The length some people go to
Posted: Sun Apr 27, 2025 5:30 pm
To maintain their denial.
We have a situation in which my daughter is forced to deal with her in laws. Well, OK, I’ll get to the situation AFTER I tell the funny story about the parents of my daughter in law (lesbian) and her sibling. But yes, several things going on with the situation and it may be three separate posts. But funny story first.So, my daughter’s in laws did not see the lesbian relationship when it was obvious. They believed the story about why there was only one bed, oh we work opposite shifts and just can’t afford a second bed (they could afford a king, but not two twins?) and then after they were told, they had a hissy fit and would not allow my daughter anywhere near their family because they were doing as Oaks said. They took 15 years to accept my daughter and the marriage. Grandma accepted it and welcomed E (my daughter) as the wife of her favorite granddaughter. So 20 years after E and wife are a couple, the younger brother decides he is trans. The three of them move in together and the neighbors know them as “the LGBT girls”. S the younger sibling has transitioned, boobs and all, but is tall, with a jet black beard, shaved very close, broad shoulders and deep voice. Her hair is past her ears and curled 1920 style. But She won’t pass as cis. But is obviously not male. S knew her parents would have a hissy fit when they found out she is trans, because she saw what they put E through. S will lose any acceptance from her parents when they figure it out. Well, because of the situation, S can no longer avoid her parents seeing her and is positive they will figure it out. But no. The mom pulls E aside and confides that she thinks the carnivore diet S is on (to control the hormonal weight gain) is “bad for her because she has grown pretty big “man boobs”. E did not correct them that, “no, her boobs are quite on purpose” and she just let them stay in their denial. Just how determined not to accept the obvious can some people be? It would be hilarious if it wasn’t also tragic. I choose the hilarious.
Now the situation. My daughter in law is dying of a congenital liver malformation. Any thoughts and prayers to whatever God you worship would be appreciated. They are pagan, but feel that they will take blessing from any God willing to send blessings. She is already in hospice, so only a handful of days left.
They say one should never have to bury their children, but people should not have to bury their children’s spouses either. And just two months ago my oldest daughter had her husband cremated. Cirrhosis of the liver due to self medicating the PTSD and remaining pain from injuries from the gulf war.
So, double crap.
More Mormon denial. This is a story about how not to be Mormon. After being told that J (my daughter’s wife) had decided to stop treatment for her liver failure, and having E explain to them that she had days to maybe a week to live and if they want to see her one last time they needed to get their butts across their state now, they came, just as we had to get back to Utah. My son was with E, J, and S when they first got there. J asked for a father’s blessing. She has been pagan since before she met my daughter, but it is still my daughter’s fault and her parents have expressed that if JCould just get away from E she would stop being lesbian and stop being pagan and be the good daughter they want. J felt it would giver her father a chance to express love in a way he is comfortable with. So, in the blessing he blesses her that she will “make a full recovery” And “go back to church.”
My son was livid. Talk about telling God what impossible miracle you would like against the free agency of others. J no longer wants all the medical intervention that it takes to keep her half alive. She hates the Mormon church. (Wonder why with parents like that. I just can’t understand why such a sweet girl would have hard feelings against Mormonism [end sarcasm]) This wasn’t just denial after having it explained. This was an attempt to force what he wanted onto his daughter against what she wanted, knowing it is not what she wants. But E and J just said if that is how he needs to cope, then it is all right with them.
After we explained to our son how E &J feel about people praying to their God and how if it comforts them, it doesn’t hurt anyone and offers comfort, so they are not offended, then he was alright with it all.
Me, I think the most Christian in the bunch are the two pagans.
We have a situation in which my daughter is forced to deal with her in laws. Well, OK, I’ll get to the situation AFTER I tell the funny story about the parents of my daughter in law (lesbian) and her sibling. But yes, several things going on with the situation and it may be three separate posts. But funny story first.So, my daughter’s in laws did not see the lesbian relationship when it was obvious. They believed the story about why there was only one bed, oh we work opposite shifts and just can’t afford a second bed (they could afford a king, but not two twins?) and then after they were told, they had a hissy fit and would not allow my daughter anywhere near their family because they were doing as Oaks said. They took 15 years to accept my daughter and the marriage. Grandma accepted it and welcomed E (my daughter) as the wife of her favorite granddaughter. So 20 years after E and wife are a couple, the younger brother decides he is trans. The three of them move in together and the neighbors know them as “the LGBT girls”. S the younger sibling has transitioned, boobs and all, but is tall, with a jet black beard, shaved very close, broad shoulders and deep voice. Her hair is past her ears and curled 1920 style. But She won’t pass as cis. But is obviously not male. S knew her parents would have a hissy fit when they found out she is trans, because she saw what they put E through. S will lose any acceptance from her parents when they figure it out. Well, because of the situation, S can no longer avoid her parents seeing her and is positive they will figure it out. But no. The mom pulls E aside and confides that she thinks the carnivore diet S is on (to control the hormonal weight gain) is “bad for her because she has grown pretty big “man boobs”. E did not correct them that, “no, her boobs are quite on purpose” and she just let them stay in their denial. Just how determined not to accept the obvious can some people be? It would be hilarious if it wasn’t also tragic. I choose the hilarious.
Now the situation. My daughter in law is dying of a congenital liver malformation. Any thoughts and prayers to whatever God you worship would be appreciated. They are pagan, but feel that they will take blessing from any God willing to send blessings. She is already in hospice, so only a handful of days left.
They say one should never have to bury their children, but people should not have to bury their children’s spouses either. And just two months ago my oldest daughter had her husband cremated. Cirrhosis of the liver due to self medicating the PTSD and remaining pain from injuries from the gulf war.
So, double crap.
More Mormon denial. This is a story about how not to be Mormon. After being told that J (my daughter’s wife) had decided to stop treatment for her liver failure, and having E explain to them that she had days to maybe a week to live and if they want to see her one last time they needed to get their butts across their state now, they came, just as we had to get back to Utah. My son was with E, J, and S when they first got there. J asked for a father’s blessing. She has been pagan since before she met my daughter, but it is still my daughter’s fault and her parents have expressed that if JCould just get away from E she would stop being lesbian and stop being pagan and be the good daughter they want. J felt it would giver her father a chance to express love in a way he is comfortable with. So, in the blessing he blesses her that she will “make a full recovery” And “go back to church.”
My son was livid. Talk about telling God what impossible miracle you would like against the free agency of others. J no longer wants all the medical intervention that it takes to keep her half alive. She hates the Mormon church. (Wonder why with parents like that. I just can’t understand why such a sweet girl would have hard feelings against Mormonism [end sarcasm]) This wasn’t just denial after having it explained. This was an attempt to force what he wanted onto his daughter against what she wanted, knowing it is not what she wants. But E and J just said if that is how he needs to cope, then it is all right with them.
After we explained to our son how E &J feel about people praying to their God and how if it comforts them, it doesn’t hurt anyone and offers comfort, so they are not offended, then he was alright with it all.
Me, I think the most Christian in the bunch are the two pagans.
