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by Deepthinker
Tue Aug 31, 2021 10:36 am
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion
Replies: 47
Views: 12146

Re: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion

It seems like she doesn’t know how to react authentically and is numb. She thinks the god said to stay and work on it answer will suffice. But nothing will change and you’ll find yourself at the same place emotionally. You deserve to be in a healthy loving relationship. Thanks RR, you're exactly ri...
by Deepthinker
Tue Aug 31, 2021 10:32 am
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion
Replies: 47
Views: 12146

Re: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion

I just feel myself continuing to detach from her emotionally. Our conversations end up being the same ones that go around in circles with no resolution. We both think so differently, that it's like we're trying to connect two communication cables together that aren't using the same protocols. I'm s...
by Deepthinker
Tue Aug 31, 2021 10:22 am
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion
Replies: 47
Views: 12146

Re: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion

Wow, that's a huge step. Thanks for the update. It sounds like the whole thing has been really hard, I'm sorry you are going through this. That's interesting how she was able to find revelation so quickly. She still wants to make the marriage "work"; is anything improving? Has she made any changes?...
by Deepthinker
Fri Aug 27, 2021 7:13 am
Forum: Support
Topic: You are not welcome
Replies: 18
Views: 1929

Re: You are not welcome

I'm sorry you had to experience that az. The church is all about bringing families together, unless you're not part of the "in group". People in the church say they want you to be there, that you're invited...but the real message is that you aren't invited, that you're unclean and we don't want you ...
by Deepthinker
Fri Aug 27, 2021 7:08 am
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion
Replies: 47
Views: 12146

Re: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion

A quick update. I hired an attorney several months ago and have divorce papers ready to file, which she knows about. I have been talking to her about divorce, talking about not wanting to go to litigation, but she wants to still make the marriage "work". We've been sleeping in separate rooms for a f...
by Deepthinker
Thu Aug 26, 2021 2:51 pm
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion
Replies: 47
Views: 12146

Re: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion

moksha wrote:
Mon Apr 26, 2021 5:32 am
Sorry to break in, but this TicTok couple were sharing some stuff that might be helpful:

https://www.tiktok.com/@challenge.faith ... _webapp=v1
Just seeing this now. Thanks moksha :).
by Deepthinker
Tue Mar 09, 2021 3:52 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Attending my Daughter's Temple Wedding?
Replies: 36
Views: 5124

Re: Attending my Daughter's Temple Wedding?

Congrats on the wedding DT! Glad you could participate. I’m 100% for the right of all parents to attend their children’s weddings regardless of belief or perceived worthiness in the Mormon church. As a missionary I recall the complaints about the temple I naively defended. It makes me shutter to th...
by Deepthinker
Tue Mar 09, 2021 3:49 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Attending my Daughter's Temple Wedding?
Replies: 36
Views: 5124

Re: Attending my Daughter's Temple Wedding?

I made it! I attended my daughter's temple wedding. I was one of the witnesses. I'm so glad I went! Yea! I'm glad you went and I'm really glad it seemed to have gone well. Very happy for you and of course for your daughter as well! Thanks! The video presentation I gave at the luncheon in honor of m...
by Deepthinker
Tue Mar 09, 2021 2:45 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Attending my Daughter's Temple Wedding?
Replies: 36
Views: 5124

Re: Attending my Daughter's Temple Wedding?

I made it! I attended my daughter's temple wedding. I was one of the witnesses.

I'm so glad I went!
by Deepthinker
Thu Jan 28, 2021 9:00 am
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion
Replies: 47
Views: 12146

Re: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion

So sorry you're going through this and that you're having to juggle all of it with a wedding coming up. I wish I had good words of advice, but the others are better than me for sure. If you ever need to vent, feel free to message anytime. Thank you! I've confided in two of my brothers now about pla...
by Deepthinker
Fri Jan 22, 2021 1:17 pm
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion
Replies: 47
Views: 12146

Re: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion

I am making some plans toward divorce after my daughter's wedding. I'm sure that was a hard decision to come to, but from what you have posted you have clearly done all that could be reasonably asked of you. I wish you luck as you navigate the rapids ahead and hopefully you come out the other side ...
by Deepthinker
Fri Jan 22, 2021 1:16 pm
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion
Replies: 47
Views: 12146

Re: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion

Well, that's a bit more information. My best to you and your kids as you navigate whatever you do next. Just wanted to say thank you. For your kind words and caring. You did help solidify things about my marriage, from your questions and pushing me to evaluate my marriage harder. I am making some p...
by Deepthinker
Tue Jan 19, 2021 2:37 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Status updates?
Replies: 16
Views: 2428

Re: Status updates?

Our ward is making in-person Sacrament meeting optional. The church service portion (minus Sacrament) is broadcast for ward members to watch from home. They've asked that half the ward go one week, the other half attend the other week to reduce the number of people at church (split it by last name a...
by Deepthinker
Tue Jan 19, 2021 2:32 pm
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Cognitive dissonance
Replies: 2
Views: 1337

Re: Cognitive dissonance

It is hard to know for sure what is going on with someone. My wife is similar, sometimes says she hates going to church but still goes. For her, I think there are many things going on. She's committed to attending because of family, the comfortable nature of doing what you've always done your entire...
by Deepthinker
Tue Jan 19, 2021 2:20 pm
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion
Replies: 47
Views: 12146

Re: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion

Well, that's a bit more information. My best to you and your kids as you navigate whatever you do next. Just wanted to say thank you. For your kind words and caring. You did help solidify things about my marriage, from your questions and pushing me to evaluate my marriage harder. I am making some p...
by Deepthinker
Fri Jan 08, 2021 9:54 am
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion
Replies: 47
Views: 12146

Re: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion

Call me and optimist but I think, based on what I've read about your situation, that your marriage is salvageable and that bliss is possible. Of course, I'm like one blind man touching an elephant. I only have a small picture and only the small picture you've opened up. Still, there are a few thing...
by Deepthinker
Thu Jan 07, 2021 3:50 pm
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion
Replies: 47
Views: 12146

Re: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion

I read through Cnsl1’s post just because it was new, then glanced back to the original post and between the two, it triggered a thought. I think Cnsl1 is correct that your wife doesn’t know how to help you feel supported emotionally. Then I saw when you talked about being suicidal. Yup, that is an ...
by Deepthinker
Thu Jan 07, 2021 3:48 pm
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion
Replies: 47
Views: 12146

Re: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion

The advice in this thread has been wonderful to read and has helped me reflect on my relationship. DT, it’s never easy to be pleasy. At some point you’ll know the right decision for you. That decision will bring both relief and heartache. I’ve watched a brother and a few friends go through a divorc...
by Deepthinker
Wed Jan 06, 2021 1:56 pm
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion
Replies: 47
Views: 12146

Re: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion

I read through Cnsl1’s post just because it was new, then glanced back to the original post and between the two, it triggered a thought. I think Cnsl1 is correct that your wife doesn’t know how to help you feel supported emotionally. Then I saw when you talked about being suicidal. Yup, that is an ...
by Deepthinker
Wed Jan 06, 2021 1:54 pm
Forum: Mixed Faith Relationships
Topic: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion
Replies: 47
Views: 12146

Re: Mental and Emotional Exhaustion

I feel for you, deepthinker, and hope things work out. I think you've been given some good advice, and I'll just add a little based on experience, research, and training. Understand that all we have to go on is one side, and just bits and pieces of that side. Something that gives me hope for your m...