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by whatififly
Wed Jul 18, 2018 6:29 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Is it just me or are Returned missionaries much more intense?
Replies: 20
Views: 1496

Re: Is it just me or are Returned missionaries much more intense?

There is a strange speaking pentameter that returned missionaries all seem to have. It's not quite the same as the primary pentameter female speakers in conference use, it's more fast pitch sales-person like. It's the inflection at the end of each sentence. The last word always seems to end on a hi...
by whatififly
Sun Jul 01, 2018 1:06 pm
Forum: Gatherings, Events, and Announcements
Topic: Friend Near e
Replies: 18
Views: 1770

Re: Friend Near e

wtfluff wrote:
Tue May 29, 2018 12:18 pm
Have you tried mormonspectrum, or are you just interested in meeting folks from "NOM"?

There's a pretty active group who meets in Davis County if that's not too far to travel...
I haven't heard of the group that meets in Davis County. Where can I get more info on this?
by whatififly
Sat Jun 30, 2018 12:28 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Friendship
Replies: 11
Views: 802

Re: Friendship

I had a recent experience similar to Lithium Sunset's. A "friend" from the ward must have been asked to reach out and so left a bag of cookies on my porch with a gushy note about how much she misses seeing us. This woman has never been been friendly with me at church. Sent her message and pointed ou...
by whatififly
Sat Jun 30, 2018 12:19 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Friendship
Replies: 11
Views: 802

Re: Friendship

Not Buying It wrote:
Sat Jun 30, 2018 10:32 am
I would echo the sentiments of others who have suggested you emphasize that true friendship weathers changes in religious beliefs. It’s been my experience not every Mormon gets that.
This is.my experience for sure.
by whatififly
Sat Jun 30, 2018 8:04 am
Forum: Support
Topic: Friendship
Replies: 11
Views: 802

Re: Friendship

Wasn't Fanny Alger friendly with Emma until, you know...? Or tell a story about a friend you were really concerned about when they left the church, but you've still got a good relationship with them and can see how happy they are. This is a great idea. Be sure to emphasize how you can see how their...
by whatififly
Sat Jun 23, 2018 3:34 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Update abt TBM in laws in my ward
Replies: 6
Views: 652

Update abt TBM in laws in my ward

I posted awhile ago about having my ultra-TBM in-laws living in my ward. DH and I still haven't verbally outed ourselves to them but we also haven't attended church in months now. MIL has noticed and is getting angry. She verbally attacked me at a family dinner and told me that I needed to be doing ...
by whatififly
Sat Jun 23, 2018 3:24 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Girls Camp
Replies: 16
Views: 1166

Re: Girls Camp

I understand why you are upset, but try not to despair! I went to girl's camp all the years but one and while I did feel "the spirit" there, it was more about being in nature with close friends. There was a sense of unity there that I didn't normally feel with the girls in my ward. Hopefully your da...
by whatififly
Sat Jun 23, 2018 3:11 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Prayer to the ocean
Replies: 25
Views: 1497

Re: Prayer to the ocean

This is absolutely beautiful, Merrie Miss. I read it this morning and have been thinking about it all day. I haven't spent much time at the ocean, but I love how I feel in the mountains or when looking up at the stars. When I go hiking, I begin to feel like I am part of something bigger than myself....
by whatififly
Sat Jun 23, 2018 3:07 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Beliefs influencing major life decisions
Replies: 18
Views: 1159

Re: Beliefs influencing major life decisions

The big thing for me in hindsight, is that instead of me working and putting my education on hold and spouseman going through graduate school, whilst being pregnant and miserable, is we could have gone together. I would be 10 years farther in my career, and the career path I really wanted would hav...
by whatififly
Sat Jun 23, 2018 3:02 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Beliefs influencing major life decisions
Replies: 18
Views: 1159

Re: Beliefs influencing major life decisions

Like a lot of other women who posted here, I feel like a lot of choices were made for me, without any real consideration because I was raised Mormon. I wanted to get an education, but I never really knew what I would do with it. I wanted to get married, but I was ambivalent about children. I wanted...
by whatififly
Sat Jun 23, 2018 2:55 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Beliefs influencing major life decisions
Replies: 18
Views: 1159

Re: Beliefs influencing major life decisions

Sorry that happens to you. There are plenty of people who judge too much within Mormonism. I was in the EQP if you only knew how they talked about people who they had to pay fast offerings for stuff for it would shock you. Trust me there are real Christians in the world and we love you! It's infuri...
by whatififly
Fri Jun 15, 2018 3:43 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Gaslighting and Creepy Worthiness Interviews
Replies: 19
Views: 1174

Re: Gaslighting and Creepy Worthiness Interviews

Those interviews are a disgusting part of the LDS church. My story is on the Protect the Children website. I was never asked if I masturbated (I think that my leaders assumed that it's something only men do and I was far too terrified to confess anything like that, something I'm glad about now!) but...
by whatififly
Sun May 27, 2018 9:36 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Faith Crisis and Depression
Replies: 15
Views: 1373

Re: Faith Crisis and Depression

A few things I've done that help (not solve it, but do make things more uplifting, pleasant, small joys and ways to get through the hard times) Painted the walls. It seems stupid, and I never would have believed it, but my mood lifted entirely once I painted the halls/living space another color sel...
by whatififly
Sun May 27, 2018 9:32 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Faith Crisis and Depression
Replies: 15
Views: 1373

Re: Faith Crisis and Depression

I had depression prior to my faith crisis, and in some ways my faith crisis has actually helped lessen my depression. I no longer feel held to a rigid box of LDS standards that I could never quite meet. However, the beginnings of my faith crisis were absolutely brutal. I would experience bouts of te...
by whatififly
Sun May 27, 2018 9:19 pm
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Hello, I’m new
Replies: 36
Views: 2034

Re: Hello, I’m new

Welcome! My story is very similar to yours. I also felt emotional and unhappy after attending church, then later found disgusting and disturbing information about the church that I once was so unbendingly loyal to. I'm glad you're here, I hope that it can give you a place to vent and talk about your...
by whatififly
Sun May 27, 2018 9:14 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Mom is in the hospital today
Replies: 29
Views: 1380

Re: Mom is in the hospital today

I have been thinking of you and your situation a lot. I really feel for you and hope that your mom is doing better. It really is not your fault that she is struggling, but I understand so well how it could feel like it is. The position that we are left in with our families is so painful and so diffi...
by whatififly
Sun May 27, 2018 9:09 pm
Forum: Support
Topic: Beliefs influencing major life decisions
Replies: 18
Views: 1159

Beliefs influencing major life decisions

Lately I've been thinking about the direction my life would have gone had I not been raised LDS. I can't bring myself to regret much except the unnecessary guilt and shame, because everything I have done has helped shape who I am today. That being said, I can't help but contemplate how much my path ...
by whatififly
Thu May 24, 2018 9:53 pm
Forum: Gatherings, Events, and Announcements
Topic: Friend Near e
Replies: 18
Views: 1770

Re: Friend Near e

I wish I could. I'm a bit farther south, in Centerville. If you ever head this way I would love to meet!
by whatififly
Wed May 16, 2018 6:32 pm
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: Making sense of "spiritual" experiences
Replies: 17
Views: 981

Re: Making sense of "spiritual" experiences

Going to throw my hat in the ring here... I had a very similar experience as a teenager, it was related to the concept of mercy & acceptance from Christ. It was overwhelming and unexplainable, to me at the time. For this reason, even though I still no longer claim to know the true nature of God or ...
by whatififly
Wed May 16, 2018 6:26 pm
Forum: Doctrinal Discussion
Topic: Making sense of "spiritual" experiences
Replies: 17
Views: 981

Re: Making sense of "spiritual" experiences

It’s ok to accept that you had a spiritual experience. You were raised Mormon and that was the framework you had to work with. It’s another leap to say that it gave you a sure testimony that “it’s all true” (as we are taught to believe). You had unexplainable positive feelings, but I view that as a...