I have passed the garment hurdle

Discussions about negotiating relationships between faithful LDS believers and the apostates who love them. This applies in particular to mixed-faith marriages, but relations with children, parents, siblings, friends, and ward members is very welcome.
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I have passed the garment hurdle

Post by FiveFingerMnemonic » Tue Mar 31, 2020 4:29 pm

Because of home church bringing up some uncomfortable discussion content, I took the opportunity to have a crucial conversation regarding garment wear and it actually facilitated a less emotionally charged transition than if I had just stopped wearing them without discussion.

So far I'm on 2 days and 2 nights without and no tears shed.

My wife told me she knows mine are in terrible shape and she acknowledged the long amount of time I have been without a recommend and knew it was an issue. I told her how I couldn't bear buying new ones from the church given my change in belief.

It worked out better than I could have imagined. Of course she is still sad about it but I think open conversation mitigated some of the stress for both of us.

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Re: I have passed the garment hurdle

Post by RubinHighlander » Tue Mar 31, 2020 5:19 pm

Woot! Digital high five! Congrats!
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Re: I have passed the garment hurdle

Post by jfro18 » Wed Apr 01, 2020 11:23 am

Congrats... it's a huge bandaid to rip off, but I think you did it in a much better way than just trying to not wear them around.

When I went back to normal underwear, it was such a weight off of me. It did make me resent the church for making my wife wearing them more as they are possibly the least attractive underwear and shirts ever created, but it is what it is.

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Re: I have passed the garment hurdle

Post by Red Ryder » Wed Apr 01, 2020 5:37 pm


Now go and get Five Finger Eve to partake!
Those who do not move do not notice their chains. —Rosa Luxemburg

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