard church-ornament every Sunday.
Same goes for the kids.
My DS had his interview to become an Elder and to probe him about his mission.
DS said: I have no testimony yet and I am not going to testify of things I am not sure about.
BP told him to testify, because the bearing of a testimony produces a testimony within the bearer.
DS flatly rebutted him: The 7th commandment is thou shalt not bear false witness, what about that bishop?
The interview concluded almost immediately.
DD+DW attended a luncheon my church organized last Saturday:
On old chairs, with armrests, and DW said: they aren’t cheapskates here, they afford themselves armrests. Old chairs maybe, but that can be remedied with a new cover.
DD had had a run-in with RSP a few weeks ago I wasn’t aware of. She had taken a carton of juice and a cake from the stores.
And had found they were spoiled for 2 years, nevertheless she was called to the carpet for it.
At the luncheon there was something else, fresh food, fresh drinks, all bought that same morning. High quality, and DD said: That figures, when a church doesn’t need to build malls you can take care of the people.
Then DD talked about the most recent real-estate developments DW and I weren’t even aware of.... DD is quite the little apostate.
This is my report.
